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Do You Care Too Much What Other People Think of You? Avoid Conflict? Say Yes When You Shouldn't? | Dr. Ingrid Clayton, Fawning Expert

Practical tools to turn down the volume on fawning. Dr. Ingrid Clayton [https://www.ingridclayton.com/] is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. Her book is FAWNING: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves—and How to Find our Way Back. [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/] In this episode we talk about: * What is fawning, actually * Chronic vs situational fawning * The physiological ramifications of fawning * How power plays into all of this * Ways to get clarity around unseen bruises and wounds that drive your behavior * Owning your anger – and how to express it in healthy ways * How to know if you're a fawner * Practical steps to unfawn * Accessible approaches to regulating your nervous system * How to set boundaries * Fawning and un-fawning in a work context, specifically * And her observation, which I've been thinking about a lot, that wounding happens in relationships… but so does healing This holiday season, 10% Happier is teaming up with dozens of podcasts for an ambitious goal: to lift three entire villages in Rwanda out of extreme poverty. Join us by visiting GiveDirectly.org/Dan [http://givedirectly.org/Dan] and supporting the #PodsFightPoverty campaign. Related Episodes: * How To Regulate Your Nervous System For Stress, Anxiety, And Trauma | Peter Levine [https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-regulate-your-nervous-system?utm_source=publication-search] * How To Handle Your Demons | Richard Schwartz [https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-handle-your-demons-dick-richard?utm_source=publication-search] * How (and Why) to Hug Your Inner Dragons | Richard Schwartz [https://www.danharris.com/p/how-and-why-to-hug-your-inner-dragons-ac1?utm_source=publication-search] * This Neurobiologist Wants You To Ask One Question To Reframe Anxiety, Depression, And Trauma | Dr. Bruce Perry (Co-Interviewed by Dan's Wife, Bianca!) [https://www.danharris.com/p/this-neurobiologist-wants-you-to-bd7?utm_source=publication-search] Join Dan's online community here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris]

Working With a Brain That Doesn't Behave | Jeff Warren

Ever feel like your mind is constantly bouncing around? You're not alone. In this episode, DJ Cashmere sits down with meditation teacher Jeff Warren, who has spent decades exploring consciousness, neurodivergence, and the practical side of meditation. Jeff shares his own experience with ADHD, bipolarity, and the ups and downs of life, offering tools and insights that listeners can use immediately. What you'll learn in this episode: * How to create a "home base" in meditation—an anchor to return to when your mind or emotions are scattered. * Practical ways to use meditation to regulate emotions and respond skillfully in stressful situations. * How to cultivate creativity and focus, even if your brain works differently from others. * The difference between accepting the present moment and passively giving in to circumstances. * Tips for parents and neurodivergent listeners on integrating mindfulness into daily life. Jeff also shares his journey from journalist to meditation teacher, and how a serious head injury changed his relationship to his own mind. Whether you're new to meditation or a seasoned practitioner, this episode is full of practical insights for staying grounded, centered, and creative in a chaotic world. About Jeff Warren: Jeff Warren is a meditation teacher, author, and consciousness researcher who has written extensively on the science and practice of mindfulness. Known for his humor, curiosity, and practical approach, Jeff guides listeners to discover their own "home base" and explore the mind as a creative medium. Related Episodes: There's No Part of Your Life You Can't Make More Awesome | Jeff Warren [https://www.danharris.com/p/theres-no-part-of-your-life-you-cant-c93?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false] Meditation Party: The "Sh*t Is Fertilizer" Edition | Sebene Selassie & Jeff Warren [https://www.danharris.com/p/meditation-party-the-sht-is-fertilizer-014?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false] Join Dan's online community here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris] Thanks to today's sponsors: Airbnb: Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at airbnb.com/host [http://airbnb.com/host]. Northwest Registered Agent: Protect your privacy, build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes. Visit https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/happierfree [https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/happierfree] and start building something amazing.

