Load-In & Load-Out: Are You Carrying Too Much? | Trauma Rock Stars™

"You're On Your Own" — Firefighter Survives 18 Years of Betrayal, Bullying & Trauma | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Female firefighter bullying, workplace trauma, and PTSD recovery — this episode covers it all. Lynette was the first and only woman ever hired at her fire department, and on her very first day as a career firefighter, a captain pulled her into a room and told her: "If you ever get into trouble — we're not coming to save you." She carried that secret for over a decade, walking into burning buildings never knowing if her team would have her back. In this powerful episode, retired firefighter, trauma coach, and author of You're On Your Own, Lynette opens up about 18 years of workplace bullying, misogyny, and betrayal — and how she finally broke the cycle, found her voice, and rebuilt her life from the inside out. 🧠 In This Episode You'll Learn: * How hypnotherapy completely transformed her trauma healing journey (and what happened in session TWO) * Why trauma can be caused by betrayal — not just crisis * How a childhood pattern of abuse showed up in every area of her life * What post-traumatic growth actually looks like * Why talk therapy wasn't enough — and what finally worked * The moment she handed in her early retirement and said two words: "Plot twist." 💡 Key Takeaway: You are replaceable at your job. You are not replaceable in your own life. Choose yourself — even when it's terrifying. That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. 💬 Drop "PLOT TWIST" in the comments if this episode hit home for you! That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎙️ Connect with Lynette: 📖 Book — You're On Your Own: https://a.co/d/0frzuxt4 [https://a.co/d/0frzuxt4] 📲 Instagram: @FireWithinCrisisServices 🌐 Website: https://firewithincrisisservices.com [https://firewithincrisisservices.com] 🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™:  ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars [https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars]  📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars [https://instagram.com/traumarockstars]  📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars [https://facebook.com/traumarockstars]  🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars [https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars]  💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino]  🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars [https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars]  🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com [https://traumarockstars.com] 💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars [https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars] 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new] 00:00 — Introduction: Meet Lynette  01:45 — From Hairstylist to Firefighter — How It All Began  04:00 — Fire School: The Camaraderie She Thought She'd Have  05:30 — Fighting to Volunteer: They Made It Clear She Wasn't Wanted  07:00 — The Chief Who Had Her Back  08:45 — Her First Day on the Job — The Threat That Changed Everything  11:30 — Living With Fear: A Decade of Silent Pep Talks  14:00 — Small Town, Big Secrets: The Weight She Carried  16:30 — The Breaking Point — Reconnecting with Her Feminine Side  18:00 — The Counselor Who Said: "That's Abuse."  19:30 — Childhood Trauma, Abusive Relationships & the Pattern She Finally Saw 22:00 — "I Didn't Cry for Nine Years" — Stuffing It All Down  24:00 — The Aha Moment: "Plot Twist." — Her Early Retirement  25:30 — Fighting the Union That Was Supposed to Protect Her  27:00 — Writing It All Down: Thousands of Pages, One Book  28:30 — What Led Her to Hypnotherapy  31:00 — Session Two: The Absolute Rodeo That Changed Her Life  33:30 — Past Life Regression: The Castle, the Clay Hut & Standing Up  35:30 — The Moment the Fear Left Her Body  37:00 — What Hypnotherapy Is Really Like (Not What You Think)  39:00 — The Book: You're On Your Own  41:00 — Post-Traumatic Growth & Why PTSD Is Not a Life Sentence  43:30 — The Chief Who Believed in Her — Where He Is Now  45:00 — Finding Her Voice at the End of Her Career  47:00 — What She Does Now: Trauma Coaching & Crisis Services  50:00 — Advice for Anyone Stuck in a Cycle of Suffering  52:30 — Choosing Yourself — Even When It's Terrifying  57:00 — How to Find Lynette & the Phoenix Society women in firefighting, trauma healing, PTSD recovery, workplace bullying, first responder mental health, toxic workplace, hypnotherapy, post-traumatic growth, female firefighter, trauma coach, women empowerment, healing journey, mental health podcast, first responder trauma, abuse survivor, trauma recovery, firefighter mental health, memoir, rock star resilience, Tracy Smaldino  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

