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Where Conflict Comes From: The Root of Every Relationship Fight | Ep. 31

23 min · 15 mei 2026
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Every relationship has that argument it keeps coming back to — the one about being heard, respected, or seen — and most of us assume the problem is the other person. This episode challenges that.   Rahul Pillay walks through James 4:1-5 to unpack why our deepest conflicts aren't really about what's happening on the surface. Van Pillay brings her mental health perspective, naming five conflict response styles that silently shape how we fight — and how we heal.   The moment that stopped the conversation cold: the idea that the fight you're having is just a symptom, and beneath it is a craving that no other person was ever meant to fully satisfy. That reframe alone is worth the listen.   If you're spiritually curious, practically minded, or just tired of having the same argument — this one meets you where you are. Find us on Spotify @pillayplacepodcast https://open.spotify.com/show/6yDlDhEWsh21t2zeg7f5AC?si=B7-HfM0VR6SJuI2i7l4Kdg YouTube: @pillayplacepodcast  https://www.youtube.com/@PillayPlacePodcast

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