IDK My BFF Jil with Jiliane Patriarca

Real Estate, Resilience, and the Power of Influence with Chastin

The gem drop from Chastin: “I kept placing myself in very uncomfortable situations because I noticed that it got that hard and that rough in order for me to snap, you know, snap into action…That's the only way that I can grow personally.” Chastin J Miles is a dynamic individual with a remarkable journey of personal and professional growth. He is a serial entrepreneur, podcast host, TEDx speaker, author, realtor, and external advisor to the Dallas Mavericks. Chastin's accomplishments have been recognized by esteemed publications like Forbes, Essence, Black Enterprise, and NBC News Now. His drive to succeed stems from a desire to prove his worth and capabilities to himself and those around him. Chastin faced the expectations and pressures associated with being the eldest child, especially the responsibility of setting an example for his siblings. He opted to chart his own path, deviating from the traditional route of higher education. Instead, he pursued entrepreneurship, determined to showcase his ability to succeed. Chastin's story is a testament to the power of resilience, self-belief, and the pursuit of one's unique path to success. His journey from a young Baptist upbringing to a multifaceted entrepreneur and influencer reflects his unwavering commitment to personal and spiritual growth, as well as his determination to make a lasting impact on the world. Keep listening to learn about: Motivation for Successful Entrepreneurship (18:41) Chastin shares his motivation for success, which stems from the desire to prove himself and overcome societal expectations, particularly in the context of not pursuing a college education. Both Chastin and Jiliane discuss the common theme of entrepreneurship and the need to prove themselves to doubters and family members. How to Transition to Real Estate (26:58) Chastin shares the story of his transition into the real estate industry, highlighting the motivations behind his career choice and the initial challenges he faced, offering insights into his early experiences as a real estate agent. Hiring and Delegation (38:21) The episode delves into the importance of hiring and delegating tasks to virtual assistants and other team members, emphasizing the role of delegation in enhancing productivity, efficiency, and business growth. Coaching and Mentorship (50:23) Chastin discusses the significance of coaching and mentorship in his journey, stressing the value of seeking guidance from individuals slightly ahead in their entrepreneurial path who can provide practical advice and relatable insights. Real Estate Agent-Client Relationships (54:21) They discuss the importance of the relationship between real estate agents and their clients, emphasizing how real estate agents often become a crucial source of emotional support during the home-buying process. Clients often form strong connections with their agents due to the personal nature of the home-buying experience. Tools and Resources for Real Estate Professionals (1:08:02) Chastin touches on the tools, systems, and resources that can benefit individuals looking to become successful in real estate. It includes recommendations for personality assessments and the importance of choosing tools that align with your strengths and learning style. When we flip the script, Chastin asks Jiliane: What are you proving right now? If you were to write a book tomorrow, what would it be about?  Follow Chastin J Miles on Instagram via @chastinjmiles [https://www.instagram.com/chastinjmiles/] or visit his website: chastinjmiles.com [https://chastinjmiles.com/]

Empathy, Human Existence, and High Sensitivity with Katie

The gem drop from Katie: “I'm learning to ask, ‘What does that feel like for you?’” In this podcast episode, Jiliane and Katie engage in a deep and introspective conversation about writing, self-discovery, and the challenges for Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). They explore personal growth, self-awareness, and the challenges and benefits of being a highly sensitive person in the context of writing, relationships, and the pandemic. Katie Morris is a content manager and writer who is passionate about exploring the depths of the human experience. Currently working at a startup with a mission to make mental health care accessible to all, Katie is dedicated to addressing the critical needs of today's world. One of the standout aspects of Katie's life is her engaging newsletter, "Warmly Katie." Through this platform, she shares her unique insights and thoughts on various aspects of human psychology, mental health, and life as a human being. Her writing is a reflection of her deep introspection and mission to make people feel less alone in their journeys. Coupled with her highly sensitive nature, Katie’s constant reflection leads her to explore profound questions about life, existence, and the human soul. Keep listening to learn about: Philosophical Thinking in Childhood (6:46) The conversation briefly touches on Katie's childhood and her early inclination toward contemplating the nature of existence. Katie recalls questioning the concept of being alive at a young age and how she has always been curious about life and human existence. High Sensitivity and Emotional Processing (9:51) Katie and Jiliane delve into the topic of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and how Katie's high sensitivity impacts her life. They talk about how she is always empathetic and emotionally connected to the world around her, leading to the need for boundaries and self-care practices to manage the emotional load. The Pandemic and Mental Health (28:42) Jiliane and Katie share their experiences and challenges during the COVID-19 pandemic, including the impact of isolation, personal difficulties, and the importance of relationships during such a challenging time. Long-Distance Friendships (35:29) The conversation briefly touches upon the dynamics of maintaining long-distance friendships and how the absence of physical proximity can affect relationships. Jiliane shares her experience of moving around frequently and how she tries to maintain strong friendships despite the distance. Coping Mechanisms and Mental Health (44:41) Katie discusses coping mechanisms she has learned through her work in the mental health industry, including the "leaves on a stream" meditation and creating personal mantras. They delve into the importance of finding strategies that work for individual mental health needs. Finding Balance and Inner Peace (49:03) Jiliane and Katie explore the concept of finding inner peace rather than seeking a constant work-life balance. They emphasize the importance of self-care and embracing different forms of self-expression. Art and Creativity (53:36) Jiliane shares her journey into painting as a form of self-expression and healing during the pandemic. They discuss the evolution of her art and how it has become a way for her to communicate with herself and find moments of peace. When we flip the script, Katie asks Jiliane: How did you start painting? What did it feel like? Follow Katie Morris on Instagram via @warmlykatie [https://www.instagram.com/warmlykatie/] or visit his website: katie-morris.com [https://www.katie-morris.com/]

