Between a Hot Mess & a Therapist

79. You Don’t Work a Job. You Rent Your Life.

19 min · 17 mei 2026
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That moment when you’re sitting in the car after work, too drained to even walk into your own house? Yeah. That’s not laziness. That’s what happens when your life has been built around being useful, available, and endlessly “good at handling things.” In this episode, I’m talking about the real cost of overfunctioning, helper conditioning, and what it does to your nervous system when your days stop belonging to you. If you look functional on the outside but feel cooked on the inside, this one will hit home. Got a Question? SUBMIT IT HERE [https://form.jotform.com/healingrootswab/-podcast-qa] —————————————————————————— WORK WITH ME —————————————————————————— Practice by Design (for fully licensed clinicians, $497): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/work-with-me LPC Supervision (Texas Associates only, $400/mo): https://shawnalovinlpcs.com/lpc-associate-supervision Ten Twenty QM (custom tees): www.tentwentyqm.com FREE Still Human audio series: https://healingrootswab.myflodesk.com/reset —————————————————————————— FIND ME —————————————————————————— YouTube: youtube.com/@heyyallitsshawna Website: shawnalovinlpcs.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heyyallitsshawna Disclaimer: Although Shawna is a licensed counselor in the State of Texas, this podcast is not therapy and should not be used as a therapeutic intervention. Many of the practices and products mentioned are for educational and informational purposes only. Should you need support, please seek appropriate, qualified, and licensed professionals.

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