Better Vacations: Dream Bigger and Increase Connection

Better Vacations: Dream Bigger and Increase Connection

Dreaming is a vulnerable thing to do. And dreaming with your sweetheart? Doubly vulnerable. So how can you feel good dreaming about great vacations to take together? Today we’re talking about vacations and my 3-part framework: Partner, Lover, Friend 1. Today we’ll focus on The Friend in your relationship and how to increase connection by sharing your dreams 2. We’ll talk about the skills of The Friend: Listening and Revealing 3. And I’ll give you 3 questions to open up a conversation that supports dreaming and connecting with your sweetheart Date Night Discussion Here’s 3 questions to explore as Friends who vacation together: * How can I encourage your dream? * How can you encourage my dream? * When is it time for us to follow our own dreams so we can come back to each other fresh and lit up inside? Want more? * The Secret Power of Hello in Your Relationship [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/podcast-8/] * Doug and Jamee Simons on [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/167-49-years-later-theyre-still-each-others-favorite-date/]Habits for Your Happily Ever After [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/167-49-years-later-theyre-still-each-others-favorite-date/] * Why you tend to rain on your sweetheart’s parade [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/159-you-say-yes-your-partner-hears-no-what-happened/] * How Fear Impacts Your Relationship Communication [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/episode-28-how-fear-impacts-your-relationship-communication/] Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/170-better-vacations-dream-bigger-and-increase-connection/] Buy my book. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/] Listen to my book. [https://open.spotify.com/show/3dV9xj1Ana93QBHq6MZduc?si=6f7e63e3e7294356] Please subscribe to my newsletter here. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/] This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. [https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccamullencoaching] Follow me on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccamullencoaching/] Reach me at 970-210-4480

The Friend Role in Your Relationship

The Friend in your relationship wants to feel understood. The Friend comes from my 3-part framework: Partner, Lover, Friend. These are the three roles I’ve identified in your singular romantic relationship. I’m out of town on vacation, so I’m bringing you an episode from my archives where I talk about The Friend. * You’ll hear how The Friend thrives when you and your sweetheart have time to just hang out * We’ll talk about why companionship builds trust between you and your sweetheart * And I’ll give you a date night discussion prompt to make it easier to spot the ways you and your sweetheart are good companions. Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/169-the-friend-role-in-your-relationship/] Buy my book. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/] Listen to my book. [https://open.spotify.com/show/3dV9xj1Ana93QBHq6MZduc?si=6f7e63e3e7294356] Please subscribe to my newsletter here. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/] This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. [https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccamullencoaching] Follow me on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccamullencoaching/] Reach me at 970-210-4480

6 Kinds of Fun for Your Relationship

What kills a fun time faster than anything else? Someone who doesn’t want to be there. Not everyone has fun in the same way. When you understand what’s fun for you, it’s easier to ask your partner if they want to join you in having your kind of fun. Today we’ll talk about 6 types of fun (but there are plenty of others). * Fall into Flow * Bolt of Joy * Contentment * Fidgeting * Something Messy * Something Clean Habit for Your Happily Ever After This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to create or refine one flavor of fun that is fun for you. Do you want to borrow from my 6 types of fun? Or do you have an entirely different flavor of fun that I have missed? Date Night Discussion This week I invite you to tell your partner about a specific sort of fun you want to put into your life. My invitation is to either: * Invite your partner to share some fun with you, or * To describe the sort of fun you want to have on your own or with a friend. Consider this date night discussion a chance to either issue a clear invitation to your partner or to announce that you want to go have fun alone, but you promise to return and bring a whole bunch of happiness home with you. Want more? * Review my number one rule for relationship happiness: Stay in your own business [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/122-the-single-most-important-habit-for-your-marriage/] Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/168-6-kinds-of-fun-for-your-relationship/] Buy my book. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/] Listen to my book. [https://open.spotify.com/show/3dV9xj1Ana93QBHq6MZduc?si=6f7e63e3e7294356] Please subscribe to my newsletter here. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/] This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. [https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccamullencoaching] Follow me on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccamullencoaching/] Reach me at 970-210-4480

49 Years Later, They're Still Each Other's Favorite Date

What does it look like to build a marriage where kindness becomes second nature? I spend a lot of time helping couples figure out how to make their relationship work. Today, you'll hear a conversation with Jamee and Doug Simons, a couple who have spent nearly 50 years creating the marriage many people hope to build. * You’ll hear what it was like for Jamee and Doug to take of a family business and balance their partnership at work with cultivating a loving marriage at home * And you’ll hear how the kindness and generosity they foster in their community is ever-present in their relationship. Jamee and Doug are third-generation owners of Enstrom Candies [https://enstrom.com/]. They bought the business from Jamee's parents, Emil and Mary, in 1993. It's not easy to work side by side all day, then go home to raise children. They did it for decades. While Doug and Jamee were quick to admit there have been bumps along the way, I was struck by the generosity they bring to their relationship, their commitment to supporting each other, and their refusal to keep score. I hope their story inspires you as much as it inspired me. Connect with my guest Read their story: enstrom.com/pages/our-story [https://enstrom.com/pages/our-story/] Website: enstrom.com [https://enstrom.com/] Instagram: instagram.com/enstromcandies [https://www.instagram.com/enstromcandies/] Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/167-49-years-later-theyre-still-each-others-favorite-date/] Buy my book. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/] Listen to my book. [https://open.spotify.com/show/3dV9xj1Ana93QBHq6MZduc?si=6f7e63e3e7294356] Please subscribe to my newsletter here. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/] This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. [https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccamullencoaching] Follow me on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccamullencoaching/] Reach me at 970-210-4480

Better Communication Begins with You

Today, I bring you an interview when I was a guest on the podcast, Stronger in the Difficult Places [https://drzoeshaw.com/podcast/], with psychotherapist, author, speaker, and media contributor Dr. Zoe Shaw [https://drzoeshaw.com/]. On her podcast, Stronger in the Difficult Places, her guiding premise is: “We’re not fixing them, we’re fixing you, and that changes everything.” Dr. Shaw has been a guest on this podcast before to discuss the impact of shame on your relationship. In this episode, you’ll hear me talk about my book, 6 Steps to Better Marriage Communication [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/]. Discover more from Dr. Zoe Shaw * Read Dr. Zoe Shaw’s book [https://drzoeshaw.com/book/], or listen to her podcast, Stronger in the Difficult Places [https://drzoeshaw.com/podcast/] * Listen to episode 54: Let Go of Shame. Own Your Story to Improve Your Relationship [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/54-let-go-of-shame-own-your-story-to-improve-your-relationship/] with Dr. Zoe Shaw * Listen to episode 55: More Dr. Zoe: Expectations, Shame + A Magic Question [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/55-more-dr-zoe-expectations-shame-a-magic-question/] * Listen to episode 125: Shame Stops the Love You Feel with Dr. Zoe Shaw [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/125-shame-stops-the-love-you-feel-with-dr-zoe-shaw/] Connect to Improve Your Relationship Communication Visit the show notes. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/166-better-communication-begins-with-you/] Buy my book. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/six-steps-to-better-marriage-communication-book/] Listen to my book. [https://open.spotify.com/show/3dV9xj1Ana93QBHq6MZduc?si=6f7e63e3e7294356] Please subscribe to my newsletter here. [https://rebeccamullencoaching.com/mailing-list/] This unlocks personal invitations from me only available to my subscribers. Follow me on Tik Tok. [https://www.tiktok.com/@rebeccamullencoaching] Follow me on Instagram. [https://www.instagram.com/rebeccamullencoaching/] Reach me at 970-210-4480