Do It Scared: How Action Builds Confidence

Do It Scared: How Action Builds Confidence

In this episode of Personally, I Wouldn’t, Molly and Ethan dive into the real psychology behind “fake it till you make it.” We’re unpacking why confidence isn’t something you magically wake up with, it’s built through action, even (especially!) when you’re terrified. From starting a new career to showing up as if you’ve got a full team behind you (hello, imaginary assistant), we’ll talk about how “doing it scared” is the ultimate antidote to anxiety. Whether you’re launching a business, pivoting in your career, or just trying to be taken seriously while you’re still figuring it out, this episode will help you step into that next version of yourself, one bold move at a time.

Suits vs. Selfies: Navigating Professionalism in the Age of Social Media

Is your Instagram a career killer or a career booster? This week, Molly and Ethan dive into the blurry line between professionalism and personal life in the era of oversharing. They explore why work and social media should stay separate, but also how showing vulnerability online can sometimes open doors. From how creative fields often reward personal content to how expectations have shifted since the boomer generation, Molly and Ethan break down the double-edged sword of curating an online presence in your 20s.

Resilience after Religion: Leaving the Mormon Church (ft. Danny)

This week on Personally, I Wouldn’t, Molly and Ethan sit down with their friend Danny, a therapist who’s now married and living his dream life, but whose path there was anything but straightforward. Danny opens up about growing up Mormon, being sent to an abusive “troubled teens” home, his time in rehab, and the years he spent ski-bumming and living out of his car. He shares what it was like to marry at 20 (and divorce shortly after), leave the church, and ultimately rebuild his own relationship with spirituality. Now, as a narrative therapist, Danny reflects on how his tumultuous past not only shaped him but also deepened the way he now shows up for his clients. This is a good one.

Personally, I Wouldn’t… Hide Who I Am (ft. Our Cousin Ciaran)

This week, Molly and Ethan sit down with their cousin Ciaran—fellow gay icon, literature nerd, and aspiring therapist—for a conversation that’s equal parts heartfelt and hilarious. Ciaran opens up about his coming out journey (which happened alongside Ethan’s), what it’s like growing up in a family where half the cousins are gay, and how ADHD shapes his creativity, relationships, and writing process. From his love of books and screenwriting to his dream of becoming a therapist like Molly, Ciaran brings honesty, wit, and a little chaos to the mic. If you’ve ever felt like your brain is a bit too much or your story doesn’t quite fit the mold—this one’s for you.

Ethan and Molly put the "fun" in fungi

This week on Personally, I Wouldn’t, we’re going fungi first into the weird, brilliant world of mushrooms. From the anti-capitalist philosophy of the rhizome (shoutout to Deleuze & Guattari) to fungal networks that mimic the internet better than the internet does, we’re exploring how mushrooms defy hierarchy and logic—and somehow solve city planning better than your local council. We’ll also get into how psilocybin use can spark neurogenesis (aka grow your damn brain), and yes, we talk about the stoned ape theory—because apparently, we owe our consciousness to a mushroom trip. Spores, slime mold, and psychedelic science? Personally, we would.