Messy Action, Borrowed Belief, and Introverted Entrepreneurship with Sadiq

The gem drop from Sadiq: “You have to borrow belief from action-takers. Sometimes, especially introverts… we don't have belief in ourselves. I think when you don't have belief, borrow it until you find your belief, then give their belief back and you carry on.” In this episode, Sadiq Hussain shares his journey from being a self-proclaimed shy boy to becoming a successful business and mindset coach for spiritual introverts. He emphasizes his belief in taking messy action, being unafraid to put oneself out there, and learning from mistakes. He shares how he discovered his calling in coaching and personal development through the positive impact he had on people's lives. As a TEDx speaker and a seasoned podcast host, Sadiq focuses on topics related to mindset, confidence, and servant leadership. He has been featured in prestigious publications such as Yahoo!, London Chambers, and COACH Global & Marketing In Asia Magazines, demonstrating his impressive reach and influence in the personal development and coaching sphere. Sadiq's coaching journey began after a period of exploration and self-discovery, marked by several entrepreneurial ventures and learning experiences. His initial career in banking was characterized by shyness and limited self-expression, but this phase ignited his desire for personal development. He describes his transformation into an action-oriented individual who is passionate about helping and uplifting others. His journey includes experiences in various businesses, including e-commerce, and a significant paradigm shift sparked by reading "Rich Dad Poor Dad." The conversation between Jiliane and Sadiq delves into the concept of attracting clients through value and energy rather than aggressively seeking them out. They also touch on the similarities and differences in their approaches to action.  Keep listening to learn about: Personal Development Coaching (2:00) Sadiq shares his journey from overcoming shyness to becoming a coach and mindset influencer. The key focus is on finding one's purpose and taking deliberate action. Cultural Influence and Family Expectations (40:12) Jiliane and Sadiq touch on the cultural backgrounds they come from, highlighting the impact of family expectations, especially regarding seeking help and pursuing non-traditional career paths such as entrepreneurship. Support Networks and Finding Like-Minded Individuals (49:43) Sadiq underscores the significance of finding support networks and connecting with like-minded individuals. He discusses the importance of seeking out people who share his values, vision, and goals, and how these connections can contribute to personal growth and success. Self-Care and Well-Being (32:23) Sadiq emphasizes the role of self-care in his life, particularly through exercise and sleep, as crucial for maintaining his well-being and ensuring he can continue to help others effectively. This theme underscores the importance of taking care of oneself while being a giver and a coach. Overcoming Introverted Tendencies (31:20) The conversation delves into strategies for introverted individuals to overcome overthinking and decision paralysis, especially in the context of entrepreneurship. Sadiq advises on building connections with action-oriented people and finding ways to add value to their lives. Content Creation and Authenticity (1:42:39) Jiliane seeks advice on creating content, particularly videos, as an introverted entrepreneur. Sadiq emphasizes the importance of authenticity, speaking from the heart, and not striving for perfection when producing content to inspire and connect with others. When we flip the script, Sadiq asks Jiliane: “How did your childhood experiences and upbringing affect how you express empathy?” Follow Sadiq Hussain on Instagram via @coachsadiq [https://www.instagram.com/coachsadiq/] or visit his website: sadiqhussain.com [https://sadiqhussain.com/]

