Queer Sex Ed Podcast

This is a live workshop with Sara from the Southwest Love Fest conference in Phoenix, AZ. Discussions include finding overlapping desires, consent as a practice instead of a one-time agreement, safe words, and pain calibration (with a live demo). Follow along with the slides at www.queersexed.org [https://www.queersexed.org] and please share this with anyone who needs this information! Welcome back to QSE, everyone. I've missed you.

A message from Sara about what to expect for the QSE relaunch and teasing upcoming content in the feed! This is different from the previous reintroduction episode from January for reasons that I discuss in the show. Welcome back to QSE!

Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice. We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself Show Links: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear] https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play [https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play] https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/ [https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/] https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439]  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407]  https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed [https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed] https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/ [https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/] https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness [https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness] https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a [https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a] http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html [http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html] https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/ [https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/] https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/ [https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/] https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/ [https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/] Sex Education Guidelines: https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/ [https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/] https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf [https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf] https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/ [https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/] https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/ [https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/] https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html [https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html]

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice. Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg [https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg] Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered  1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class Show notes: www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe [https://www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe] www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart [http://www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart]  www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay [http://www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay] www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e [https://zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e] www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21 [https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21] www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9 [https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9] www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11 [https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11] www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53 [https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53] www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615 [https://medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615] www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/ [https://www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/] Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0] (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf [https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf] www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html [https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html] www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc [https://medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc] www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns [https://nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns] www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html [https://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html] www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/ [https://siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/]

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before! Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT Show notes: https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/ [https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/] https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days [https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days] https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras [https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras] https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know [https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know] https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure [https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure] https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/ [https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/]