On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Are you making time for the kind of love you want? Do you feel like you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns? Today, Jay welcomes Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham, hosts of the hit dating podcast U Up?, for a candid, lighthearted look at modern love. Together with Jay, they unpack why dating feels tougher than ever, from app burnout to myths about what it means to be “dateable,” and how negativity online makes the process feel heavier than it is. Instead of rigid rules, they offer a mindset shift: lead with curiosity, keep your attitude light, and build on a life you already love, not one you expect someone else to complete. The conversation dives deeper into the nuances of attraction, commitment, and the subtle ways we self-sabotage. Jared shares how men often end relationships early, not out of rejection, but out of fear of responsibility and the lure of endless options. Jordana, emphasizes how mindset is 70% of dating, and how showing up fulfilled and confident makes you more magnetic than trying to “fit” someone else’s ideal. Together they discuss the unrealistic pressures of the social media highlight reel and how that can warp expectations and undermine authentic connections.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to Date Without the Negativity How to Be the Best Version of Yourself on a Date How to Turn Confusion Into Clear Boundaries How to Avoid Self-Sabotaging in Relationships How to Stay Grounded Amid Social Media Comparisons How to Build Confidence by Building a Full Life Outside Dating The most powerful shift you can make is choosing to approach love with openness, positivity, and confidence in your own worth. When you lead with curiosity instead of fear, with joy instead of judgment, you not only create better connections, but you also become more grounded in who you are. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:36 Negativity Doesn't Make You a Better Dater  07:55 Dating Burnout  14:27 You Shouldn’t Just Rely on Dating Apps! 18:06 The Checklist for Dating 22:34 Staying Single in Your 40s 23:59 The #1 Reason Why Men Go on Dates 27:05 Attitude Is Everything 29:45 What is The Best Relationship Advice? 21:18 How to Be the Best Version of Yourself 35:19 Don't Fall for Social Media Relationships 36:01 Using ChatpGPT to Create Messages 39:00 Why Small Talks Matter 42:06 Do Men Actually Have More Dating Options? 44:51 The One That Got Away 47:42 Are Men and Women Different in Long-Term Relationships? 50:15 Difficult Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have  52:20 The Fear Most Men Have When Dating 57:28 What Makes a Successful Marriage?  01:03:27 Marriage is Choosing Your Partner Every Day  01:05:30 Jared and Jordana on Final Five   Episode Resources: U Up? | YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@uuppodcast] U Up? | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/u.up.podcast/] U Up? | X [https://x.com/uuppodcast] U Up? | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@uuppodcast] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Have you noticed changes in your sleep? Do you sometimes feel more anxious than usual? Today, Jay sits down with Emmy award–winning journalist and bestselling author Tamsen Fadal to open up one of the most overlooked conversations in health and wellness: menopause. Tamsen shares her personal journey of confusion, discovery, and advocacy, breaking down why menopause has been shrouded in taboo for so long and how it impacts not just women’s bodies, but their emotions, relationships, and careers. Together, they explore the often-hidden symptoms of perimenopause, from brain fog and anxiety to disrupted sleep and loss of confidence, and how these challenges spill over into every aspect of life. Tamsen explains the science behind the hormonal shifts, debunks the biggest myths, and reveals practical solutions, from lifestyle changes and stress management to hormone therapy and community support. Most importantly, she reminds women that their best years are not behind them, but ahead. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Spot Early Signs of Perimenopause How to Differentiate Perimenopause from Menopause How to Support Your Family Through Menopause How to Build Healthy Midlife Habits How to Find Community During Transition How to Advocate for Yourself at the Doctor’s Office Every transition comes with challenges, but it also carries the possibility of growth, wisdom, and renewal. By breaking the silence, sharing our experiences, and embracing knowledge, we not only lighten the weight for ourselves but also create space for others to feel seen and understood.  With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].  Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:38 Why Is Talking About Menopause Still So Taboo? 