Feel Free Again with Cole James

042: Stop Choosing Sides, Start Choosing People: How to Disagree Without Disconnecting (Keep Your Peace)

In today’s episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I’m joined again by Tammy Adams. This is her second time on the show, and I’m grateful we get to keep building on the ground we covered last time. In this conversation, we’re diving into something that’s breaking hearts everywhere: how we’ve forgotten how to love each other through differences, and how families are getting fractured, ghosted, and cut off over “outside topics” that were never supposed to cost us our relationships. We talk about how belief systems form early, why certain phrases can trigger massive reactions, and the powerful shift from “You made me feel” to “When you said/did ___, I felt ___.” Tammy brings her early childhood education background into the conversation, and we connect the dots between nervous system overwhelm, social media saturation, unresolved grief, and why so many people live in defense mode. We also get real about how unresolved emotions often show up as anger, especially for men and what it looks like to do the inner work that gives you your peace (and your relationships) back. If you’re a Grief Recovery Specialist (or considering the work), we also speak directly to the importance of creating safety and staying anchored in the mission: helping broken hearts heal without bringing our personal “rightness” into the room. If this episode helps you, please share it, subscribe, and leave a review so more people can find these tools and find their way back to connection. ⏱️ Chapters: 00:00 - Tammy Adams Returns: A Deeper Conversation on Healing Relationships 01:35 - The Divide Is Breaking Families (And We Need Better Tools) 05:20 - How Childhood Beliefs Get Wired and Become Adult Triggers 10:55 - “You Made Me Feel” vs “I Felt”: The Language That Restores Power 14:40 - Social Media, iPads, and Why Beliefs Form Earlier Than We Think 17:50 - The “One-Hour Debate” Rule: Staying Family While Disagreeing 22:55 - You’re Not a Wind-Up Toy: Owning Your Emotional Responses 27:45 - When Unresolved Grief Shows Up as Anger (Tammy’s Real Story) 37:50 - People-Pleasing, Control, and Trauma Responses in Conflict 40:14 - Why Constant Global News Keeps Us Triggered and Divided 52:45 - Message to Specialists: Create Safety, Stay in Your Lane, Help the Heart Heal Cole James, President of the Grief Recovery Institute, shares about the Power of Grief Recovery! Cole is dedicating his life to help people with grief. Now, grief is much more than just losing someone. Did you know that? You've probably heard of the Five Stages of Grief, right? Well, this goes much deeper than you think. Let me explain. Everyone has some type of grief in their lives, some haven't yet, but it's part of life. We can't escape it, BUT we can work through it. And you don't have to do it alone. Let's talk about it. We have trained Grief Recovery Method Specialists, who help heartbroken people, in Europe, Asia, Africa, Australia, the Middle East, Central America, South America, and North America. The Grief Recovery Method Certification Program is taught and available in multiple languages including: English, Spanish, Swedish, Hungarian, Ukrainian, and Russian. Our home office is in the United States and serves English-speaking nations and populations around the world, such as the United Kingdom, Canada, and the Commonwealth Nations. In addition, we have international affiliate offices in Sweden, Australia, Mexico, and Hungary. Our goal is to help as many people as possible, which is why our books have been translated into over 30 languages including: Spanish, French, Dutch, Portuguese, Japanese, Ukrainian, Russian, and many more. For more information visit: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/ [https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/] #mentalhealth #grief #depression #sad

041: Why Unresolved Grief Is Behind So Much Pain (and How to Heal It) with Victoria Volk

