Midlife Cry, Sis (Formerly known as The Bettys Podcast)

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Welcome to the Midlife Cry, Sis podcast! We are Alexis and Mary, and we want to help you: to feel loved and accepted in your home and community, to not feel alone in your emotional struggles, to embrace who you really are, to let go of expectations, and to channel your inner Queen and LET HER SHINE. Our mission is to help women (and those who love them) to find light in dark places, to empower them with confidence in God and in themselves, and to appreciate their own journeys through life and faith. These podcasts are wide-ranging conversations about love, family, and embracing our pasts while envisioning a future where we’re not afraid to light it up, rise above, and get through this crazy thing called midlife. Are you ready for a good laugh and/or cry? You’re in the right place, Queen.

137 - Emotional Immaturity

Hello, Queens! We start today’s episode with a Mama Ximena tip of the day/pearl of wisdom: “Be patient with yourself. Wait until the water is clear–then you can think. Don’t try to think in a whirlwind.” Or a whirlpool. How’s Feral February going for you? Lexy is dejunking, to help make her psyche as strong and brilliant as possible. And Mary will never pass up a chance to plug Gretchen Rubin [https://gretchenrubin.com/], who says that outer order leads to inner calm. Read her manifesto here [https://gretchenrubin.com/articles/outer-order-inner-calm-manifesto/], and check out her book Outer Order, Inner Calm here [https://gretchenrubin.com/books/outer-order-inner-calm/]. (And here’s a link to our ever-expanding Amazon book recommendations! [https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/OL1GRUYOJH0Z?ref_=wl_share]) Mary has been thinking about how the concept of “Fight, Flight, or Freeze’ can apply to many different situations–from housekeeping to emotional immaturity. She mentions again the We Can Do Hard Things podcast [https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/], particularly the two-part series on emotional immaturity (episodes 263 and 264) with Clinical Psychologist Dr. Lindsay C. Gibson [http://www.lindsaygibsonpsyd.com/]. Listen here on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/263-healing-from-emotionally-immature-parents-with/id1564530722?i=1000637517353] or here on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/344qecXTx793cJhIUBjl54?si=TrS80BLERCaa9qkxS3NnwA]. We refer to the “Islands of Intelligence” theory (read more about it here [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0166411508627594] and here [https://pz.harvard.edu/projects/multiple-intelligences]), and how different people can be geniuses at different things. But as the saying goes: "Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid" (often attributed to Einstein, but nobody is really sure. See this USA Today article written about it [https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/factcheck/2021/04/27/fact-check-einstein-never-said-quote-fish-climbing-trees/7384370002/]). Here’s the link the article from Om Swami [https://omswami.com/] called Four Kinds of Maturity [https://os.me/four-kinds-of-maturity/]. And here’s the link to the article from verywellhealth.com about Emotional Immaturity [https://www.verywellhealth.com/emotional-immaturity-warning-signs-5218497]. If you like what you hear, please visit our Patreon page [https://www.patreon.com/MidlifeCrySisPodcast]! Support starts at just $5/month. Remember to subscribe to our YouTube channel, if you’d like to see a more interactive and entertaining version of this episode! Check it out here [https://www.youtube.com/@MidlifeCrySis-ci9ip]! Please get in touch! Send us an email at midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com [midlifecrysispodcast@gmail.com] and please follow us on Instagram @midlifecrysis_podcast [https://www.instagram.com/midlifecrysis_podcast/], or join our Facebook group here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1027773071640717/]. We’re also on TikTok as TheBettysPodcast [https://www.tiktok.com/@thebettyspodcast] and on Twitter @bettys_podcast [https://twitter.com/bettys_podcast]. We want to hear from you! Your comments and messages really help us know what you want to hear and how we can improve. If this show resonates with you, please make sure to share & subscribe, and give us a rating & review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Thank you for listening today, Queens. Remember to treat yourself like a toddler, and go take a nap. We love you!

1 jul 2024 - 35 min