02:38 What Actually Happens to Your Body in Menopause 04:20 There Are Over 100 Symptoms! 06:09 The Hidden Struggles Women Face 08:43 Busting the Biggest Menopause Myths 10:16 The Major Hormonal Shifts Behind It All 13:45 Three Early Warning Signs 15:10 Perimenopause vs. Menopause  17:34 Should You Consider Hormone Therapy? 18:30 Lifestyle Shifts That Actually Make a Difference 22:15 Finding Strength in Community 26:08 Why Women’s Health Needs More Research 27:11 The Risks of Ignoring Symptoms 31:10 Why So Many Miss Perimenopause Signs 33:21 When to See a Menopause Specialist 35:41 What Men Need to Know 38:26 It’s Normal For Your Sex Drive to Change 42:39 Am I Too Young for Menopause? 46:28 The Truth About Hormone Therapy Side Effects 47:08 Menopause, Fertility, and the Overlap 49:20 How to Prepare for Perimenopause 51:30 Do Birth Control Pills Help? 53:03 Inspiring Stories of Women Thriving 55:19 Why It’s More Than “Just Aging” Episode Resources: Tamsen Fadal | Website [https://www.tamsenfadal.com/] Tamsen Fadal | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal/] Tamsen Fadal | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@tamsenfadal] Tamsen Fadal | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/tamsenfadal/] Tamsen Fadal | X [https://x.com/TamsenFadal] Tamsen Fadal | LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamsenfadal/] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

When was the last time you felt genuinely happy with your partner? Do you feel more stressed or more at peace in your relationship? Today, Jay dives into one of the most draining patterns in relationships: trying to change someone who isn’t ready to change. Whether it’s a partner, friend, or family member, we often convince ourselves that if we just love harder, give more, or push in the right way, they’ll finally become the version of themselves we know they could be. Jay reminds us, people don’t change because of our hopes, our timelines, or our pain, they change when they’re ready and when the cost of staying the same finally outweighs the cost of growth. Jay dives into the psychology of why we hold on to someone’s potential, even when their actions show otherwise, often rooted in our own unmet needs or fear of being alone. He reminds us that the clearest way to see reality is to believe what people do, not what they say, and that patterns, not promises, reveal who someone truly is right now. Jay also challenges the belief that trying to change someone is an act of love, showing how it’s more often a form of control that keeps us from confronting our own discomfort. You’ll learn how to practice radical acceptance, not as giving up, but as an act of respect for yourself and the other person. Jay reveals why the most loving choice is sometimes to step back or let go entirely, showing that real change only happens in environments of shared commitment, not through pressure, persuasion, or endless patience. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to Stop Falling for Someone’s Potential How to See Patterns Instead of Promises How to Practice Radical Acceptance Without Lowering Your Standards How to Tell the Difference Between Love and Control How to Let Go Without Losing Compassion No matter where you are in your relationship journey, remember: you’re not here to be someone’s savior. You’re here to love them as they are, or love yourself enough to walk away. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe] Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]  What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction  01:08 Can You Really Change Someone? 01:55 Patterns Tell You More Than Words Ever Will 03:35 The Illusion Of Potential 06:45 Actions Over Words 09:39 Control Isn’t Love!  12:32 The Hardest Form of Love: Radical Acceptance 18:01 Only They Can Choose to Change  21:32 Priorities Vs Preferences See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

How do you normally calm yourself when you’re overwhelmed? Have you ever tried meditation before? Today, Jay brings you a diverse exploration of meditation with some of today’s most insightful minds: Dr. Joe Dispenza, Big Sean, Michael Acton Smith, Vishen Lakhiani, and Sam Harris. From science to music, entrepreneurship to spirituality, each guest reveals how meditation has shaped their lives, and how you can use it as a powerful tool for focus, healing, and inner transformation. Together, they show us that meditation is far more than sitting in silence, it’s a pathway to healing, clarity, and growth. Whether it’s rewiring the nervous system, reprogramming the mind, or unlocking creativity and resilience, this conversation demonstrates the many ways meditation can ground you in the present and while also opening you to what’s possible. Whether you’re just beginning or returning with new intention, this episode is an invitation to reconnect with yourself. These insights remind us the practice isn’t about getting it “right,” but about consistency, curiosity, and compassion for yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Reprogram Your Mind Through Meditation How to Turn Elevated Emotions Into Healing How to Build a Daily Meditation Routine That Sticks How to Heal Your Body by Training Your Mind Meditation isn’t about where you begin, it’s about the choice to begin at all. Each breath is a chance to return, reset, and remember the calm already within you. Wherever you are, restless, curious, or seeking clarity, meditation offers a doorway inward. