Spiritual Infinity
In this heartfelt episode of Spiritual Infinity, Zenzi Sewaah welcomes grief specialist, author, healer, and podcast host Victoria Volk from North Dakota. Victoria shares an extraordinary personal journey marked by profound childhood loss, family trauma, military service, spiritual exploration, and ultimately discovering her calling in grief recovery and emotional healing. Victoria begins by explaining a principle that has shaped much of her work: much of what we become as adults can be traced back to our earliest childhood experiences. Children absorb messages about life, relationships, emotions, and grief long before they are capable of fully understanding them. These early experiences often become the invisible framework through which we interpret the world. Her own story began with significant loss. When Victoria was seven years old, her grandmother died of cancer. Shortly afterward, her father, who had been battling stage-four colon cancer, also passed away. Within a short period, her mother lost both her own mother and her husband, leaving the family emotionally overwhelmed and struggling to cope. Victoria was only eight years old when her father died. As a child, she found herself pushed to the sidelines of the family’s grief. While the adults around her were consumed by their own pain, Victoria’s emotional needs often went unnoticed. She recalls being shuffled between neighbours and family friends while her parents dealt with illness and crisis. One of her most vivid memories was hearing adults suggest she was too young to understand what was happening at her father’s funeral—a statement she knew was profoundly untrue. The challenges did not end there. Following her father’s death, Victoria lost contact with her father’s entire side of the family due to unresolved conflicts between adults. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins disappeared from her life almost overnight. A few years later, she also experienced sexual abuse, compounding the grief, anger, confusion, and emotional pain she was already carrying. Without healthy emotional role models, Victoria learned survival strategies common among many children experiencing trauma. She became highly sensitive to the moods and energy of those around her, constantly reading emotional cues and adapting to maintain safety. She describes becoming hyper-vigilant, learning to anticipate emotional shifts before they happened. Looking back, she now recognises how deeply these childhood coping mechanisms influenced her adult life. Spiritually, her early experiences led her away from faith rather than toward it. Raised in the Lutheran tradition, Victoria struggled to reconcile her suffering with the idea of a loving God. By adolescence, she carried significant resentment toward God and questioned why so much pain had entered her life. Despite these challenges, Victoria excelled academically and describes herself as a responsible teenager. Yet beneath the surface she carried deep emotional wounds and developed strong people-pleasing tendencies. These patterns eventually followed her into her first serious adult relationship, where she found herself sacrificing her own needs in an effort to maintain harmony and avoid conflict. After high school, Victoria briefly pursued higher education but struggled with the financial pressures and uncertainty surrounding college. Eventually, she joined the military and later served in Iraq alongside the man who would become her husband. Before their relationship began, Victoria recalls offering a simple prayer asking God to bring someone into her life who would be truly good for her. That prayer was answered through a long-time friend who eventually became her husband. Today, they have been married for over two decades and have raised three children together. Through her husband’s influence, Victoria found her way back to faith. His Catholic background introduced her to a different spiritual perspective that resonated deeply. She became fascinated by the richness of Catholic spirituality, including the traditions surrounding Mary and the saints, and this renewed spiritual connection became an important part of her life. Yet despite building a family and creating a stable life, unresolved grief remained beneath the surface. As her youngest child prepared to start kindergarten, Victoria found herself facing a personal crisis. Her identity had become deeply tied to motherhood, and she began questioning who she was beyond that role. At the same time, she recognised unhealthy coping behaviours, including increasing reliance on alcohol. The emotional pain she had carried for decades was demanding attention. A major turning point came when she reconnected with her uncle, her late father’s brother, after nearly thirty years of separation. Learning that he had terminal brain cancer, Victoria felt compelled to visit him despite their long estrangement. What followed was six months of meaningful reconnection, healing, and reconciliation. Through that relationship, she felt closer to her father than she had since childhood and experienced a profound release of old family wounds. Around the same time, the loss of a significant