On Purpose with Jay Shetty

What would you tell your 14-year-old self? How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice? Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world. Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings. Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures How to Align Your Career with Personal Values How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind.   With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: * 00:00 Intro * 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? * 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? * 10:54 Love What You’re Doing * 18:59 Stuck in Life * 22:06 Trust the Process * 26:04 Patience * 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences * 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? * 35:57 Raise a Reader * 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? * 45:00 General Parenting Tip * 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love * 58:50 Do What’s Important to You * 01:02:04 What is at Stake? * 01:06:03 Comparison Game * 01:09:36 Dad Guilt * 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent * 01:19:11 This Stops with Me      Episode Resources: * Ryan Holiday | Website [https://ryanholiday.net/] * Ryan Holiday | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/ryanholiday] * Ryan Holiday | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/ryanholiday/] * Ryan Holiday | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@ryan_holiday] * Ryan Holiday | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYmBIKsrzIjdHRuqs2I8nHA]  * Ryan Holiday | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanholiday/] * The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids [https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Dad-Meditations-Parenting-Raising-ebook/dp/B0B8H4ZTNY?ref_=ast_author_dp&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.QEdGOvL0WNt9ukPbxk4JBS7ekO7YFsq6YU7Qk51_Mc1XsV-L2rYGQGh-KskpSiN0uvQvINWUcmFLFHbqfHgQgl3B-oiKIwiT5jPsrgHm-wZBMtUdKVdd0kHn07eo9V_ZSjod03CZu1KrCXAHYWWhjz6d8E6PL_zhZLgQ1yZl4-52KpGvYokzuTOxFWAx-ezs0PAOQqa3nL4W-q3yImYOwXQ4dHncvsTShEbpn0jZyA4.T-Wb1qb7FFHCxO0XlTYdyYXFApa-PapTjZyqpAvLL_g&dib_tag=AUTHOR] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip? What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone? Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life.  Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Expand Your Worldview  How to Boost Self-Reliance How to Connect with New People and Cultures How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip? 04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself 11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence 13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview  16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance 19:49 #5: Master Your Mind 21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction 23:09 #7: Vigilance 24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

What are your emotional needs? How do you communicate them clearly? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically. Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships. Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships. In this interview, you'll learn: How to recognize trauma bonds How to break the cycle of reactivity How to set healthy boundaries How to cultivate self-awareness How to develop emotional resilience How to foster a growth mindset in relationships Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: * 00:00 Intro * 03:44 You Create Change * 06:58 Toxic Family Members * 11:21 Change is Voluntary * 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions * 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships * 22:58 The Unmet Needs * 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others * 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos * 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? * 41:55 Panic Attack * 48:54 Chronic Illness * 53:54 Countering Beliefs * 57:17 Physiological Shifts * 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? * 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity * 01:06:24 Inner Child Work * 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically Episode Resources: * Nicole LePera | Website [https://theholisticpsychologist.com/] * Nicole LePera | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist] * Nicole LePera | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/] * Nicole LePera | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist] * Nicole LePera | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtEWTaMjqOH8J1Gy06Ey0Yg]  * Nicole LePera | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nicole-lepera-454b558/] * How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self [https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X] * How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships [https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/B0BZ9K91DS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28BY0OAVY09O4&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.x-xxx_c-u9F3-5b_SoFF9fZDEqS7QA-0dbL1VC6s4aqpmAPqP1CDF1C7nD3s2IDV4SzTR7GcgKAWnWToz0vHpPtvqigkCuctv7Uecehma6YYHHbsm_AwPx3jKmBkSF2oq9A8KOQLWZtWoMYq_oDLsfmTaOqzBQ_zMcoolB_XgwZjbbrL-vAkJiU6tlo4GUETharXmpMDpJBeRAq4YiaEsfUiI4YTlAAYLcPtbBK3MLU.VVkOCvaw-KThSVsVz0iP9uZdSH47uw5UCsejr0CPL4c&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+be+the+love+you+seek&qid=1725847806&sprefix=how+to+be+the+%2Caps%2C341&sr=8-1] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

