The Business Beliefs I Do Not Subscribe To Anymore: #5 The Hard Worker Identity

Ask Ryann: Do I Need Pressure to Succeed?

Welcome back to Ask Ryann. In this episode, Ryann and Sarah Buehner tackle one of the biggest fears high-achieving women have: What if pressure is the reason I've been successful? For women who built their careers, businesses, and lives through urgency, responsibility, and survival mode, the idea of creating from alignment can feel unrealistic—or even dangerous. In this episode, we unpack: * Why pressure can create results but isn't the same thing as sustainable success * The difference between ambition and survival mode * Why so many women mistrust ease, flow, and alignment * What the Energy Game actually means in real life * Why action still matters * The difference between clean action and chronic depletion * How identity shapes your experience of work, success, and achievement We also explore the question many business owners quietly ask: "How do I trust this work when I still have clients, deadlines, responsibilities, and a real life to manage?" This conversation is really about one thing: Learning that pressure is not the only fuel source available to you. Because the goal isn't less ambition.The goal is creating what you want without believing you have to suffer for it. If you have a question you'd like us to unpack on a future episode of Ask Ryann, send it our way. Because chances are... it's not the thing you think it is. Connect with me here: TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillenofficial⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanngillenofficial] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/ryanngillen] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/ryanngillen] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@RyannGillenofficial [https://www.youtube.com/@RyannGillenofficial]

The Business Beliefs I Do Not Subscribe To Anymore: #5 The Hard Worker Identity

The Hard Worker Identity Most high-achieving women have built their identity around being the hardest worker in the room. Doing more. Holding more. Pushing harder. Being willing to do what other people won't do. And for a long time, that identity creates results. It creates money. Clients. Opportunities. Success. Which is exactly why it becomes so difficult to question. This episode is Part 5 of The Business Beliefs I Do Not Subscribe To Anymore. A series breaking down the beliefs that helped me build success, but also quietly made my business feel heavy. Because one of the hardest beliefs I've ever had to unravel was the belief that effort was creating my results. Not because it was true. Because it worked. Or at least it looked like it did. In this episode: • Why the hard worker identity becomes so deeply ingrained • The difference between effort and creation • Why action gets far more attention than it deserves • How identity, thoughts, feelings, and actions work together to create results • The hidden cost of overworking and over-proving • Why so many successful women struggle to relax • The shift from effort-based success to aligned success • What happens when you stop tying your value to how hard you work The line that will stay with you: "The amount of hard work I put in has nothing to do with my value." This episode is an invitation to question one of the most celebrated identities in our culture. Because maybe the goal isn't to work harder. Maybe the goal is to create differently. Connect with me here: TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillenofficial⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanngillenofficial] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/ryangillen] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/ryanngillen] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@RyannGillenofficial [https://www.youtube.com/@RyannGillenofficial]

Building Success Without Losing Yourself with Rose Nasrazadani

Rose Nasrazadani knew early on that she wanted a different life. But choosing real estate meant going against everything she had been taught was “safe.” Raised by immigrant parents who believed success came through traditional careers like medicine, law, or engineering, Rose spent years trying to follow a path that never actually felt like hers. Until she finally stopped building the life she was supposed to want and started building one that actually fit her. This conversation is about ambition, identity, money, relationships, and what it looks like to create success without constantly sacrificing yourself in the process. And honestly, I think so many high-achieving women are going to see themselves in Rose’s story. In this episode: • Why Rose walked away from the medical path and chose real estate instead • The pressure of navigating family expectations while building your own identity • What it looked like to grow a successful brokerage while healing scarcity and money anxiety • The feast-and-famine cycle so many entrepreneurs silently live inside • Why emotional capacity matters more than most business strategy • The shift from taking every opportunity to building from alignment • How Rose built a business and relationship that support the life she actually wants • Why success started feeling lighter when she stopped operating from survival mode The line that will stay with you: “I thought once I made more money, all the pressure and anxiety would go away. But it didn’t.” This is a conversation about redefining success. Not just building a business that looks good on paper, but building a life that actually feels good to live. Connect with Rose: Instagram: @talarealtyco [https://www.instagram.com/talarealtyco/]and @rose_Nasrazadani [https://www.instagram.com/rose_nasrazadani/]

The Business Beliefs I Do Not Subscribe To Anymore: #4 The Sales Belief

You can feel it when someone is trying to get something from you. In a sales conversation.In a DM.In someone’s content. That pressure.That attachment.That energy of “please pick me.” This episode is Part 4 of The Business Beliefs I Do Not Subscribe To Anymore. A series breaking down the beliefs that helped me build success, but also quietly made my business feel heavy. And this episode is about one of the deepest belief systems I had to unravel: Sales and marketing. Because for years, I believed: * sales was a numbers game * there was a right way to do it * clients had to be convinced * content alone couldn’t sell * you had to chase business to create business And honestly? Those beliefs made me successful. They also disconnected me from myself. In this episode: • Why traditional sales training creates pressure and attachment • The moment I realized strategy wasn’t universal • What changed when I stopped focusing on “getting clients” • Why nervous system regulation changed the way I market and sell • The shift from convincing people to creating value • Why product development is actually self-development • How sales and marketing became lighter, cleaner, and more aligned The line that will stay with you: “Sales and marketing stops feeling heavy when you stop needing it to make you feel okay.” If business still feels like pressure, performance, or proving, this conversation will show you a completely different way to build. Connect with me here: TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillenofficial⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanngillenofficial] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [http://instagram.com/ryanngillen] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/ryanngillen] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠@RyannGillenofficial [https://www.youtube.com/@RyannGillenofficial]

Ask Ryann: Success, Pressure, and Emotional Capacity | The Uncensored Self Podcast

Welcome back to Ask Ryann. In this episode, Ryann is joined by her friend, client, producer, and creative partner, Sarah Buehner, for a conversation about the hidden emotional cost of success… and why so many high-achieving women feel exhausted even after building the business and life they thought they wanted. Together, they unpack: * Why hitting big goals often creates more pressure instead of more peace * The real reason business growth can start to feel emotionally heavy * How women unknowingly tie money and achievement to safety * Why emotional capacity matters more than strategy * The difference between creating from pressure vs. creating from alignment * How identity and energy shape your experience of success This episode is really about what happens when your nervous system believes success requires sacrifice. Because if your current experience of success already feels exhausting… of course your body resists more of it. Ryann and Sarah also explore: * the “strategy trap” * why achievement doesn’t automatically create enoughness * how to start loosening the belief that business has to feel hard * and the power of asking better questions instead of reinforcing old limitations. If this episode resonates with you, send in your questions for a future episode of Ask Ryann. Because chances are… it’s not the thing you think it is. Connect with me here: TikTok: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillenofficial⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryanngillenofficial] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠⁠ [instagram.com/ryanngillen] Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠ryanngillen⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/ryanngillen] YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@RyannGillenofficial [https://www.youtube.com/@RyannGillenofficial]