Why Healthy Love Feels Wrong After an Abusive Relationship | SJ, Le disco mama

Why Healthy Love Feels Wrong After an Abusive Relationship | SJ, Le disco mama

You swore you'd never date again. That wasn't weakness, it was a rational response to what was done to you. But what happens when staying closed off becomes its own kind of loss? Bridget sits down with SJ (Le Disco Mama), author of “Finding Love After Abuse”, for an honest, grounded conversation about what it actually takes to open the door to connection after high-conflict relationships, and why that process reveals more about your patterns than any relationship ever did. This isn't about rushing toward romance. It's about understanding why safety feels boring, why butterflies might be your nervous system sounding an alarm, and how to tell the difference between a green flag and a well-disguised red one. Key Topics Covered: ●       Why "butterflies" can signal nervous system activation, not chemistry ●       The concept of limerence and how childhood wounds fuel fantasy in relationships ●       Why data collecting, not dating, is the smarter framework when re-entering the dating world ●       How to use micro-boundary tests to identify emotional safety early ●       Why healthy love feels like peace, and why that peace initially feels foreign ●       The difference between mirroring as manipulation and mirroring as adaptation ●       How high-conflict exes use surveillance to disrupt your healing, and how to protect yourself Two survivors. Real experience. No performance. If this episode helped you think differently about what you deserve, follow the podcast and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/ [https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/] Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb [https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb]   Visit My Website: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/ [https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/]   Book a Strategy Call — Primary conversion point for 1:1 coaching: https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb [https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb]   Join the Custody Warrior Collective — Community membership for ongoing support: https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about [https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about]   📥 Download the Free Documentation Tracker: breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker [http://breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker] ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content shared is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Always consult with a qualified professional. Viewer discretion is advised.

Your Parenting Plan Has a Loophole and Your Ex Already Found It

for you. Bridget breaks down how vague parenting plan language becomes a weapon in the hands of a high conflict co-parent, why attorneys keep writing it, and exactly what specific enforceable language you need in your order instead. Whether you already have a vague order or are about to sign one — this is what you need to know before it costs you. Key Topics Covered: ●       Why vague parenting plans are dangerous in high conflict cases ●       Holiday and vacation scheduling language — vague vs. specific ●       Communication and decision making provisions ●       Exchange logistics — times, locations, grace periods ●       What to do if you already have vague language in your current order ●       The five question rule for every provision in your parenting plan If this episode shifted how you see your case, follow the podcast and share it with a protective parent who needs to hear it. If this episode helped you, follow the podcast and share it with a protective parent who needs it. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. New content drops weekly. Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/ [https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/] Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb [https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb] Visit My Website: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/ [https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/] Book a Strategy Call — Primary conversion point for 1:1 coaching: https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb [https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb] Join the Custody Warrior Collective — Community membership for ongoing support: https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about [https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about] 📥 Download the Free Documentation Tracker: breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker [http://breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker] ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content shared is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Always consult with a qualified professional. Viewer discretion is advised.

Why Calling Your Ex an Addict Can COST You Custody

When your child is in danger, your instinct is to say everything. Family court punishes that instinct. Bridget breaks down the research most protective parents never see, including why alleging addiction can hand your ex a comeback story, trigger a parental alienation cross-claim, and quietly put you on trial instead. This episode is strategy, not sympathy. What We Cover: ● Why 26% of abuse allegations result in losing custody, even without a counterclaim ● How the friendly parent doctrine and alienation cross-claims work against you ● Why general labels like "he's an alcoholic" carry almost no weight in court ● How to reframe safety concerns using child-centered, dated incidents ● The mechanism that turns your allegation into your ex's redemption arc ● What to ask the court for instead of a verdict on their character ● How to kill the parental alienation narrative before it takes hold If this episode shifted how you see your case, follow the podcast and share it with a protective parent who needs to hear it. If this episode helped you, follow the podcast and share it with a protective parent who needs it. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. New content drops weekly. Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/ [https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/] Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb [https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb] Visit My Website: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/ [https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/] Book a Strategy Call — Primary conversion point for 1:1 coaching: https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb [https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb] Join the Custody Warrior Collective — Community membership for ongoing support: https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about [https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about] 📥 Download the Free Documentation Tracker: breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker [http://breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker] ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content shared is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Always consult with a qualified professional. Viewer discretion is advised.

Were You Told to Co-Parent With Your Abuser? | Vanessa Reiser

When family court feels like a battleground and your reality is questioned at every turn, it's easy to doubt your own strength. Bridget sits down with Vanessa Reiser, LCSW - therapist, author, and two-time Iron Man who ran 285 miles across New York in a wedding dress to raise awareness about narcissistic abuse - to talk about what it actually takes to survive high-conflict co-parenting. This is not a conversation about hope and healing in the abstract. It's strategy, psychology, and hard truth. In this episode: • Why co-parenting with a high-conflict personality is not a realistic expectation • How toxic co-parents collateralize information to use against you in court • The nervous system impact of ongoing litigation and re-traumatization • Why engaging with a high-conflict ex only fuels their behavior • How to build fact-versus-fiction awareness in your children early • What therapy documentation can actually do for your case • Why radical acceptance is a survival skill, not a surrender Vanessa brings clinical expertise and her own experience navigating stalking, court orders, and coercive control, making her one of the most credible voices in this space. Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode built to help you stay regulated, strategic, and protected. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. New content drops weekly. Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/ [https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/] Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb [https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb] Visit My Website: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/ [https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/] Book a Strategy Call — Primary conversion point for 1:1 coaching: https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb [https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb] Join the Custody Warrior Collective — Community membership for ongoing support: https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about [https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about] 📥 Download the Free Documentation Tracker: breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker [http://breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker] ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content shared is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Always consult with a qualified professional. Viewer discretion is advised.

Everything I Wish I Knew Before Family Court | Coach Bridget B’s Top Lessons

Family court doesn't respond to emotions. It responds to evidence, documentation, and credibility. In this special recap episode, Bridget shares some of the most important lessons every protective parent needs to know, from DARVO and BIFF communication to effective documentation and courtroom strategy. If you're navigating a high-conflict custody case, this episode will help you focus on what matters most: building a case based on facts, consistency, and credibility, not emotional reactions. You'll learn: • Why family court and justice aren't always the same thing • How DARVO tactics are used against protective parents • The BIFF communication method and why it matters • Common mistakes that can damage your credibility in court • Why following court orders matters • The difference between emotional arguments and persuasive evidence If this episode hit something real for you, don't keep it to yourself. Share it with someone who's still in the middle of it and needs to hear that the work is worth it. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. New content drops weekly. Follow me on Social Media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/ [https://www.instagram.com/coach_bridgetb/] Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb [https://www.tiktok.com/@coach_bridgetb] Visit My Website: https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/ [https://www.breakingbadasscoaching.com/] Book a Strategy Call — Primary conversion point for 1:1 coaching: https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb [https://coachbridgetbreakingbadasscoaching.as.me/schedule/6cf70ccb] Join the Custody Warrior Collective — Community membership for ongoing support: https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about [https://www.skool.com/custody-warrior-collective/about] 📥 Download the Free Documentation Tracker: breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker [http://breakingbadasscoaching.com/tracker] ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: The content shared is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal or mental health advice. Always consult with a qualified professional. Viewer discretion is advised.