friendship prompted Victoria to finally confront the grief she had been carrying for most of her life. Searching for answers, she discovered the Grief Recovery Method and immediately recognised its potential. The process transformed her understanding of grief, emotional healing, and personal responsibility. She became certified in the methodology and later founded The Unleashed Heart, dedicating her professional life to helping others navigate loss and emotional recovery. One of the most powerful insights she shares is the importance of breaking generational cycles. Through her healing work, Victoria came to understand that her mother’s limitations were shaped by her own unresolved grief and pain. While this understanding did not erase the hurt, it allowed Victoria to develop compassion without denying her own experience. More importantly, it empowered her to stop passing those patterns on to her own children. Her spiritual journey continued through Reiki, energy healing, biofield tuning, human design, and other modalities that helped her understand the connection between emotions, energy, and physical wellbeing. Throughout her exploration, Victoria maintained a healthy scepticism and curiosity, balancing spirituality with a lifelong love of science and evidence-based understanding. Today, Victoria combines grief recovery, energy healing, personality assessment tools, and human design to help individuals understand themselves more deeply and heal emotional wounds that may have shaped them for decades. Her work is centred on helping people move from surviving to thriving and reclaiming the parts of themselves that grief and trauma may have hidden. At the heart of Victoria’s message is a simple but powerful truth: healing is possible. No matter how painful the past may be, there is always hope for a different future. The first step is being willing to look honestly at our experiences, understand their impact, and choose a new path forward. Closing Reflection One of the most powerful lessons from this conversation is that grief is not only about death. We grieve relationships.We grieve lost opportunities.We grieve childhoods we wish had been different.We grieve the love, understanding, and safety we needed but did not receive. Many people spend years trying to outrun grief, suppress it, or replace it with busyness, achievement, relationships, or distractions. Yet grief has a remarkable way of waiting patiently until we are finally ready to face it. Victoria’s story reminds us that healing does not begin when the pain disappears. Healing begins when we become willing to look at the pain with honesty and compassion. Her journey also highlights something many of us forget: our parents and caregivers were often carrying burdens of their own. Understanding this does not excuse the hurt we experienced, but it can help us move beyond blame and into understanding. Every family carries patterns. Every generation inherits stories. But every so often, someone chooses to break the cycle. That choice requires courage. It requires self-awareness. And it requires the willingness to heal wounds that were never ours to create. Victoria chose that path, not only for herself but for her children and future generations. Her story reminds us that no matter how difficult our beginnings may have been, our future does not have to be defined by them. Hope remains available to all of us. Not because life becomes perfect. But because healing is always possible. Reflection Take a quiet moment and ask yourself: What old story, grief, or wound am I ready to release so that future generations no longer have to carry it? — Zenzi Sewaah Guest Contact & Bio Victoria Volk Victoria Volk is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist, author, energy healer, Reiki Master, podcaster, and founder of The Unleashed Heart. Through her work, she helps individuals recover from grief, trauma, emotional pain, and life transitions by combining grief recovery methods, energy healing, human design insights, and personal development tools. Drawing from her own experiences of childhood loss, family estrangement, trauma, military service, motherhood, and healing, Victoria has created a compassionate approach that empowers people to understand their emotional patterns, release unresolved grief, and reconnect with their authentic selves. She is also the creator and host of the Grieving Voices podcast and is currently developing a new legacy-focused podcast project. Connect with Victoria Volk Website:The Unleashed Heart [https://theunleashedheart.com?utm_source=chatgpt.com] Podcast:Grieving Voices (available through her website) Services Include: * Grief Recovery Coaching * Do Grief Differently™ 12-Session Programme * Reiki & Energy Healing * Biofield Tuning * Human Design Guidance * UMAP Strengths & Values Assessments Location: North Dakota, USA Speciality: Helping individuals heal unresolved grief, break generational cycles, and create healthier emotional futures. Get full access to Zenzi’s Substack at zenzisewaah.substack.com/subscribe [https://zenzisewaah.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]
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