Episode 13.2: You Don’t Know Your Bonobos

Episode 13.3: Knights of the Not-Round Tables

Finally at the end of this terrible book, Christa and Sarah tackle COUPLE - Eggerichs’ theory of what all women need from men. Not surprising, Eggerichs’ men struggle with providing their spouses with basic human needs, like openness and loyalty, because. well, men, but Eggerichs is here to save their marriages one acronym and anecdote at a time. Eggerichs reveals some disturbing insights about how ‘men’ tend to view women - controlling, contemptuous, vexatious - but that by overriding these ideas and occasionally giving wives a hug or a birthday card, they too can have successful marriages free of conflict (without turning ‘pink’). Christa and Sarah note that in the evangelical structure set out by Eggerichs, husbands freely receive all of the COUPLE benefits oozing ‘naturally’ from wives (closeness, openness, understanding, peacemaking, loyalty, esteem) in addition to their CHAIRS (conquest, hierarchy, authority, insight, relationship, sexuality) whilst wives struggle to get basic needs met…with no extra bells or whistles.  Ep13.3: Knights of the Not-Round Tables Inviting Doom Podcast Download [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6315816992af6608d5a60709/t/68bf107423b83b0f4ad81ef8/1757352674899/E13.3+-+Knights+of+the+Not-Round+Tables.mp3]

Episode 13.2: You Don’t Know Your Bonobos

Christa and Sarah leap into Part 2 of the terrible marriage book, “Love & Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, released in 2004. In this episode, they attempt to tackle Eggerich’s CHAIRS prescription for floundering marriages, Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Respect and of course, Sexuality, but find it difficult amidst the many highly-problematic and contradictory ideas underwriting his theory. They try. This episode focuses on the issues that arise when partners are told to reduce each other to ‘pink’ or ‘blue’, and points at some of the misogynistic underpinnings that keep Eggerichs theory afloat…ones that can lend themselves to abuse, isolation, and stunted growth. Ep13.2: You Don't Know Your Bonobos Inviting Doom Podcast Download [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6315816992af6608d5a60709/t/67c9451cda5b9e26ec1b28d4/1757301498845/E13.2+-+You+Don_t+Know+Your+Bonobos.mp3]

Episode 13.1: Buckle Up for Love & Respect

Christa and Sarah return to an evangelical favourite: bad marriage books. Whether this journey continues on to additional bad marriage books, nobody knows, but for now they start with discussing Dr. Emerson Eggerich’s much-adored “Love & Respect” 2004 release which they both had read (and accepted) prior to marriage. This episode delves into Dr. Emerson’s theory about love and respect that he claims is god-revealed, how women and men can save their marriages if they accept their essentialist roles and deepest (differing) needs, the overarching themes of the book, and the first introductory chapters. If you are not in favour of rants about complementarianism and essentialist tropes, these episodes are not for you. Ep13.1 - Buckle Up for Love & Respect Inviting Doom Podcast

Episode 12: One Bad Apple

Christa and Sarah take an uncomfortable deep dive into the Adam and Eve story and the underlying teachings perpetuated regarding obedience, purity, punishment, and forgiveness. They have an honest discussion about deep theological flaws and what the Eden story - as told by evangelicalism - reveals about God’s character, and discuss what true justice and an actually loving framework should have looked like for God’s children. E12: One Bad Apple Inviting Doom Podcast Download [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6315816992af6608d5a60709/t/652f6e5f1740c55f1541f010/1735421974492/E12+-+One+Bad+Apple.mp3]

Episode 11: Hillsong & Ducatis

Not wanting to miss out on discussing the impacts of Hillsong’s far-reaching culture and mega-church experiences in general, Christa and Sarah share their thoughts on FX’s “The Secrets of Hillsong” documentary and the undergirding values perpetuated by mega-church structures. From Christa’s own 10-year stint in a mega-church, to looking at broader cultural norms that make “mega” feel natural to modern evangelicals, they question the lack of discernment, and poke at the drivers of mega-ministries: endless growth, expansionism, and monoculture. E11: Hillsong & Ducatis Inviting Doom Podcast Download [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6315816992af6608d5a60709/t/652472cddda32d278d1348bd/1697605985527/E11+-+Hillsong+%26+Ducatis.mp3]