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty. Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe]. Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast] What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:10 How Meditation Transforms Your Brain and Body 08:33 How Much Practice Do You Really Need? 14:39 There Is No Wrong Way to Meditate 18:30 How to Connect Deeply with Nature Through Meditation 22:17 Debunking the Biggest Myths About Meditation 24:21 What Is Active Meditation and How Does It Work? 28:45 Using Meditation to Elevate Your Everyday Life See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Have you ever doubted yourself? Has self-doubt ever held you back? Today, Jay welcomes back tennis legend Novak Djokovic for a deep and vulnerable conversation about what it truly takes to master both the external and internal journey to success. Novak reflects on the practices instilled in him from childhood: visualization, journaling, meditation, and even listening to classical music, that became the foundation of his holistic approach to self-care and peak performance. He shares how these early lessons influenced his career and his outlook on growth, spirituality, and resilience, helping him see tennis not just as a sport but as a path to becoming a better person. Together, Jay and Novak explore the hidden battles that come with chasing greatness, including the pressure of expectation, the tension between ego and humility, and the deep-rooted feelings of not being enough that fueled Novak’s drive from a young age. Novak opens up about the struggles of injury, criticism, and hostile environments, and how he learned to transform those moments into opportunities for growth. He emphasizes that even at the height of his career, the real work is internal, practicing surrender, emotional regulation, and presence; reminding us that success is as much about mastering the mind as it is about winning titles. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build Mental Strength Like a Champion How to Turn Pain Into Purpose How to Practice Surrender and Let Go How to Use Visualization to Shape Your Future How to Find Balance Between Ego and Humility How to Recover From Setbacks With Resilience How to Create Daily Habits for Inner Peace Every challenge, setback, and victory is an opportunity to reflect, strengthen your resilience, and tap into the strength you already have. Remember, real success isn’t just about achievements, it’s about how you live, how you grow, and the impact you leave behind. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here [https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe].    Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast [https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast]   What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:24 What It Really Takes to Achieve Success 06:40 How Tennis Taught Me to Evolve Off the Court 10:59 Even the Greatest Can Feel Inadequate  13:54 Wellness For Tennis Players 17:35 Setting New Goals After Reaching Peak Success 20:34 How Survival Shapes a Successful Mindset 28:51 The Power of Surrender and Letting Go 33:20 Emotions Are Necessary   38:06 Becoming the Legend You Once Admired 48:18 Living with Appreciation, Compassion, and Respect 51:10 How to Handle Failure with Grace 56:57 It's Okay to Be Bored 01:00:31 Not All Distractions Are Bad 01:02:05 Protecting Your Mindset from Social Media 01:04:01 The Pressure on Men to Hide Vulnerability 01:08:29 Finding Unity Through Sports 01:12:58 The Greatest Life Lessons from Sports 01:16:00 Overcoming the Worst Injury of His Career 01:23:17 Why Injury Is Every Athlete’s Greatest Enemy 01:29:43 What’s Next for Novak? 01:44:52 Novak on Final Five   Episode Resources: Novak Djokovic | Website [https://novakdjokovic.com/en/] Novak Djokovic | Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/djokernole/] Novak Djokovic | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/djokovicofficial] Novak Djokovic | X [https://x.com/DjokerNole] Novak Djokovic | TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@djokernole] See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.