Connect with Victoria Volk: Website: www.theunleashedheart.com [http://www.theunleashedheart.com/] Instagram: www.instagram.com/theunleashedheart [http://www.instagram.com/theunleashedheart]   As the host of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I’ve had the privilege of hearing countless stories of loss and restoration — but few moved me like my conversation with Victoria Volk, a grief recovery specialist and mother of three from rural North Dakota. In this episode, we explore what it really means to confront decades of buried pain and how doing so can restore connection, compassion, and freedom. Victoria opens up about losing her father at age 8, enduring abuse, and spending 30 years trying to outrun grief through achievement, distraction, and numbing. Her breaking point led her to the Grief Recovery Method, which completely changed her life — and even saved her relationship with her mother. She shares how healing her heart didn’t require others to change, but instead invited empathy, forgiveness, and peace that rippled through her entire family. We also talk about how grief recovery helps parents and children communicate more openly, why boundaries create safety, and what happens when anger is finally understood instead of suppressed. If you’ve ever lost someone, faced trauma, or felt emotionally stuck, this episode will remind you that you can’t heal what you won’t feel — and that freedom is closer than you think.   ⏱️ Chapters: 00:00 – Intro & Welcome to the Feel Free Again Podcast 01:05 – Meet Victoria Volk: Finding Grief Recovery After 30 Years 04:56 – The Midlife Unraveling: Identity, Motherhood & Burnout 06:50 – Discovering the Grief Recovery Method & Choosing Healing 10:05 – Why You Can’t Heal Alone: The Power of Safe Spaces 16:42 – Healing the Relationship with Her Mother Through Compassion 23:04 – Boundaries, Body Awareness & Feeling Safe Again 31:02 – Teaching Kids Emotional Honesty & Healthy Anger 45:00 – Victoria’s Son’s Accident: How Grief Tools Saved Their Family 1:00:07 – Grief Is Everywhere: Why the World Needs This Work

040: Can You Grieve Someone You’ve Never Met? The Truth About Hidden Grief with Cindy Cipriani

Connect with Cindy: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorCindyCipriani/ [https://www.facebook.com/AuthorCindyCipriani/] Website: https://www.cindycipriani.com/ [https://www.cindycipriani.com/] Contact: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/cindy-cipriani-sewell-nj/223227 [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/cindy-cipriani-sewell-nj/223227] Today’s conversation moved me deeply. I sat down with Cindy Cipriani, an emotional wellness coach and grief recovery specialist, whose story of loss, healing, and redemption is nothing short of powerful. From being excommunicated by her faith community and surviving domestic abuse, to finding new purpose through the Grief Recovery Method, Cindy’s testimony shows how emotional healing is possible — no matter your past. Cindy shares how grief can hide in plain sight — not just through death or divorce, but through lost dreams, childhood beliefs, or even fictional characters who brought comfort during hard times. We explore how to process those emotions instead of carrying them silently for years, and why forgiveness isn’t about condoning pain but releasing it. This episode is for anyone who has ever felt unseen in their grief or unsure where to start healing. You’ll learn about the five C’s of emotional wellness, how to reconnect with who you truly are, and why grief recovery is more than therapy — it’s a path to freedom. If this conversation resonates, please share it with someone who needs hope today.   Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome to the Feel Free Again Podcast 01:03 – Cindy’s Story: From Religious Trauma to Renewal 02:07 – Surviving Loss, Isolation, and a Suicide Attempt 04:13 – The Turning Point: Discovering the Grief Recovery Method 08:00 – Can You Grieve Someone You’ve Never Met? 15:08 – How the Grief Recovery Process Actually Works 21:23 – The Five C’s of Emotional Wellness Explained 33:04 – Rebuilding Identity After Loss and Forgiveness 44:08 – How Grief Recovery Changes Families and Workplaces 49:20 – Where to Find Cindy’s Books & How to Start Your Own Healing Journey

039: Why You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Grief | Healing the Heart, Not Just the Mind with Andrea Szegedi

