Two Peas on a Pod

Office Ours: The Power Pause (with Neha Ruch)

What if stepping back was actually your next big step forward? Neha Ruch is an author, researcher, and the founder of The Power Pause, a movement that is quietly dismantling one of the most outdated stories we tell about ambition: that if you slow down, you're falling behind.  On this episode of Office Ours, Dr. Miriam sits down with Neha to unpack what it really means to take a pause and to discuss why one in three women feel forced into one, why our networks don't have to dry up when we do, and what our friendships have to do with all of it. They get into the myths we've inherited about worth and work, the complicated identity shifts that can come with motherhood, the judgment that shows up (even from the people who love us most), and the quiet power of asking "what are you up to today?" instead of "what do you do?" Neha shares what it took to separate her self-belief from everyone else's opinions, why the friendships that survive a power pause are built on one thing above all else, and her honest take on the messy, beautiful friendships she's lost and repaired along the way. This one is for anyone who's ever felt like rest was something to apologize for. Pull up a chair. Office hours are in session.  -- Follow your new friend: * @neha_ruch [https://www.instagram.com/neha_ruch/] Your friendship questions deserve answers.  Reach out at hello@thetwopeasonapod.com, on social media or, pick up the phone and call or text with your friendship story or questions at 615-PODLINE (That's 615-763-5463). Stay in touch with us: * @twopeasonapod [https://www.instagram.com/thetwopeasonapod/] * @miriamkirmayer [https://www.instagram.com/miriamkirmayer/] * www.miriamkirmayer.com [http://www.miriamkirmayer.com/] -- Two Peas on a Pod is hosted by Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Executive produced by Zoe Travis, Matthew Hoffman, Katya Kaminsky, and Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Produced and edited by Podcast Nation (Producers: Madison Brit and Alesha Pannier, Audio Engineer: Miles Carter). Original music by Sarah Walk. Created by Zoe Travis and Matthew Hoffman. Two Peas on a Pod is recorded in Montreal and Los Angeles. Cover photo by Katya Kaminsky  Today's show contains information that is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This program is not a substitute for psychological or medical advice. Please seek out your own support and research as needed. Take care, friends. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Tabitha Brown & Nic Few: How Friends Become Family

What happens when a director tells you you're falling flat, and you become inseparable anyway? That's the story of Tabitha Brown and Nic Few, and it's one for the books.  Tab is the internet's best friend: two-time Emmy Award-winning TV host, bestselling author, and warm voice millions turn to every day. Nic is an NAACP Award-winning actor, producer, and storyteller. Together, they co-created the Emmy Award-winning Tab Time, but before any of that, there was a theater rehearsal in 2013 where a stumble turned into the beginning of a forever friendship.  Dr. Miriam sits down with two people who have built something rare: a chosen family. Tabitha and Nic talk about the micro-rituals that hold them together, why laughter isn't just their glue, it's genuinely healing, and how a "yes and" relationship makes room for hard conversations without letting things fester. They share what it means to truly see someone, their Friendship PSAs for building close relationships as adults, and what's inside the gift box when you unwrap a friendship like theirs.  Pull up a chair. This one will make you want to call your person.  -- Follow your new friends: * @iamtabithabrown [https://www.instagram.com/iamtabithabrown/] * @nicfew [https://www.instagram.com/nicfew/] Your friendship questions deserve answers.  Reach out at hello@thetwopeasonapod.com, on social media or, pick up the phone and call or text with your friendship story or questions at 615-PODLINE (That's 615-763-5463). Stay in touch with us: * @twopeasonapod [https://www.instagram.com/thetwopeasonapod/] * @miriamkirmayer [https://www.instagram.com/miriamkirmayer/] * www.miriamkirmayer.com [http://www.miriamkirmayer.com/] -- Two Peas on a Pod is hosted by Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Executive produced by Zoe Travis, Matthew Hoffman, Katya Kaminsky, and Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Produced and edited by Podcast Nation (Producers: Madison Brit and Alesha Pannier, Audio Engineer: Miles Carter). Original music by Sarah Walk. Created by Zoe Travis and Matthew Hoffman. Two Peas on a Pod is recorded in Montreal and Los Angeles. Cover photo by Katya Kaminsky  Today's show contains information that is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This program is not a substitute for psychological or medical advice. Please seek out your own support and research as needed. Take care, friends. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

It's Time to Rethink Your Friendships

Here's a secret nobody's talking about: you're probably undervaluing your friendships. And it's not your fault. Dr. Miriam Kirmayer is a clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on adult friendship. She's spent two decades trying to understand why friendship is our most valuable and most overlooked relationship. In this very first episode, she's making her opening argument. She calls it the friendship paradox. The reality that friendship shapes your mental health, your physical health, your confidence, your sense of self and yet it's still the first thing we let go when life gets busy. Dr. Miriam gets into what we'd do differently if we truly felt that truth: have the hard conversation we've been avoiding, let go of the friendship we've been ambivalent about for years, or finally admit that what we've been calling "busy" might actually be loneliness. She breaks down the five ways friendship is unlike any other relationship in your life, why friendship therapy is something we need to be talking about, and  what we get wrong about loneliness. She also shares the origin story behind it all: a Spice Girls cover band, a group called Call U L8R, and what it taught her about the moment we go from treating connection like a promise to treating it like a platitude. So, pull up a chair. This is the beginning of a beautiful friendship. -- Your friendship questions deserve answers.  Reach out at hello@thetwopeasonapod.com, on social media or, pick up the phone and call or text with your friendship story or questions at 615-PODLINE (That's 615-763-5463). Stay in touch with us: * @twopeasonapod [https://www.instagram.com/thetwopeasonapod/] * @miriamkirmayer [https://www.instagram.com/miriamkirmayer/] * www.miriamkirmayer.com [http://www.miriamkirmayer.com/] -- Two Peas on a Pod is hosted by Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Executive produced by Zoe Travis, Matthew Hoffman, Katya Kaminsky, and Dr. Miriam Kirmayer. Produced and edited by Podcast Nation (Producers: Madison Brit and Alesha Pannier, Audio Engineer: Miles Carter). Original music by Sarah Walk. Created by Zoe Travis and Matthew Hoffman. Two Peas on a Pod is recorded in Montreal and Los Angeles. Cover photo by Katya Kaminsky  Today's show contains information that is for educational and entertainment purposes only. This program is not a substitute for psychological or medical advice. Please seek out your own support and research as needed. Take care, friends. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Introducing 'Two Peas on a Pod'

Your friendships called...they want your attention.   Two Peas on a Pod is hosted by Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, clinical psychologist and one of the world's leading experts on adult friendship, and it's the podcast that finally takes your closest relationships as seriously as you do. Each week, Dr. Miriam takes you inside the many layers of friendship, through real conversations with best friends, expert perspectives, and deep dives into the questions we don’t always know how to ask. From conflict and change to closeness and growth, each episode offers insight and practical tools to help you show up more intentionally in your relationships. Thoughtful, curious, and revealing, Two Peas on a Pod explores the stories, science, and secrets behind how we connect, and what it really takes to feel close to the people who matter most. So pull up a chair, friend. We saved you a seat. Produced by Podcast Nation. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].