Be The Lighthouse Not The Rescue Boat: Parenting with Belinda Tung

Be The Lighthouse Not The Rescue Boat: Parenting with Belinda Tung

Emily sits down with Belinda Tung, founder of Perfect Child, to unpack what it really means to parent from a place of steadiness instead of fear. They dig into the "lighthouse" metaphor — staying present and connected without chasing, fixing, or controlling — and why Belinda deliberately uses the word perceive rather than believe or know when it comes to seeing a child as perfect. The conversation moves through unmet needs hiding behind everyday behaviors (bus-window pouting, hide-and-seek transitions, meltdowns), journaling as a tool for self-reflection and co-regulation, and how parents' own upbringing and a rushed healthcare system can pull them away from trusting their instincts. They close with an invite to Belinda's in-person community event on August 8th. No need to sign up. If you want wholesome family fun, just show up!  https://www.perfectchild.org/wholesomefamilyfestival [https://www.perfectchild.org/wholesomefamilyfestival] In This Episode: * Why Belinda named her practice "Perfect Child" and the two very different reactions she gets to it * The lighthouse metaphor: steady and present vs. reactive and fear-driven * Why "perceive" is the intentional word choice over "believe" or "know" * How to stay the lighthouse even during mundane moments like brushing teeth * Reading subtler, quieter unmet needs (not just meltdowns) — boredom, disconnection, need for play * Journaling as a self-reflection and nervous-system tool for parents * How our own childhood conditioning and a rushed medical system pull parents away from trusting themselves * Belinda's community event on August 8th Connect with Belinda Tung: 1. https://www.perfectchild.org/ [https://www.perfectchild.org/] 2. The Perfect Child Podcast: https://www.perfectchild.org/podcasts/the-perfect-child-podcast [https://www.perfectchild.org/podcasts/the-perfect-child-podcast] 3. https://www.perfectchild.org/wholesomefamilyfestival [https://www.perfectchild.org/wholesomefamilyfestival] More About Your Host Emily Spaeth is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator, and founder of Be Well Baby® in Portland, Oregon. With extensive NICU experience and training in craniosacral therapy, she leads a team providing home-based health care for families navigating the tricky parts of pregnancy and postpartum.  She also hosts the Beyond Birth Blueprint [http://www.bewellbaby.org/beyond-birth-blueprint], (www.bewellbaby.org/beyond-birth [http://www.bewellbaby.org/beyond-birth]) an online birth and postpartum educational community available to families across the country—so no matter where you are, you have access to support, resources, and connection. Emily is also a mother of three and passionate about helping families move from surviving to thriving. Our mission is to fundamentally shift healthcare could look like for pregnancy, postpartum, and babies. Please help us spread the word by leaving a review! Every review matters! If this episode helped you, please send it to someone who's pregnant, postpartum, or supporting someone through birth. Thank you for being here.

Stop Saying “Just Relax!” To Your Pelvic Floor With Dr. Valerie Brown

What if the key to healing your pelvic floor, calming your nervous system, and reconnecting with your body was already inside you — and you just needed someone to help you access it? In this episode, Emily sits down with Dr. Valerie Brown, PT — a pelvic floor physical therapist, embodiment educator, and creator of the Vital Access Program — for a conversation that goes far beyond kegels. Val blends pelvic floor awareness, nervous system regulation, somatic movement, and trauma-informed care into a holistic approach that meets women exactly where they are. In this episode, we cover: * What "embodiment" actually means — and why it's a felt experience, not a concept * Why telling someone to "just relax" almost always backfires, and what to do instead * The overlooked connection between hypermobility, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (EDS), and pelvic floor dysfunction * Why a hypermobile body can still have a hypertonic (overly gripped) pelvic floor * How pregnancy's relaxin hormone can unmask hypermobility that's been hiding in plain sight * The often-missed role of the feet in pelvic floor health * Why generic "strengthen your core" advice can backfire for hypermobile bodies * Simple, accessible nervous system tools you can use in the car, in two minutes, or while brushing your teeth * How imagination and visualization support better birth and recovery outcomes About Dr. Valerie Brown: Dr. Valerie Brown is a pelvic floor physical therapist and embodiment educator based in Troutdale, Oregon, serving clients locally, online, and through workshops across California, Colorado, and the Pacific Northwest. Learn more about the https://alignwellnesspnw.comVital Axis Method [https://www.vitalaxispt.com/]. Connect with Val and learn about her program! Website: www.vitalaxispt.com [http://www.vitalaxispt.com] Instagram: @vital.axis.method Val now offers home visits through Be Well Baby! Book a session with her at 971-351-2714.

