Keeping Up with the Kids (On Social Media)

Keeping Up with the Kids (On Social Media)

We're back this week with a listener-requested episode! Thank you to you, listener! For many millennials and Gen Z-ers (is that even what you're called?? idk), social media comes naturally. We know how to use it, what platforms are in, and we can pick up what we don't know quickly. But for the parents of us 20-&-30-something-year-old teenagers, it's not quite as easy. And when they want to befriend us online, it can feel like they're encroaching on our space - and embarrassing us while doing it. This week, we're sharing our different perspectives on navigating social media as a parent, whether our kids want us to keep up with it, and what it really means to be "cringe". We talk about why the way you engage with your parents/children on social media is contingent upon your relationship IRL (in real life), how to determine if your motivation is connection or control, and why it's normal for your kid to think everything you do is weird as they search for independence. We also discuss the impact of trying, when to set boundaries, and why we need to appreciate the corny videos our parents send us. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

"Everything Happens for a Reason", & Other Platitudes

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", "When one door closes another door opens", "You're only given the battles that you can handle": Quotes in frames at your local HomeGoods, or things you say to people when they're going through a tough time and you have no idea what else to say? (Or perhaps both)? This week we're talking about platitudes - the somewhat superficial, surface-level advice we give when we want to make someone else feel better but don't want to give it a lot of thought - and whether they are all bad or can actually be helpful. We discuss the various reasons they get used, why it can feel dismissive to be on the receiving end of one, toxic positivity & when offering platitudes can come across as selfish, and why sometimes the most effective thing you can do is say "that sucks".  We also chat about the wisdom hiding under the surface of well-known cliches, why who says it to you makes a difference, and how "sloganizing" in therapy content leads to a misunderstanding of what therapy actually is. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

That Don't Impress Us Much (Or Does It?)

We saw That's The Point Podcast with Kristin and John do an episode on this, so we're doing an episode on this (with our own twist). Today, we're having goof & gab time where we talk about the things we used to be impressed by that no longer impress us, and the things that actually *do* make the cut these days. We talk about everything from the clean-girl aesthetic and needing to remind people about where you went to college, to being able to navigate public transit in a new city and successfully cook without a recipe...but we'll let you figure out which is which. We also chat about envy, how to both accept your limitations and figure out the things you can change, why what often impresses us reflects our own insecurities, and why we shouldn't be impressed with bare minimum good manners. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Can a Relationship Survive a Partner Cheating?

Cheating is a not-all-that-uncommon occurrence in relationships, but that doesn't make it any less devastating. And if someone cheats, it's normal to think: this is over, leave and never look back. But is it really that simple? Today, we're talking about the complexities of infidelity in a relationship and how to determine if you want to stay with your partner and move forward. We chat about the different types of cheating and how to define what your "line" is, why being a good self-observer can flag potential issues in your relationship before they progress, how to communicate that you've been unfaithful, and why going through your partner's phone is never the answer. We also discuss why cheating is a symptom of issues in a relationship and the people in it, the difference between explaining behavior and excusing it, whether putting restrictions on your partner is ever effective after infidelity has taken place, and whether a relationship can really be repaired once trust has been broken. About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].

Love, Marriage, & Hating Your Spouse

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes...finding everything your partner does kind of annoying and realizing you might actually hate them? Queue the questions: is this normal? Is it just a phase? Is it worth saying anything?  In today's episode, we're talking about how you can go from the adoration of your wedding day to the resentment of everyday life with your partner, and what to do when this happens. We discuss why people can overlook behaviors they dislike early in a relationship, the common times in a marriage that partners will express frustration with one another, the downsides to voicing your disdain of your significant other, and what (not) to say when someone is complaining about their partner to you. We also chat about why you shouldn't disparage your partner in front of your kids, why trying to avoid conflict can actually backfire, when couples therapy can be helpful, and the cost of making "man-hating" cool.  About Your Hosts:  Beth is a licensed, Ph.D. clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience treating patients of all ages.  Joyce is a millennial just trying to figure it all out. Note: Advice and opinions on this show should not be considered as treatment. Please contact your healthcare provider if you are in need of individualized help. Other Stuff: Follow us on Instagram: @noyourenotdyingpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/noyourenotdyingpodcast/] Submit your topic ideas and questions here [https://forms.gle/Cq6WoTJNh8wYSvLJ6].