What lessons have you learned from your past 12 months? How have your goals evolved over the past months? Today, Jay reflects on the 12 key lessons he has learned over the past year. He begins by discussing the idea that the seeds we plant—our actions and intentions—manifest as either flowers or weeds, the importance of pursuing meaningful actions for personal fulfillment rather than external validation, and how to distinguish between setting goals and choosing growth, underscoring that genuine progress requires a commitment to personal development rather than simply aiming for outcomes. The episode highlights the importance of protecting one's purpose from external distractions and maintaining a clear focus on one's path, the challenges we face as opportunities to grow into who we're meant to be, and the concept of defining experiences proactively to shape our own narratives rather than letting circumstances dictate our identities. In this episode, you'll learn: How to handle envy with love How to act for fulfillment, not praise How to focus on growth, not just goals How to guard your purpose from distractions How to use challenges to evolve How to stay open to unexpected help Stay open to the unexpected, protect your passions, and choose growth over comfort. By doing so, you not only transform your own life but also inspire those around you to do the same. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 Lessons Learned in the Past 12 Months 03:50 #1: The seeds you planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today. 07:08 #2: Envy will erode your life. 10:27 #3: People forget things quickly, do the right thing and what's meaningful to you. 13:06 #4: Everyone sets goals, not everyone chooses growth. 15:00 #5: Don't let anyone deter you from your purpose. 16:45 #6: Your challenge is designed for you to become who you're meant to become. 18:37 #7: You'll let things define you if you don't define them first. 19:35 #8: Help can come from unlikely sources in unlikely ways. 21:34 #9: Try to see things as an invitation, not an impediment.  24:07 #10: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take the stairs, the elevator, or come through the roof. 25:17 #11: The people you leave behind will feel left behind no matter what you do. 26:35 #12 Love is not enough. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Are you struggling to overcome your past trauma? Are you looking for ways to heal from it? Today, Jay sits down with renowned reggaeton artist and songwriter Nicky Jam. Nicky's music career took off after a series of successful mixtapes and collaborations with other artists, including Daddy Yankee, with whom he formed the iconic duo Los Cangris. His work has earned him international fame and multiple awards, establishing him as a major influence in the reggaeton and Latin trap genres.  Nicky recounts his first foray into music, packing groceries and freestyling at a supermarket, which inadvertently launched his career despite his young age and the informal nature of his work. He opens up about the difficulties of his upbringing, including his mother’s struggle with substance abuse and prostitution, shaping his understanding of normalcy and family life. This background set the stage for his initial break into the music industry, where early rejections and setbacks paved the way for his eventual success in the Puerto Rican mixtape scene and beyond. Together with Jay, Nicky also discusses the challenges of maintaining authenticity and personal happiness amidst fame, expressing discomfort with being seen as a role model and emphasizing the importance of understanding and support for mental health, especially for men in the public eye. Despite ongoing struggles with PTSD, anxiety, and the scars of his traumatic past, Nicky remains hopeful and driven, looking forward to continuing his career and making a positive impact through his work and personal experiences. In this interview, you'll learn: How to handle early setbacks How to deal with the pressure of expectations How to use personal struggles as a source of strength How to maintain creativity under pressure How to find redemption through new opportunities How to help others through your work Nicky's story demonstrates that with unwavering determination and a genuine approach, it's possible to transform challenging beginnings into legacies of success and enduring influence. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: * 00:00 Intro * 03:12 Earliest Childhood Memory * 04:06 First Deal * 06:44 I Was Happy with the Album * 08:15 Life on the Streets * 12:06 There’s a Different World Out There * 15:22 Looking for Billy * 17:20 Simpler or Complicated Life? * 19:05 Commands Don’t Work on Me * 24:58 Battling Alcohol Addiction * 31:06 Drug and Alcohol Problem * 34:20 Finding Help * 36:40 Feeling Alone * 39:18 Almost Dying * 42:52 Prison Life * 45:59 Moving to Columbia * 52:00 My Mom is Different * 54:48 Do You Pray a Lot? * 58:01 Reconciliation * 59:49 Forgiveness * 01:05:31 I’m not Retiring * 01:09:24 My Album is My Story * 01:10:11 Some Misunderstanding People Have * 01:12:37 Surgery and Recovery * 01:13:46 Talking is Therapy * 01:15:12 Nicky on Fast Five Episode Resources: * Nicky Jam | Website [https://nickyjam.com/] * Nicky Jam | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nickyjam] * Nicky Jam | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/NickyJamPR/] * Nicky Jam | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@nickyjam] * Nicky Jam | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpb_iJuhFe8V6rQdbNqfAlQ] Dubbed by ElevenLabs and this link: https://elevenlabs.io/jay_shetty [https://elevenlabs.io/jay_shetty] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.