186. Are You Chasing Old Feelings With Alcohol?

186. Are You Chasing Old Feelings With Alcohol?

Send me a message 🤗 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/fan_mail/new] Some of the strongest pulls back towards a drink have nothing to do with a bad day and everything to do with a good decade.  Picking up where last week's episode left off, moving from the "yesterday" of last night's overdrinking to a different kind of yesterday altogether: nostalgia.  As a midlife moderator, some of the hardest drinking triggers aren't about stress or celebration; they're about longing for the wide-eyed, anything-could-happen nights of our 20s and 30s.  I talk about why chasing those old memories with alcohol never quite delivers, why we don't need to denigrate the good times we did have with drink in order to build a better relationship with it now, and how nostalgic drinking keeps you looking backwards instead of building the new memories that are still there to be made.    By the end of this episode you'll know: * Why nostalgia is one of the biggest hidden drinking triggers in midlife * How to stop feeling guilty about good times you had while drinking * Why you can't recreate an old feeling by recreating the environment with alcohol * How to let go of the longing for "yesterday" without dismissing your past * Where to find more support if mood and nostalgia drive your drinking habits * The one, simple question that can shift your moderation mindset right now   Also mentioned: ep#185. What to Do After Drinking More Than You Intended - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/19494498 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/19494498] ep#175. 6 Causes, 6 Questions: What's Really Driving Your Over-Drinking? - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/19128834 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/19128834] === 🌱 Ready for real change in the way you drink? - https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset [https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset] === 🗝️ Become a Vault member to get access to the moderation tools that actually help - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault] === ✏️ Come hang out with me on Substack - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/ [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/] === ❓ Take the Midlife Drinking Triggers Quiz - https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13 [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13] === *Some links are affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may earn a commission that helps me keep the show going. Thank you.

185. What to Do After Drinking More Than You Intended

Send me a message 🤗 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/fan_mail/new] Waking up regretting how much you drank last night doesn't mean you've failed at moderation — it just means you've got some data to work with, if you're willing to look at it properly.  I'm calling this the chronological yesterday: that raw, still-fresh version of the night before that can quietly set the tone for your entire day if you let it, especially once alcohol's been thrown into the mix, and things didn't quite go to plan. Rather than letting one messy night tip you into "well, I clearly can't do this" territory, I'm walking you through a simple two-step process I call catch it and release it. It's a way of properly unpacking when a night got away from you, how much choice you genuinely had in that moment, and what you might try differently next time round — whether that's zebra striping, keeping things low-no for the first hour, or finally telling your mates what kind of support you actually need from them.  None of it requires a dramatic overhaul. It's about noticing one small thing you can experiment with, learning from it, and giving yourself a bit of grace along the way, because moderating your drinking is a skill like any other, and skills take practice. By the end of this episode, you'll know: * Why your yesterday has so much power over how your today feels * How to stop a "bad night" spiralling into a full-blown doom spiral of guilt * The exact questions to ask yourself the morning after you've overdone it * How to turn an off-piste night out into useful data instead of a reason to quit * One small drinking choice you can experiment with on your next night out * How to get your friends properly on board with supporting your moderation goals * Why progress, not perfection, is the real measure of success when you're drinking mindfully Chapters 0:01 Changing Drinking Without Losing Yourself 1:22 The Power Of The Chronological Yesterday 2:44 Doom Spiral Or Data After Overdoing It 5:32 A Practical Tool For System Thinkers 6:38 Catch It Questions For The Night 10:11 Release It With One Small Experiment 12:25 Getting Friends To Support Your Choice 14:30 Progress Over Perfection & Next Week's Episode Also mentioned: ep#161. The Real Reason Your Friends Can’t Take ‘No’ for an Answer - https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/18674312 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/18674312] === 🌱 Ready for real change in the way you drink? - https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset [https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset] === 🗝️ Become a Vault member to get access to the moderation tools that actually help - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault] === ✏️ Come hang out with me on Substack - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/ [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/] === ❓ Take the Midlife Drinking Triggers Quiz - https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13 [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13] === *Some links are affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may earn a commission that helps me keep the show going. Thank you.

184. 6 Drinking Habits That Undo Moderation Without You Realising

Send me a message 🤗 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/fan_mail/new] Why do your moderation efforts feel like they unravel by Friday, even when you haven't had a single "bad" night?  It's rarely one big decision that undoes your drinking goals — it's the small, automatic habits you don't even clock you're doing. I'm walking through six unconscious drinking habits that quietly sabotage mindful drinking without you ever realising it — from topping up your glass before it's empty, to free-pouring measures at home, to people-pleasing at the bar.  Some of these come straight from my own 24 years in hospitality, where I could "pour a measure by sight" — or so I told myself. Each habit comes with one simple, practical swap you can start using this week, no drastic overhaul required.   By the end of this episode you'll know: * Why topping up your glass makes it impossible to track how much you're actually drinking * How cooking, scrolling or watching TV while drinking leads to mindless overconsumption * Why saying "I'll have what you're having" quietly hands your power of choice to someone else * How free-pouring at home means you're likely drinking far more than you think * Why bigger glassware is quietly working against your moderation goals * How the "sunk cost" mindset around wasted alcohol keeps you drinking past the point you actually want to * Which single habit to focus on first for the fastest, easiest win   0:00 How Unseen Drinking Habits Sneak Up 2:31 Topping Up Before You're Empty 3:41 Drinking While Cooking 5:50 People Pleasing Your Drink Order 7:15 Free Pouring Your Drinks 8:24 Glass Size 9:58 Not Wasting Alcohol 11:43 Pick One Small Win for Big Change === 🌱 Ready for real change in the way you drink? - https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset [https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset] === 🗝️ Become a Vault member to get access to the moderation tools that actually help - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault] === ✏️ Come hang out with me on Substack - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/ [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/] === ❓ Take the Midlife Drinking Triggers Quiz - https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13 [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13] === *Some links are affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may earn a commission that helps me keep the show going. Thank you.