In this episode of the Feel Free Again Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Andrea Szegedi, a medical doctor, grief recovery specialist, and founder of a clinic in Budapest, Hungary. Andrea’s story is both heartbreaking and deeply inspiring — after losing her third son, she began searching for answers that science, logic, and faith alone couldn’t provide. What she discovered was that grief isn’t just emotional — it’s cellular. It lives in the body, and true recovery means reconnecting the mind, body, and heart. Connect with Dr. Szegedi: https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/andrea-szegedi-md [https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/grms/andrea-szegedi-md] Throughout our conversation, Dr. Andrea Szegedi shares how the Grief Recovery Method gave her stability in the chaos of loss, helping her rebuild her life from the inside out. She opens up about how grief physically affected her body, why expression is the opposite of depression, and how movement, music, and writing became sacred tools for healing. From crawling on the floor to completing two half-marathons, her journey is proof that emotional recovery leads to physical restoration. We also talk about the missing education around grief, how children naturally process loss, and why modern medicine must integrate emotional healing with physical care. Andrea now uses her platform to help parents, cancer patients, and grievers around the world find peace, laughter, and hope again. Whether you’re grieving a loved one, your health, or simply trying to understand your emotions — this conversation will help you reconnect with the part of yourself that still believes in wholeness. Chapters: 00:00 – Welcome & Introduction to Dr. Andrea Szegedi 03:00 – Losing a Child and the Birth of a Calling 06:00 – Why Logic and Faith Aren’t Enough to Heal Grief 10:00 – Understanding Grief as an Emotional Process 13:00 – The Pyramid of Grief and Finding Stability 17:00 – How Movement, Crying, and Singing Healed Her Body 23:00 – Laughter and Light Returning After Loss 31:00 – Teaching Children to Process Grief Naturally 40:00 – Integrating Medicine and Grief Recovery in Healthcare 55:00 – The Biology of Trauma and Path to Wholeness

038: Grief Recovery in the Workplace: Healing Beyond Loss with Michele Mariscal

Welcome back to the Feel Free Again Podcast! In today’s episode, I’m joined by grief recovery specialist Michele Mariscal, who brings over 8 years of experience helping people process grief through the Grief Recovery Method. We dive deep into her unique journey—from molecular biology to esoteric philosophy—and how these experiences shaped her approach to grief and healing. Michelle shares how her personal grief journey inspired her to become certified in grief recovery and how she uses powerful tools like HeartMath to help people heal from emotional trauma in both personal and workplace settings. Connect with Michele: https://energym.org/ [https://energym.org/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelemariscal-phdgrief/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelemariscal-phdgrief/] https://www.facebook.com/michele.mariscal/ [https://www.facebook.com/michele.mariscal/] https://www.amazon.com/GROWING-THROUGH-GRIEF-Alchemy-Healing/dp/1791800246/ref=sr_1_1?sr=8-1 [https://www.amazon.com/GROWING-THROUGH-GRIEF-Alchemy-Healing/dp/1791800246/ref=sr_1_1?sr=8-1] Grief is often misunderstood, and we’re shedding light on its far-reaching impacts—especially in the workplace. Employers and coworkers often fail to recognize the daily grief events that impact productivity, mental health, and relationships. Michelle shares how grief recovery can support employees in overcoming unresolved grief, helping them process not only personal loss but also unspoken disappointments, broken relationships, and unmet expectations. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand grief beyond the obvious and learn about the transformative tools that can change the way we communicate and heal, whether in our personal lives or at work. Tune in as we explore the often-overlooked concept of "emotional maintenance," how unresolved grief impacts workplace dynamics, and why it’s crucial for employers to integrate grief recovery into their employee wellness programs. Whether you’ve experienced personal loss or are navigating unresolved emotions in your workplace, this episode offers valuable insights on how to heal and move forward. Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to the Episode 00:06 - Michelle Mariscol’s Background and Grief Recovery Work 01:50 - From Molecular Biology to Esoteric Philosophy 03:43 - Michelle’s Personal Grief Journey and the Catalyst for Certification 06:01 - Finding the Grief Recovery Method in 2017 08:25 - The Power of the Grief Recovery Method as a "Template" 10:36 - The First Steps in Michelle's Grief Recovery Practice 12:57 - Grief in the Workplace: A Hidden Epidemic 15:23 - The Importance of Emotional and Mental Health for Employees 17:50 - How Grief Recovery Can Prevent Workplace Conflict 21:15 - Addressing Unmet Expectations and Grief in Career Development 23:33 - Understanding “Emotional Maintenance” in the Workplace 27:00 - How Grief Recovery Tools Strengthen Employee Relationships 31:12 - The Role of Grief Recovery in Post-Trauma Communities 34:02 - HeartMath and Grief Recovery: A Powerful Combination 38:21 - Wrapping Up and Michelle’s Final Thoughts on Grief 41:09 - Where to Find Michelle and Connect with Her Services 44:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action: Share This Episode