What a NICU PT and Lactation Consultant Actually Puts on Her Baby Registry with Dr. Emily Spaeth

Baby registry must haves are everywhere, but most lists are written by influencers, not clinicians. In this solo episode, Dr. Emily, a NICU physical therapist and board certified lactation consultant, walks through what she actually recommends for your baby registry: the feeding supplies worth buying before birth, the baby gear that supports development (and the popular items that work against it), what NICU professionals know about safe sleep products, and the stuff you can absolutely skip. Whether you're building your Babylist registry or just wondering what you really need for a newborn, this is the registry episode your pregnant friends will thank you for. Check out everything I mention in this episode! https://www.bewellbaby.org/blog/registry [https://www.bewellbaby.org/blog/registry] SUPPORT: Put Be Well Baby on your registry! When you gift Be Well Baby, you are giving the gift of options. We have virtual lactation support, and a birth education platform called the Beyond Birth Blueprint that can answer all of your questions in real time.  https://www.bewellbaby.org/gift-cards-beyond-birth [https://www.bewellbaby.org/gift-cards-beyond-birth] More About Your Hostess:  Emily Spaeth is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and founder of Be Well Baby in Portland, Oregon. With extensive NICU experience and training in craniosacral therapy and trauma informed care, she leads a team providing home-based health care for families navigating the tricky parts of pregnancy and postpartum.  She also hosts the Beyond Birth Blueprint [http://www.bewellbaby.org/beyond-birth-blueprint], an online birth and postpartum educational community available to families across the world—so no matter where you are, you have access to support, resources, and connection. Dr. Emily is also a mother of three and passionate about helping families transition from surviving to thriving. Be Well Baby Podcast Episodes about topics I touch on here! * Flange Sizes: We Are Not Cows https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-are-not-cows-why-flange-size-matters-with-faith-samaan/id1851076558?i=1000739494852 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/we-are-not-cows-why-flange-size-matters-with-faith-samaan/id1851076558?i=1000739494852] * Nervous System Episode https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-nervous-system-regulation-ill-tell-you-with-dr/id1851076558?i=1000746998854 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-nervous-system-regulation-ill-tell-you-with-dr/id1851076558?i=1000746998854] * Containers! https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tummy-time-containers-and-functional-frustration-its/id1851076558?i=1000747993058 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tummy-time-containers-and-functional-frustration-its/id1851076558?i=1000747993058] * Postpartum Support https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/twins-birth-trauma-and-the-fourth-trimester-with/id1851076558?i=1000755928920 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/twins-birth-trauma-and-the-fourth-trimester-with/id1851076558?i=1000755928920]

Tongues Ties, Airways, and A Surgeon’s Case for Whole Human Care with Dr. Prashant Charugundla