Load-In & Load-Out: Are You Carrying Too Much? | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] Are you carrying too much? In this solo episode, Tracy introduces the Load-In & Load-Out framework — a life audit for your energy, boundaries, and everything you're carrying. Just like a concert crew loads in and loads out, we need to review what is coming in and going out emotionally, physically, and mentally. Are you overextending yourself? This episode gives you baby steps to start auditing your energy today. In this episode: - What Load-In & Load-Out really means for your healing journey - The 3 lanes of load-in — emotional, physical, and mental - Why overextension is often a trauma response dressed up as strength - What load-out actually looks like and why skipping it costs you - Baby steps to start this week Chapters:  0:00 — Introduction & the concert metaphor 1:30 — What Load-In & Load-Out actually means 6:00 — The load-in audit: what are you carrying? 14:00 — Are you overextended? 20:00 — What load-out really looks like 27:00 — Baby steps to start today 33:00 — Life Audit™ quiz & closing 🎸 Take the free Life Audit™ at traumarockstars.com — 5 minutes and It shows you exactly where your stage is overloaded. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ SUPPORT THE SHOW 🖤 ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ ☕ buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars 🎙️ buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ CONNECT WITH TRACY ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🌐 traumarockstars.com 📧 podcast@traumarockstars.com 🔗 linktr.ee/traumarockstars 📱 TikTok: @traumarockstars 🍎 Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/trauma-rock-stars/id1835876659 🎵 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/3j8Zoy3p3Mair20q0AQbW2 ▶️ YouTube: youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars 🎧 Amazon Music: music.amazon.com/podcasts/219f576b-698b-4678-b154-46370dac8617 🎙️ All Platforms: buzzsprout.com/2526063 Real Stories. Raw Truths. Rock Star Resilience™. 🎸 Trauma Rock Stars™ — hosted by Tracy Smaldino, Keynote Speaker · Host · Author trauma healing, boundaries, life audit, energy management, trauma recovery, mental health, solo episode, people pleasing, self care, nervous system, trauma survivor, healing journey, load-in load-out, overextension, emotional health, personal growth Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

Bullied by Women in a Bills Mafia Group — Trauma Nurse Heidi's Story | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] When trauma nurse Heidi posted a fun photo in a Bills Mafia women's group, she never expected what came next — anonymous attacks, body shaming, and a wave of cruelty from women who should have been cheering her on. 💙 In this raw and powerful episode of Trauma Rock Stars™, host Tracy sits down with Heidi to talk about adult bullying on social media, body image, the courage it takes to show up anyway — and why anonymous cruelty says everything about the bully and nothing about you. Whether you've been bullied online, watched it happen to someone else, or maybe even been guilty of a snarky comment yourself — this episode is for YOU. Go Bills. Be a buddy, not a bully. 🏈 🧠 In This Episode You'll Learn: * Why adult bullying on social media is more damaging than people admit * How anonymous cruelty reflects the bully — not the victim * What 15 years as a trauma nurse taught Heidi about the power of words * How to handle online attacks with grace and strength * Why we need to teach the next generation to be upstanders — not bystanders 💡 Key Takeaways: Anonymous cruelty says everything about the person posting it — and nothing about you. Your healing is worth protecting. 💙 0:00 — Welcome & Intro — How Heidi Became a Bills Fan 2:21 — What Prompted This Episode — The Post That Started It All 5:00 — The Photo, the Boudoir Shoot & the Backlash 8:00 — Anonymous Bullying — Why It's Still Bullying 11:44 — Trauma, Grace & Why Words Can Devastate 13:47 — Just Keep Scrolling — Don't Yuck Someone's Yum 16:08 — Supporting Small Businesses & Local Love 18:26 — Adult Bullying — We're Not in High School Anymore 20:35 — Heidi Fights Back — Why She Reposted 22:31 — Body Image, Burns & Building Confidence 24:41 — How to Handle It Constructively 26:44 — Teaching the Next Generation to Be Upstanders 29:00 — Protecting Kids from Social Media Bullying 31:14 — What's Going On Inside You Is What You Put Out 33:25 — 15 Years in Trauma — How Heidi Copes 35:50 — Relationship Goals — 18 Years & Still Newlyweds 39:30 — The Bills Game Experience in Buffalo 41:30 — Buffalo Food Tour — Wings, Ted's, Duff's & Wegmans 47:25 — Decompressing After Trauma Nursing Shifts 50:00 — A Message of Gratitude to Healthcare Workers 52:16 — Final Thoughts — Find Your Happiness & Be a Buddy 🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. 💬 Drop "BUDDY" in the comments if you stand against online bullying! That's Rock Star Resilience™ 🎙️ Connect with Heidi: 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heidi.kleinwillis [https://www.facebook.com/heidi.kleinwillis] 🛍️ Bills Gear by Abigail Lee: https://byabigaillee.com/ [https://byabigaillee.com/] 🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars [https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars] 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars [https://instagram.com/traumarockstars] 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars [https://facebook.com/traumarockstars] 🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars [https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars] 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino] 🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars [https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars] 🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com [https://traumarockstars.com] 💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars [https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars] 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new] Bills Mafia bullying, adult bullying, online bullying, body shaming, social media bullying, women bullying women, cyberbullying, Buffalo Bills, trauma nurse, body image, anonymous bullying, women empowerment, trauma healing, mental health, be a buddy not a bully, trauma rock stars, rock star resilience, Tracy Smaldino, Heidi trauma nurse, upstanders  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