Addiction, Forgiveness, and Fatherhood

The gem drop from Jimmy: “I think the greatest way to get forgiveness is to change. Really show them that you're sorry… and never do it again.”  In this episode, we talk about Jimmy DeFalco's journey from addict to grateful father and coach. While he now focuses on fatherhood, fitness, and mindset - that was not always at the center of his life. Jimmy shares personal experiences and struggles that led him to his lowest point and highlights the power of claiming personal responsibility and its role in transforming yourself.  Jimmy DeFalco is a coach and motivational speaker who has dedicated his life to helping fathers become the best versions of themselves. Despite a challenging upbringing in an environment reminiscent of "The Wolf of Wall Street," Jimmy's journey took him down a path of drug addiction and self-destruction. However, he managed to turn his life around by taking ownership, seeking forgiveness, and making significant changes. Jimmy's personal journey and experiences have fueled his passion for helping others. His coaching program aims to create a safe space for men to share their feelings, be held accountable, and break free from self-limiting beliefs. Jimmy's own transformation serves as a powerful example of what's possible when one commits to personal growth and change. To help our listeners, Jimmy offers practical advice for fathers looking to make positive changes in their lives. He suggests focusing on fitness and nutrition for oneself and involving children in these activities. Additionally, he recommends asking children for feedback on how to improve as a parent and being open to making necessary changes. Keep listening to learn about: The Awakened Father Coaching Program (1:33) Jimmy discusses how his coaching program aims to help men, particularly fathers, improve various aspects of their lives, including physical fitness, mental health, and emotional well-being. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for men to express themselves. Routines and Self-Care (37:03) Jiliane and Jimmy talk about the importance of morning and evening routines in their daily lives. Jimmy shares his own routines, including practices like gratitude journaling, visualization, stretching, and supplements, while highlighting their significance for personal growth and well-being. The Role of Partners in Personal Growth and Recovery (47:38) The conversation shifts towards the role of Jimmy's fiance in his life and his journey of recovery. They discuss how partners can provide vital support and contribute to personal growth and recovery, emphasizing the importance of having a strong support system. Follow Jimmy DeFalco on Instagram: @theawakenedfather [https://www.instagram.com/theawakenedfather/]

Self-Discovery, Mentorship, and Personal Growth with Grace

The gem drop from Grace: “Regardless if there's pain involved, or challenges involved, at the end of it, you're going to grow somehow.” In this episode, Jiliane and Grace delve into the evolution of Jiliane's life and mindset over time. Jiliane reflects on her role as the eldest in an immigrant family, highlighting the weight of unconscious expectations placed on her. She notes the pressure to conform to certain career paths and life choices, such as becoming a doctor, lawyer, or accountant, while also shouldering the responsibility of setting an example for her younger siblings. As the conversation goes on, Jiliane and Grace emphasize the significance of embracing change and the unknown for personal growth. They talk about Jiliane's journey of starting her own business, "The Organization Organization," and her transformation from a high-stress career to a lifestyle focused on art and mental health.  Grace raises the topic of negative reactions and seeking validation from loved ones for one's dreams and aspirations. Jiliane shares her experience of facing negativity, and how she learned to trust her own decisions. She underscores the importance of vulnerability in relationships and the need to have open and honest conversations about sensitive topics. Grace highlights the contrast between Jiliane's previous role and her current lifestyle as a full-time artist. They touch on the unexpected turns in life and how embracing change and being true to oneself can lead to growth and fulfillment. Keep listening to learn about: Mentorship and Personal Growth (28:34) Jiliane and Grace touch on the importance of mentorship in personal and professional growth. They discuss how mentors have played a crucial role in guiding them through different stages of life and business development. Building and Nurturing a Supportive Community (31:43) Jiliane emphasizes the significance of having a strong and supportive community around you. She shares her experience of relying on her network of friends, mentors, and acquaintances for guidance and encouragement. Embracing Change and Taking Personal Initiatives (52:51) Jiliane and Grace’s discussion highlights the role of personal agency and decision-making, particularly in the face of challenges, negative feedback, and societal expectations. Embracing change, taking calculated risks, and prioritizing self-care are central themes. When we flip the script, Grace asks Jiliane: What did you feel were your expectations in life growing up? What childhood experiences led you to believe those expectations?