When Your Mind Won't Stop, Try This | Vinny Ferraro

If you've ever felt like your inner life is a clenched fist — tight belly, buzzing chest, racing mind — this conversation is for you. In this live session from our DanHarris.com [http://danharris.com/] sangha, the great Vinny Ferraro takes us on a kind of "return to the body" safari: soft-belly practice, heart-work, nervous system regulation, forgiving the seemingly unforgivable, and what it actually means to stop becoming and just be here. We also get into the weirdness and power of meditating together online, the comparing mind (yes, the Dalai Lama has one too), why walking meditation is a secret weapon for restless brains, and how both Dan and Vinny were dragged, kicking and screaming, into practices they once thought were total BS. Vinny brings his trademark mix of streetwise honesty, humor, and deep tenderness. This one is about learning to meet yourself — and the world — with a little less armor and a lot more care. Join Dan live every Tuesday at 4pm ET for these weekly meditations and Q&As — plus access to all our guided meditations — by signing up at DanHarris.com [https://www.danharris.com/]. Related Episodes: You Can't Hate Yourself Into Becoming a Better Person | Vinny Ferraro [https://www.danharris.com/p/you-cant-hate-yourself-into-becoming?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false] How to Make Time for the Things You Actually Care About | Vinny Ferraro [https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-make-time-for-the-things-you?r=4o5o&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=false] Join Dan's online community here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] Thanks to our sponsors: Airbnb: Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much at airbnb.com/host [http://airbnb.com/host]. Bombas: Head over to bombas.com/Happier [http://bombas.com/Happier] and use the code Happier for 20% off your first purchase. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris]

Why You Always Want More, And How To Fix It | Michael Easter

Learning how to thrive with enough. Michael Easter is the New York Times bestselling author of Scarcity Brain [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-scarcity-brain-fix-your-craving-mindset-stop-chasing-more-and-rewire-your-habits-to-thrive-with-enough-michael-easter/19598243?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjwyJqzBhBaEiwAWDRJVLpHeA910buYxi5oHqAZ6-_gFn9tKOj8O2vCIssn0F68IUgXab2juBoCIzEQAvD_BwE] and The Comfort Crisis [https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-comfort-crisis-embrace-discomfort-to-reclaim-your-wild-happy-healthy-self-michael-easter/15055653?ean=9780593138762]. He also shares his ideas on his popular newsletter, 2% with Michael Easter [https://www.twopct.com/]. In this episode we talk about: * The evolutionary roots of overconsumption * The challenges of having an ancient brains in a modern world * The Scarcity mindset vs. the abundance mindset * Understanding what Michael calls the "scarcity loop" – and how to apply it to daily life * Tactical ways to work with habits and cravings * Understanding the scarcity loop, how it hooks us, and then how you can unhook using that same loop * And How's Michael's life changed after researching this book * Toward the end, we talk about Michael's previous book, the comfort crisis—and some Practical steps for embracing discomfort Join Dan's online community here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

A Radical Buddhist Antidote for Anxiety | John Makransky and Paul Condon

Combining modern science and ancient Buddhism to treat anxiety, anger, and impatience. John Makransky [https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/morrissey/departments/theology/people/retired-faculty/john-makransky.html] is a professor of Buddhism and Comparative Theology at Boston College, AND ordained as a Tibetan Buddhist lama. Paul Condon [https://paulcondon.org/] is an associate professor of psychology at Southern Oregon University and a research fellow at the Mind & Life Institute. Both are the authors of How Compassion Works: A Step-by-Step Guide to Cultivating Well-Being, Love, and Wisdom [https://www.shambhala.com/how-compassion-works.html?srsltid=AfmBOorIV7fv7fIMcfadM5UfXUAKomN0gkqCEfPdmsJ9bh-oqmTO6mW8]. In this episode we talk about: * The sales pitch for compassion—even at a time when what most of us really want is for other people to be nicer * The connection between attachment theory and compassion * Why compassion is our natural state * How Sustainable Compassion Training helps you access warmth without forcing it * How to apply compassion practice to burnout, conflict, and difficult emotions Join Dan's online community here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris