On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jays Must Listens: You’re Approaching Dating Wrong! (Use THIS Blueprint to Attract the RIGHT Person) Ft. Vanessa Van Edwards & Jillian Turecki

How do you know if someone’s really right for you?   Has there ever been a time you thought someone was right for you but turned out wrong?   Today, Jay brings together four of today’s most insightful voices on love and relationships, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jillian Turecki, Sadia Khan, and Lori Gottlieb, for a deep and honest look at what it really takes to find meaningful connection in the modern world. They share how our signals, habits, and self-perception shape our experiences in dating far more than luck or timing ever could. Vanessa breaks down the subtle science of attraction, and why confidence and openness often matter more than appearance. Jillian helps us face our fear of rejection, reminding us that love isn’t about finding “the one,” but about choosing and growing with someone intentionally.   Sadia and Lori take us deeper, showing how self-esteem, honesty, and emotional maturity determine who we allow into our lives. Sadia challenges the patterns that keep us stuck with the wrong people, while Lori highlights the courage it takes to speak our truth and set boundaries early on. Together, their insights form a roadmap for dating that feels healthy, grounded, and real.   In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Confidence Through Body Language How to Date Without Burning Out How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection How to Choose the Right Person, Not the Perfect One How to Stop Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love   Love isn’t something that happens by accident, it’s something you learn to create with intention. Every experience, whether it leads to a spark or a lesson, brings you closer to understanding what you truly need and deserve.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty.   Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].   Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]    What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:50 The Flirtation Signals You’re Missing 09:19 The Three Biggest Dating Mistakes 13:32 Rejection is Like a Muscle  16:37 You Shouldn’t Rush Real Love 21:17 The Fear of the Unknown in Relationships 22:22 Who You Give Your Energy To Shapes Your Love Life 24:29 Why Are We Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People?  26:01 The Real Reason You’re Struggling to Find a Partner 27:49 Are Your Standards Too High? 29:16 Is It Ever Okay to Ghost? 30:52 The Power of Being Honest About What You Want 32:47 Your Present Habits Reveal Your Relationship’s Future See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Neuroscientist Emily McDonald: #1 Science-Based Hack to Rewire Your Brain to ACTUALLY Manifest the Life You Want

Do you believe the brain can be trained to manifest? Do you think it’s more about mindset or action? Today, Jay sits down with neuroscientist and creator Emily McDonald to explore how rewiring your brain can transform every area of your life. Emily shares how understanding the science behind your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors can help you break free from cycles of fear, self-doubt, and procrastination. She explains that the brain’s natural instinct is to keep you safe, not help you grow, which is why so many people feel stuck even when they’re trying to move forward. Through relatable examples and neuroscience-backed tools, Emily reveals how awareness, intention, and identity shifts can create real and lasting change. Jay and Emily dive into the psychology of motivation, discussing why we often delay the things we care about most and how “cheap dopamine” from social media and instant gratification keeps us from deeper fulfillment. Emily explains how to retrain your brain to crave long-term rewards, not quick hits of pleasure, and how to use self-compassion and small wins to build momentum. Together, she and Jay unpack the science of manifestation, why it’s not about wishing for things to happen but about wiring your brain to become a match for the life you want. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Rewire Your Brain for Change How to Break Free from Feeling Stuck How to Overcome Fear of Success How to Stop Relying on Cheap Dopamine How to Build Motivation Through Self-Reward How to Attract Healthy Love by Becoming a Match for It True transformation doesn’t happen overnight, it begins the moment you decide to understand yourself more deeply. When you learn how your mind works, you realize that every setback, fear, and doubt isn’t a failure, it’s simply your brain trying to protect you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:00 Relationships Begin with Intention 02:39 When Your Identity Keeps You Stuck 05:42 The Power of the Labels You Use 08:17 Are You Afraid of Being Seen? 10:08 Label the Fears Holding You Back 12:12 Play Out Every Fear to the End 13:48 Stop Chasing Cheap Dopamine! 17:31 3 Ways to Naturally Boost Dopamine 22:29 The Power of Having Something to Look Forward To 25:22 The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything 27:00 Why Desperation Blocks Success 31:29 Discovering Your Deepest Core Value 32:56 The Power of Understanding Your Own Brain 39:41 Surround Yourself with Expansive Minds 43:07 The 3-Step Science Backed Manifestation Tool 47:39 Do You Believe in Divine Timing? 49:09 Turning Jealousy into Inspiration 51:51 Worthiness Begins with Self-Love 56:13 How to Overcome Limiting Beliefs 01:02:14 What Are You Building Within Yourself? 01:04:19 Let Go of the Need for Approval 01:09:53 Love Finds You When You Least Expect It 01:15:51 Emily on Final Five Episode Resources: Emily McDonald | Website [https://www.emonthebrain.com/] Emily McDonald | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCq1SlvOJUkkRA0aAFnIW_4A] Emily McDonald | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/emonthebrain] Emily McDonald | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@emonthebrain] Emily McDonald | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emonthebrain/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Jay & Radhi Talk About the Pressure and Expectations Around Parenthood

