Rori Raye Feminine Energy Radio

Some men cry on the first date. They talk endlessly about their exes. It’s a turnoff. And yet — here they are, showing up in your dating life again and again. They don’t show up for every woman. But they’re showing up for you. Not because you’re doing anything wrong — but because, deep down, some part of you connects with them. A part that feels safer rejecting love than receiving it. A part that chooses the kind of man you know you won’t have to fully open to. That’s not failure — that’s self-protection. So instead of pushing them away, pause and ask: Why are they pouring out their problems to me? Maybe it’s because… I want someone to pour my problems out to. Maybe they’re reflecting something I haven’t let myself admit I need. That desire for emotional connection — even in its messy, uncomfortable form — is real.  There’s a deep call for intimacy underneath the resistance. What if this man isn’t just a mismatch — but a mirror? Not your forever person, but your wake-up call. Let yourself feel what rises in your body when he speaks — the sadness, the heaviness, the resentment. Let yourself stay in it.  Not to tolerate bad behavior, but to finally get honest with yourself. What are you aching to be heard for? What part of you is longing to be seen? This man might be showing you exactly where you’ve shut down emotionally. And that’s the moment. That’s the door you’ve been walking past. We don’t talk about our past to heal — we talk to avoid feeling. But once you start feeling? Things shift. Walls melt. Patterns break. And you begin to choose from wholeness instead of fear. If you find yourself going on bad date after bad date — same patterns, different faces — Siren Island is here for you. It’s my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, with classes, personalized coaching, and a full curriculum of materials to help you shift your patterns from the inside out. Siren Island is here:  https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/ [https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/] Love, Rori

Charlotte was one of the beautiful, high-achieving women in Sex and the City. She had everything on the outside — great friends, a fabulous lifestyle, success. And yet… she just couldn’t find love that lasted. The men kept dumping her. It was heartbreaking to watch. Then, suddenly, a man came along. He was a foot shorter than her, not traditionally handsome — but deeply emotionally aware, intelligent, grounded, and absolutely certain about who he was. He was a real partner. And Charlotte had to make a choice: Would she let herself be with a man who didn’t look right in her world — a world full of wealthy, beautiful people? Or would she take a chance on something real? Are you Charlotte? Are you looking for a man who looks like a magazine ad or fits your Instagram aesthetic… but missing the one who would actually show up for your heart? Are you pushing aside the men who don’t fit your checklist, even though they might be offering something deeper? The love you want doesn’t come from being perfect. This life is messy. Trust the mess. Trust your feelings. And let yourself be chosen for real — not just for show. If you’d like a place to keep going with stories like this Siren Island is my official community. It started as just a handful of women on my blog — sharing how the tools were landing, supporting each other, and opening up to love. And over time, it grew into something more. Now, it’s become so much more -  Siren Island is a Sanctuary for feminine energy, with classes, a full curriculum, and the kind of vibes that help you melt back into your body and your truth.  Siren Island is here: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/ Love, Rori

The Question: “I’m still having a hard time navigating the sex part with Rori’s advice to touch him and caress him — but it’s hard to do that when we really don’t spend time together.” I hear from women 99% of the time about this, and it just makes me cry — because I’ve been through it myself so many times. If you don’t spend time together, why is that happening? Why are we accepting that? If it’s long distance, well, then yes — that’s part of it. But you still need to be having relationships locally, too. You’re a human. You are a woman. You need to be touched. You need a lover. You need someone there. Having someone long distance you care about deeply is not enough. Unless there’s a very real logistical reason (like the armed services, or necessary job placements), physical proximity matters. And even in those cases, logistics must eventually be tackled if a relationship is to grow. If you’re long distance without a solid plan to be together soon, you must also create a life where you are touched, seen, and loved in the present. If you’re yearning and wishing all the time? That’s not real intimacy. That’s feeding the subconscious fear of real closeness. You deserve intimacy. You deserve to smell him, touch him, collect good feelings — not just collect wishes. It’s okay to have different relationships meeting different needs. You can have a man who is wonderful sexually, and a man who is wonderful emotionally. You have power here. I give you permission. And if you’re not giving yourself permission, I ask you: What’s telling you you can’t? Is it a community? A religion? Upbringing? We need to work that out together. Because you deserve it all. Join me on The Siren Island Official Course & Community to learn how you can easily shift into this new feminine place where you feel So much better. https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/ [https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/] Love, Rori

This is a brilliant question — not for the reason you asked it. Should a man keep paying even if you’re well into the relationship? Ask him: “I notice that we’re sort of in a relationship here. Are we? Or are we just dating?” If you’re just dating — and you are still circular dating — he pays for everything. Just don’t step in.If he says, “Listen, would you pay for half of it now?”You say, “Are we dating?”And he’ll say, “Well, we’re dating.” You say, “Okay — no, you pay.” You could do that. The idea is — you’re starting a conversation. If you’d like more support with what to say, when to say it, and how to navigate dating all the way to the kind of commitment you truly want…Siren Island is here for you. It’s just $33 to join and try it out! Here’s Siren Island: https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/ Love, Rori

On a date, you might find yourself smiling and nodding along while he talks—and talks—and somewhere inside, you’re feeling… invisible.Instead of pushing through or pretending you’re fine, try this:“You know, I really followed you through that story. I could feel how frustrating it was for you… and I’m actually starting to feel a little frustrated myself. I think I’d love to feel more connected—is there anything you’d like to know about me?”This isn’t about confronting him.It’s about tuning in to you—before the irritation builds, before you go quiet, before you disappear.You’re not trying to impress him. You’re inviting him into connection. If you’d like support in staying soft, open, and real on your dates (without losing yourself or your voice), Siren Island is here for you.Come join us for live classes, tools, and real-time coaching:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/ [https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/]Love,Rori