Your Therapist Can Meet You in the Mess

Your Therapist Knows You're Outgrowing Your Loved Ones

Unfortunately, growth isn't always something that happens alongside the people we love. Sometimes, as we learn more about ourselves, set new boundaries, or begin healing old wounds, our relationships start to feel different too. In this episode, Jess and Ryan explore what it can be like when you're doing the work in therapy but the people around you aren't on the same path. They talk about the loneliness, frustration, guilt, and grief that can come with outgrowing old dynamics, as well as the difficult questions that arise when relationships no longer fit the way they once did. Whether it's a romantic partner, a friend, or a family member, this conversation looks at what happens when personal growth creates distance — and how people navigate the tension between honoring their own healing and maintaining important relationships 💕🎙️ Click here to book a FREE consult with us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://centredself.ca/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://centredself.ca/contact] Hosted by: Dr Ryan Bittinger (they/them) and Dr Jess Erb (she/her) Cover art by: Una Grace Norona (she/her) Produced and edited by: Denise Danda (she/her) Follow us on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@yourtherapistisnotokay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yourtherapistisnotokay/?hl=en]

Your Therapist Wants You to Have Good Sex

In this follow-up episode, Jess and Ryan dive into a question a lot of people have but don't always know how to ask: how do you actually have better sex? They talk about the role of communication, consent, curiosity, and emotional safety in creating a more satisfying sex life. From exploring fantasies and kink to discussing desires, boundaries, and aftercare, they unpack some of the conversations that can bring partners closer together both in and out of the bedroom. Tune in for a candid exploration on what how to build a sex life that feels authentic, connected, and enjoyable for everyone involved ✨ Click here to book a FREE consult with us: ⁠⁠⁠https://centredself.ca/contact⁠⁠⁠ [https://centredself.ca/contact] Hosted by: Dr Ryan Bittinger (they/them) and Dr Jess Erb (she/her) Cover art by: Una Grace Norona (she/her) Produced and edited by: Denise Danda (she/her) Follow us on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@yourtherapistisnotokay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yourtherapistisnotokay/?hl=en]

Your Therapist Wants You to Be Honest About Sex

Sex can be a surprisingly difficult thing to talk about in relationships, even when you’re close to your partner. In this episode, Jess and Ryan talk about the reality of sex over the course of a relationship — the highs, the lows, the awkward conversations, the mismatched needs, and the pressure people often feel around intimacy. They get into how hard it can be to bring up things like dissatisfaction, insecurity, changing desires, or unmet needs without fearing rejection, conflict, or hurting the other person. They also talk about the gap between what people think sex “should” look like and what it often actually looks like in real relationships. Tune in for a conversation about sex, intimacy and communication in long-term relationships 🎙️✨ Click here to book a FREE consult with us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://centredself.ca/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://centredself.ca/contact] Hosted by: Dr Ryan Bittinger (they/them) and Dr Jess Erb (she/her) Cover art by: Una Grace Norona (she/her) Produced and edited by: Denise Danda (she/her) Follow us on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@yourtherapistisnotokay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yourtherapistisnotokay/?hl=en]

Your Therapist Wants You to Fight Like This

In this episode, Jess and Ryan shift into the “how do we actually work with this” side of conflict. They get into the patterns couples fall into and what therapists often focus on in couples therapy room when things get tense — especially when conversations start to spiral or shut down. They explore a few ways of approaching conflict that can make it feel less overwhelming in the moment, like slowing things down, reframing what’s actually being said underneath the words, and learning how to listen without immediately reacting or defending. It’s not about getting it “perfect,” but about creating a bit more space so both people can actually hear each other. Tune in for a conversation about what it really takes to fight well 🎙️✨ Click here to book a FREE consult with us: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://centredself.ca/contact⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://centredself.ca/contact] Hosted by: Dr Ryan Bittinger (they/them) and Dr Jess Erb (she/her) Cover art by: Una Grace Norona (she/her) Produced and edited by: Denise Danda (she/her) Follow us on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@yourtherapistisnotokay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yourtherapistisnotokay/?hl=en]

Your Therapist Knows Why You Keep Having the Same Fight

From the early honeymoon period where everything feels easy and connected, to the shift into patterns like bickering, shutting down, or giving each other the silent treatment, this episode is about exploring the full cycle of conflict that often shows up in couples work or that clients talk about in the therapy room. Jess and Ryan talk about why that transition happens, and how quickly relationships can move from closeness into disconnection when needs aren’t being expressed or understood. Rather than focusing on “right” or “wrong” ways of relating, they look at what these patterns are often protecting underneath—things like fear of rejection, unmet needs, or feeling unseen. Tune in for a conversation on conflict in the therapy room 🎙️✨ Hosted by: Dr Ryan Bittinger (they/them) and Dr Jess Erb (she/her) Cover art by: Una Grace Norona (she/her) Produced and edited by: Denise Danda (she/her) Follow us on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@yourtherapistisnotokay⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/yourtherapistisnotokay/?hl=en]