In this first episode of On Purpose with Radhi, Jay opens up a conversation many of us have faced but rarely unpack, being asked, “When are you having kids?” What seems like a casual question often carries a weight that touches on biology, cultural expectations, financial realities, and deeply personal struggles. Together, Jay and Radhi peel back the layers of why this question can feel so triggering, especially for women, and why the assumptions behind it often miss the heart of the matter. They explore how family pressure, societal timelines, and even social media comparisons can make people feel like they’re “behind,” while statistics actually show that having children later in life has become the norm. From the challenges of IVF and miscarriages to the fear of balancing career and motherhood, Jay and Radhi shed light on the unspoken realities couples quietly carry. They remind us that true preparation for parenthood isn’t about perfect timing, it’s about awareness, acceptance, and readiness for change.  In this episode, you'll learn: How to Handle Pressure About Having Kids How to Prepare for the Real Changes of Parenthood How to Know if You’re Ready for Children How to Separate Society’s Timeline From Your Own How to Support Friends Struggling With Fertility The milestones that matter most are the ones that feel true to you, not the ones dictated by outside voices. Fulfillment is not found in comparison but in living with intention, compassion, and alignment to your own values. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:45 When Are You Going to Have Kids? 03:53 So, Do You Want to Have Kids? 07:57 Are You Prepared to Raise Kids? 12:31 A Different Mindset on Being a Parent 16:23 Delaying Parenthood Because of Financial Constraints 21:16 Parenthood Equates to Success 23:20 Can a Child Fix a Broken Relationship? 29:02 Are You Willing to Sacrifice Your Career to Become a Parent? 32:32 Live the Life You Want For Yourself Episode Resources: Radhi Devlukia | Website [https://www.radhidevlukia.com/] Radhi Devlukia | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@radhidevlu] Radhi Devlukia | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/radhidevlukia] Radhi Devlukia | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/radhidevlukia1/] Radhi Devlukia | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@radhidevlukia] Joyfull [https://www.joyfullbook.com/] A Really Good Cry [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-really-good-cry/id1708895338] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

7 Micro Habits That Will INSTANTLY Reset Your Mind & Boost Energy (Without Changing Your Whole Routine!)

Do you have a quick way to reset when you’re overwhelmed? What’s something you wish worked better when you try to reset? Today, Jay introduces a simple yet powerful 7-Day Micro Habit Reset, a series of small, intentional habits to help you pause, realign, and begin again with a clear mind and a calm heart. If you’ve been feeling drained, distracted, or disconnected from your goals, Jay reminds us that meaningful change doesn’t come from completely reinventing your routine, it starts with the small, mindful shifts you make every day. Each habit is grounded in science, simplicity, and self-awareness. Jay explores how small practices, like expressing gratitude, taking a moment to reflect, or even embracing brief moments of discomfort, such as a 20-second cold rinse, can reset your energy, shift your perspective, and build emotional resilience. From writing just one sentence in your journal to checking in with your “future self,” these micro habits help you reclaim the calm and clarity that stress often takes away. This episode is a gentle reminder to slow down, find balance in the chaos, and trust that it’s the small, consistent actions that create real, lasting change. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Reset Your Mind in 3 Breaths How to Start Your Day Without Stress How to Start Your Day with Clarity, Not Chaos How to Create Calm When Life Feels Messy How to Reclaim Time by Resetting Small Habits Change doesn’t have to be overwhelming. It begins with the smallest steps, the quiet moments when you choose to breathe, observe, and reset instead of react. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]   What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:02 The 3-Breath Reset 07:05 Start Your Morning With Natural Light, Not Screens! 09:53 The 2-Minute Tidy 13:09 The Gratitude Text 16:16 The 20-Second Cold Rinse 17:48 The 1-Sentence Journal to End the Day with Peace 20:02 The “Future You” Check-In See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Lori Gottlieb: Stop Mistaking Calm for Boring! (Follow THIS Simple Rule to Build REAL Love)

When was the last time you felt truly at ease with someone? Do you feel that kind of ease often, or was it rare? In this special live episode recorded at the DAR Constitution Hall in Washington, D.C., Jay sits down with bestselling author and therapist Lori Gottlieb to explore the hidden dynamics that shape our relationships. Together, they unpack why so many of us feel the need to “perform” for love and how fear of rejection, perfectionism, and old emotional patterns can quietly erode connection. Lori shares how true intimacy begins with acceptance, not just of our partners, but of ourselves, and why showing up authentically is the only way to feel genuinely seen. Through humor, warmth, and real audience interactions, Jay and Lori dive into topics like vulnerability, emotional safety, and the balance between “me time” and “we time.” They share how to stop trying to fix or control your partner, how to communicate without defensiveness, and how to build relationships rooted in curiosity and compassion instead of criticism. This conversation is a reminder that love isn’t about finding someone who reads your mind, it’s about learning each other’s language, embracing imperfections, and creating a safe space where both people can grow. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Stop Performing for Love How to Create Emotional Safety in a Relationship How to Let Your Partner Be Vulnerable How to Build Connection Through Acceptance How to Communicate Without Getting Defensive How to Balance “Me Time” and “We Time” How to Love Without Trying to Fix Love is not a performance, it’s a practice. It’s built in the quiet moments when we choose to listen instead of defend, to understand instead of control, and to show up even when it feels uncomfortable. Every relationship, whether romantic or otherwise, becomes stronger when we replace judgment with curiosity and fear with honesty. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:54 Earning Love Through Real Connection 03:16 Why You Should Speak Up Early 06:51 Creating a Safe Space for Vulnerability 11:20 Can You Love Someone Without Loving Yourself? 13:55 How Acceptance Strengthens Your Relationship 20:37 Compatibility vs. Chemistry: What Matters More? 25:07 Do Couples Need Individual Therapy Too? 28:05 A Live Couples Therapy Session 44:06 Communicate Clearly Not Through Assumptions 47:08 Healthy Ways to Approach Conflict 51:28 Understanding the Many Forms of Love 57:46 Are Both of Your Needs Being Met? 01:01:44 Learning to Embrace and Communicate Differences Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiIETTq2It3OzW8_WYRPTyQ] Lori Gottlieb | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/] Lori Gottlieb | Website [https://lorigottlieb.com/] Dear Therapists Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696] Maybe You Should Talk to Someone [https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216?ref_=ast_author_dp] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.