Your Life, Love, and Relationship Coach, Joey Francess

Episode 62 Stop Dating What You Want — Start Dating What You Need

27 min · 15 de may de 2026
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Are you choosing people based on what you want, or what you actually need? In this episode, I break down one of the core ideas behind The Blueprint Method: why your wants are often misleading, why your needs are what protect your future, and how so many people keep choosing chemistry, fantasy, status, and surface-level attraction over the things that actually make a relationship healthy and sustainable. I talk about wants versus needs, how to translate vague desires into real relationship standards, why attraction still matters but cannot be the foundation, and how getting clear on your needs gives you more flexibility, better choices, and a much stronger chance at building something real. If you keep ending up in the same relationships with different people, this episode is for you. For coaching, books, and more, visit joeyfrancess.com Tags: dating advice, relationship advice, wants vs needs, wants versus needs in dating, stop dating what you want start dating what you need, The Blueprint Method, Joey Francis, Joey Francess, dating coach, relationship coach, choosing the right partner, how to choose a partner, dating standards, relationship standards, online dating advice, chemistry vs compatibility, attraction vs compatibility, relationship needs, dating wants, healthy relationships, self awareness in dating, emotional availability, modern dating, dating psychology, relationship mindset, how to find the right person, relationship boundaries, dating for marriage, intentional dating

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