183. Should You Worry About 0.5% Alcohol Drinks?

Send me a message 🤗 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/fan_mail/new] Is your morning slice of sourdough secretly more boozy than a 0.5% beer?  It probably is. Grapes, bread, soy sauce, kombucha, even your breakfast yoghurt all contain trace amounts of alcohol, often in higher concentrations than the low-alcohol drinks so many of us scrutinise on the supermarket shelf. I'm breaking down exactly how much alcohol is hiding in everyday foods, why fermentation makes this completely unavoidable, and why it's physically impossible to get drunk from a 0.5% beer or wine.  I also cover who genuinely should steer clear of these drinks, from allergy sufferers to those managing alcohol use disorder, so you can make an informed choice rather than a fear-based one. If you've ever hesitated over a 0.5% beer while typing "is 0.5 really alcohol-free" into Google, this one's for you.   By the end of this episode, you'll know: * Which everyday foods contain more alcohol than a 0.5% beer or cider * Why fermentation naturally produces trace alcohol in foods like bread, cheese and kombucha * Whether a 0.5% drink can actually get you drunk * The UK's official threshold for what counts as alcohol-free * Who should genuinely avoid 0.5% drinks, and why * How to stop obsessing over ABV percentages and focus on what actually matters in your mindful drinking journey   0:00 Why 0.5% Drinks Matter 3:25 Bananas & Other Fruits That Contain Alcohol 4:52 Bread, Charcuterie & Cheese 6:04 Fruit Juices & Baked Goods 7:32 Soy, Kombuchas & Vinegars 9:03 How Alcohol Gets Into Foods 10:54 Why 0.5% Cannot Get You Drunk 13:16 When To Avoid 0.5% Drinks 15:01 The Thing To Remember === 🌱 Ready for real change in the way you drink? - https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset [https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset] === 🗝️ Become a Vault member to get access to the moderation tools that actually help - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault] === ✏️ Come hang out with me on Substack - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/ [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/] === ❓ Take the Midlife Drinking Triggers Quiz - https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13 [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13] === *Some links are affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may earn a commission that helps me keep the show going. Thank you.

182. 13 Alcohol Moderation Techniques That Aren't Zebra Striping

Send me a message 🤗 [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/fan_mail/new] You know zebra striping. You've tried bookending. You've coasted with mid-strength. But what if those aren't the moderation techniques that click for you? Most conversations about alcohol moderation keep circling back to the same handful of techniques. This episode goes further — into 13 lesser-known methods that don't get nearly enough airtime but can make a real difference to the way alcohol shows up in your life. From If-Then planning and Time Boxing before you even get to the venue, to Wait 20 and Downsizing once you're in the thick of it, to bigger-picture lifestyle approaches like Occasioning, Weekending, and Friendly Friction — there's something here for every personality type and every kind of social situation. Some of these are structured, some are flexible. Some work on the way to the pub, some work at home when you're staring at the wine rack.  And none of them requires you to immediately quit drinking entirely to make a meaningful change to your alcohol consumption.   By the end of this episode, you'll know... -       What "if-then" planning is, and why it works better than willpower when peer pressure tries to show up -       How time boxing can short-circuit the automation of that habitual evening glass of wine -       Why setting a hard drink limit might not always be the best moderation technique — but why it might still work for you -       How to add "friendly friction" between yourself and the bottle without throwing anything down the drain -       The difference between delay 30 and wait 20, and when to use each one -       Which moderation techniques are best suited to nights out versus drinking at home -       How to start testing these methods without trying to overhaul everything at once   Chapters 0:57 Zebra Striping & Other Common Techniques 3:08 If / Then 5:43 Sequencing 7:44 Time Boxing 10:44 Delay 30 12:44 Filtering 14:43 Wait 20 16:44 Downsizing 18:14 Hard Stop 20:52 Weekending 22:44 Occasioning 24:24 Situation Setting 26:07 Don't Buy It 28:16 Friendly Friction 30:46 Just Try One   Other episodes mentioned: 163. 5 Questions to Ask Yourself About the Pros & Cons of Different Moderation Techniques [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/18671408] 173. Alcohol Cravings Don't Last As Long As You Think (And 4 Steps To Take When One Hits) [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2229527/episodes/19053289] === 🌱 Ready for real change in the way you drink? - https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset [https://www.lownodrinker.com/4weekreset] === 🗝️ Become a Vault member to get access to the moderation tools that actually help - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/s/the-vault] === ✏️ Come hang out with me on Substack - https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/ [https://mindfuldrinking.substack.com/] === ❓ Take the Midlife Drinking Triggers Quiz - https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13 [https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/68dd33385bb4a20015996a13] === *Some links are affiliate links. If you make a purchase, I may earn a commission that helps me keep the show going. Thank you.