From Broken to Gold: One Woman’s Raw Journey Through PTSD

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] A mental health advocate shares her real journey through complex PTSD and trauma after multiple traumatic events working in the prison system. The discussion covers dissociation, trauma stored in the body, phantom pain, journaling for healing, alternative therapies, triggers, intuition, and the role of community in recovery. Key topics include: • Complex PTSD and cumulative trauma • Dissociation and trauma symptoms • Trauma stored in the body and phantom pain • Journaling and using both sides of the brain for healing • Triggers as signals for healing • Alternative therapies and recovery tools • Community vs. individual healing approaches • Turning trauma into purpose through writing Chapters / Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to Nikki and her trauma journey 00:45 Working in prisons and repeated traumatic events 02:00 The stabbing incident that changed everything 04:30 Dissociation and early PTSD symptoms 06:30 Leaving work and beginning treatment 08:00 Physical trauma and phantom pain explained 11:00 Trauma stored in the body 12:40 Kintsugi metaphor for healing trauma 14:00 Trauma talk and losing the ability to speak 15:20 How journaling started the healing process 18:00 Why handwriting helps trauma recovery 20:00 Life after medication and alternative therapies 22:30 Microdosing, medical marijuana, and healing paths 23:40 Listening to intuition during healing 26:00 Understanding the brain and removing shame 27:30 Learning to lean into triggers 29:30 Writing the book and finding purpose 32:00 Cultural perspectives on trauma and healing 35:00 Community healing vs Western approaches 36:00 Finding support and connection 🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. traumarockstars.com | linktr.ee/traumarockstars That's Rock Star Resilience™ Get in touch with Nikki:  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nicoleeverettauthor/posts/10234447950639761/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sheismental_ptsd/ Website - https://sheismental.com.au/ Blog: https://sheismental.com.au/blog Connect with Trauma Rock Stars: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-smaldino-484b373b1/ ▶️ Subscribe to our YouTube Channel: `https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars`  📸 Instagram: `https://instagram.com/traumarockstars`  📘 Facebook: `https://facebook.com/traumarockstars`  🌐 TikTok: `https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars` 💌 Email: podcast@traumarockstars.com Ways to support: buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new PTSD recovery, complex PTSD, trauma healing, journaling for trauma, trauma stored in the body, dissociation trauma, healing after trauma, mental health podcast, trauma triggers, trauma therapy, phantom pain trauma, trauma and intuition, trauma recovery tools, trauma survivor story, healing journey podcast  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]

How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt (Your Nervous System Knows the Truth) | Trauma Rock Stars™

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/fan_mail/new] 🎸 Have you ever felt completely drained just from being around certain people — even though nothing "bad" happened? That's not in your head. That's your nervous system sending you a signal. 🌊 In this episode, Tracy breaks down how to do a full Life Audit™ for your emotional and mental health — using your nervous system as your guide — and how to set boundaries that actually protect your peace without guilt. If you've been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like something just feels off — this one is for YOU. 🧠 In This Episode You'll Learn: * What a Life Audit™ is and why NOW is the perfect time to do one * How to read your nervous system's signals about safety vs. stress * A simple writing exercise to identify who drains you vs. who energizes you * Why boundaries are NOT punishment — and what they actually mean * How to spring clean your emotional world and create space for healing  💡 Key Takeaway: Your body already knows the answers. Learning to listen to your nervous system is the first step to setting boundaries that actually protect your peace — without guilt.  🎸 Take the FREE Trauma Rock Stars™ Life Audit™: 👉 https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw [https://form.typeform.com/to/qeZfPouw] Find out exactly where you are on your healing journey in less than 5 minutes. Your personalized Rock Star 30™ guide is waiting for you on the other side. 💬 Drop "AUDIT" in the comments if you're ready to do your emotional spring cleaning!  That's Rock Star Resilience™  🎙️ Listen & Connect with Trauma Rock Stars™: ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars [https://www.youtube.com/@TraumaRockStars] 📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/traumarockstars [https://instagram.com/traumarockstars] 📘 Facebook: https://facebook.com/traumarockstars [https://facebook.com/traumarockstars] 🌐 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars [https://tiktok.com/@traumarockstars] 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracysmaldino] 🔗 Linktree: https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars [https://linktr.ee/traumarockstars] 🌐 Website: https://traumarockstars.com [https://traumarockstars.com] 💛 Ways to Support Trauma Rock Stars™: ☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars [https://buymeacoffee.com/traumarockstars] 🤝 Become a Supporter: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/supporters/new] 🕐 CHAPTERS: 00:00 — Introduction & Hook 00:45 — Why Spring Is Life Audit™ Season 02:00 — How to Read Your Nervous System's Signals 03:30 — The "Key People" Writing Exercise 04:45 — What Boundaries Actually Mean 05:45 — Spring Cleaning Your Emotional World 06:30 — Take the Life Audit™ Quiz + Closing  how to set boundaries without guilt, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, PTSD recovery, mental health, boundary setting, emotional healing, trauma survivors, healing journey, trauma informed, life audit, emotional well-being, spring cleaning, mental health podcast, USA podcast, rock star resilience, trauma recovery, childhood trauma, sobriety stories, Tracy Smaldino  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2526063/support]