Cookouts, Cheaters & Compulsions

What is Your All and Why Can't We Have It?

We spend a lot of time chasing the idea of "having it all," but what does that actually mean? In this episode, we discuss what our version of "all" looks like. Is it financial freedom, a fulfilling career, a happy relationship, good health, more time, less stress, or all of the above or none of the above? We explore the dreams we have for our lives, the obstacles that seem to stand in the way, and whether having it all is even possible. Join us for an honest conversation about expectations, priorities, happiness, and the question we all eventually ask ourselves: if we know what we want, why does it feel so hard to get there? As always, expect plenty of laughs, real-life stories, and a little chaos along the way.

Unapologetically Ourselves

In Episode 24, we're talking about what it means to be unapologetically yourself in a world that always seems to have an opinion. From people pleasing and self doubt to embracing our quirks, flaws, and strengths, we're sharing our thoughts on learning to stop shrinking ourselves to make others comfortable. This conversation is honest, relatable, and full of the kind of real talk you've come to expect from us. Whether you've spent years worrying about what others think or you've finally stepping into your confidence, this episode is a reminder that life gets a whole lot lighter when you stop apologizing for being who you are. Grab your drink , settle in, and join us for another messy unfiltered conversation.

Summer House, Side Eyes & Double Standards

This week the messes are diving headfirst into the world of double standards, and trust us, we have thoughts. From the things women get judged for that men get a free pass on, to the expectations that somehow still exist in 2026, nothing is off limits. Of course, we couldn't ignore the Summer House Reunion Part 1 drama either. We break down the season, without spilling the tea on the reunion. We tried to not spoil it for those who hadn't seen it yet. This one is definitely a girls' chat, but the guys might learn a thing or two if they listen. Grab your coffee, wine, or emotional support snack, and join us for another unfiltered episode of Life's Messes with the Hess's. Mess of the week: Double standards everywhere Mood: Side eye activated

Where'd You Come From??

Episode 22 is basically what happens when conversations take a hard left, forget where they were going and somehow still end up entertaining. From random thoughts and side quests to "how'd we even get here?" moments, this episode is chaotic in the best way. Of course can't get by without a little trauma right. No direction, no outline, just real conversations, laughs, opinions nobody asked for, and the usual mess. Buckle up because honestly...we don't even know where this one came from.

Cookouts, Cheaters & Compulsions

This week is pure chaotic energy from start to finish. We talk about Jodi and Jack's Nashville trip, Betty's family cookout adventures, and then somehow spiral directly into affairs, serial cheaters, emotional cheating versus physical cheating, and whether "situational cheating" is just a fancy excuse for bad behavior. Add in some weird OCD habits and random side tangents, and honestly...this episode is all over the place in the best way possible. It's messy, unfiltered, funny, uncomfortable, and way too relatable. Basically a normal conversation for us.