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A few days ago, my wife received a credit card in the mail from a company we had never used. Apparently, someone had opened an account in her name. Naturally, I assumed identity theft and immediately called the credit card company to shut the account down and find out what information had been used to create it. After spending twenty minutes navigating an infuriating AI phone system, I finally reached a human being. Or at least, I think I did. The conversation felt strange. Every question I asked seemed to trigger a predetermined response. Every attempt to move the conversation in a logical direction was met with another scripted answer. It was as if the representative was following a flowchart that he could not deviate from under any circumstances. At one point I caught myself wondering whether I was talking to another AI. I wasn’t. It was clearly a real person. Yet somehow the interaction felt less human than many conversations I have had with chatbots. That experience stuck with me because it wasn’t an isolated incident. Lately, I have noticed a growing number of interactions that feel strangely mechanical. Not just in customer service. Not just online. Everywhere. People seem more scripted. More performative. More constrained. Almost as if they are operating from a limited set of dialogue options. Like NPCs in a video game. Now before anyone gets offended, I am not saying everyone behaves this way. I meet plenty of thoughtful, authentic people. But I encounter this phenomenon often enough that I can no longer ignore it. And it leaves me wondering: What exactly happened? The Corporate Mask That Never Comes Off I first noticed this trend while working in tech. Anyone who has spent time in a large corporation understands that some degree of performance is expected. We all wear masks at work. That part is normal. What felt different was seeing people become completely consumed by the performance. Simple ideas would be transformed into elaborate slide decks. Meetings would be scheduled to discuss future meetings. Entire conversations would revolve around appearing aligned rather than accomplishing anything meaningful. Everyone knew the ritual. Everyone participated. Nobody seemed willing to acknowledge the absurdity of it. What unsettled me was that for some people, the corporate persona appeared to become permanent. The mask never came off. The language, the mannerisms, the carefully calibrated responses followed them everywhere. Even outside of work. Conversations Feel Different Since being laid off, I have more opportunities to talk with people in everyday settings. Coffee shops. Parks. Neighborhood events. Random encounters. And what I have discovered is that many conversations feel surprisingly shallow. There is often a narrow range of approved topics. Food. Entertainment. Sports. Local events. Anything deeper can create immediate discomfort. Discussions about purpose, meaning, technology, society, mortality, economics, or the future often cause people to retreat. Not because they disagree. Because they seem exhausted. As if they simply do not have the mental bandwidth for the conversation. Perhaps that is the real issue. Not that people have become less intelligent. Not that people have become less caring. But that people have become overwhelmed. Theory One: We Are Overstimulated Think about how radically the environment has changed over the past twenty years. Most people now spend the majority of their waking lives connected to digital platforms. Their attention is continuously pulled in dozens of directions. Every notification competes for cognitive resources. Every algorithm is optimized to generate emotional reactions. Anger. Fear. Excitement. Outrage. Anxiety. The result is a constant state of sensory overload. When people are exhausted, authenticity becomes difficult. Deep conversations require energy. Curiosity requires energy. Human connection requires energy. And many people simply have none left. Theory Two: We Have Been Conditioned By Work Most Americans depend on employment to survive. That reality shapes behavior in powerful ways. Corporate environments reward predictability. They reward compliance. They reward process. They reward metrics. Over time, people learn to suppress parts of themselves that do not contribute directly to performance. Creativity becomes risky. Authenticity becomes risky. Spontaneity becomes risky. Eventually the performance becomes second nature. The script becomes internalized. And after years or decades of repetition, it becomes difficult to distinguish between the role and the person. Theory Three: Social Media Creates Behavioral Clones The early internet felt like exploration. You wandered. You discovered strange websites. You stumbled into unfamiliar ideas. The modern internet feels different. Algorithms decide what you see. Algorithms decide what you think about. Algorithms increasingly determine which personalities rise to prominence. Within every online community there are archetypes. The motivational guru. The productivity expert. The leadership philosopher. The lifestyle influencer. And many people unconsciously imitate these personas because they appear successful. Over time, entire communities begin speaking the same way. Thinking the same way. Reacting the same way. Not because they independently arrived at the same conclusions. But because they are all consuming the same inputs. Theory Four: The Meaning Crisis Perhaps the deepest explanation is that many people no longer know what they are living for. Traditional sources of meaning have weakened. Communities are fragmented. Institutions are less trusted. Consumerism often replaces purpose. Individualism often replaces belonging. The result is a quiet sense of disconnection. A feeling that life is somehow missing a center. When people lose connection to meaning, they often lose connection to themselves. And when that happens, everything starts to feel performative. Or Maybe It’s Just Me My wife has a much simpler explanation. She thinks people have not changed at all. She thinks I am getting older. According to her, I am viewing the past through nostalgia tinted glasses and imagining a level of authenticity that never actually existed. And honestly? She might be right. Memory is unreliable. Perspective changes with age. Perhaps twenty five year old me was simply less observant. Or perhaps middle aged me has become more cynical. I genuinely do not know. What I do know is that something feels different. Whether that difference exists in society or only inside my own perception remains an open question. So I will leave that question with you. Do people seem more authentic today? Less authentic? Have social media, corporate culture, and digital life fundamentally changed the way we interact? Or is this simply what getting older feels like? I would love to hear your thoughts. Get full access to AsianDadEnergy's Newsletter at asiandadenergy.substack.com/subscribe [https://asiandadenergy.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]
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