What if the surgeon you finally found actually saw you as a whole, complex human and not just a line item on a sleep study? In this episode, Dr. Emily welcomes oral and maxillofacial surgeon Dr. Prashant Charugundla for a conversation that bridges Western surgical precision with a genuinely holistic, systems-level lens on care. Prashant opens up about his own long journey before a myofunctional therapist and an osteopathic doctor finally pointed him toward what was really going on. That personal experience now fuels his deep compassion for the patients who arrive having already seen a dozen providers without answers. Together, Emily and Prashant unpack the structural and nervous-system ripple effects of unaddressed tongue ties, why a "normal" sleep study doesn't mean nothing is wrong, and what's really happening to the airway during pregnancy and postpartum. It's a wide-ranging, validating conversation for anyone who has ever been dismissed and told they're "just tired." IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER: * Prashant's personal health journey and how being a dismissed patient shaped his philosophy * What myofunctional therapy actually is * The tongue as a "relay station": how the genioglossus, hyoid, and the tent-pole effect connect the tongue to the whole body * Downstream consequences of unreleased tongue ties in both a 3-year-old and a 30-year-old (airway resistance, postural compensation, voice tightness, gait changes) * Upper airway resistance syndrome and why a clear sleep study can still miss real symptoms * Nasal breathing, nitric oxide, and the cortisol/norepinephrine cascade of mouth breathing at night * Phrenectomy vs. functional frenuloplasty vs. Z-plasty — and the windows of opportunity for intervention * The "room before furniture" philosophy: expanding structure before removing tissue * Why tongue ties remain controversial, and how to ask the right questions when choosing a provider * What's happening to the airway during pregnancy  * Bridging Eastern and Western perspectives toward whole-human, collaborative care More About Our Guest Dr. Prashant Charugundla ("Dr. C") is a Board Certified Oral & Maxillofacial Surgeon and the founder of Summit Oral Surgery in Portland, Oregon. Bridging Western surgical precision with Eastern holistic philosophy, he treats the face/mouth not as an isolated tool, but as the gateway to the body’s overall health—linking structure to airway, sleep, and nervous system regulation. With a background as a pediatric trauma surgeon and OHSU professor, Dr. C brings a gentle, safety-first approach to every case. However, his clinical focus is deeply rooted in adult skeletal and functional health. He specializes in helping adults who have lived with chronic airway obstruction, TMJ dysfunction, or sleep issues finally achieve true physiological release. Through nasomaxillary expansion and reconstructive surgery, he empowers patients to breathe better, sleep deeper, and thrive. Off the clock, he explores the Pacific Northwest, embodying the active, vital lifestyle he helps his patients restore. Learn more: portlandoralsurgeon.com [http://portlandoralsurgeon.com] More About Your Host  Emily Spaeth is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator, and founder of Be Well Baby® in Portland, Oregon. www.bewellbaby.org Our mission is to fundamentally shift what healthcare could look like for pregnancy, postpartum, and babies. Please help us spread the word by leaving a review! Every review matters!

Sex After Baby: Rebuilding Intimacy & Connection Postpartum with Krystle Gard

Nobody prepares you for how much intimacy and connection can shift after you have a baby — and yet it's one of the most common struggles new parents face. In this episode, Emily sits down with Krystle Gard, postpartum doula and Intimacy & Connection Coach, for an honest, shame-free conversation about what actually happens to your sex life after birth and what you can do about it. Krystle's journey into this work is deeply personal. From a supported home birth in Alaska to having twins without a local support system, to serving as a surrogate three times — she has lived the full spectrum of postpartum experiences. That, combined with her work supporting families as a postpartum doula, showed her just how little guidance new parents receive about intimacy after birth. In this episode, we cover: * Why libido and desire commonly shift postpartum (and why that's not a failure) * The role of sleep deprivation, hormones, and nervous system dysregulation in sexual desire * Why self-pleasure is often the most overlooked tool in postpartum recovery * The "three-minute game" from The Art of Giving and Receiving — and why it's a game changer for rebuilding connection * The intimacy candle practice for keeping the simmer going without pressure * Love languages, the red/yellow/green communication system, and the "favorite things list" * Why lube is non-negotiable postpartum * How birth trauma affects touch tolerance — and gentle ways to rebuild safety * The importance of humor, playfulness, and letting go of how things used to be Resources mentioned: * The Art of Giving and Receiving [https://amzn.to/4vz1Ri2] by Harry Faddis * Love Languages [https://amzn.to/4acTCzy] (Gary Chapman) * Sex After Birth Workshops: www.bewellbaby.org/sex-after-birth-class [http://www.bewellbaby.org/sex-after-birth-class] Find Krystle:  * https://wholefamilydoulacare.com/ [https://wholefamilydoulacare.com/]  * krystlegard@gmail.com [krystlegard@gmail.com]  More about our guest: With a background in engineering, Krystle brings organization, intuition, and problem-solving to help families find systems and flow that make life easier. She loves teaching and educating new parents, offering hands-on newborn care guidance, household support, and a listening ear. She also provides Intimacy & Connection Coaching to help couples nurture their relationships after birth. More about your host: Emily Spaeth is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and founder of Be Well Baby in Portland, Oregon. With extensive NICU experience and training in craniosacral therapy, she leads a team providing home-based health care for families navigating the tricky parts of pregnancy and postpartum.  She also hosts the Beyond Birth Blueprint [http://www.bewellbaby.org/beyond-birth-blueprint], an online birth and postpartum educational community available to families across the country—so no matter where you are, you have access to support, resources, and connection. Emily is also a mother of three and passionate about helping families move from surviving to thriving.