Stop Fighting Your Habits and Start Swapping Them

Stop Fighting Your Habits and Start Swapping Them

When we talk about breaking a habit, we often make change feel like a battle. In this episode, I’m exploring why words such as stopping, removing and giving something up can create resistance before we have even begun. I share a simpler approach: swap the old pattern for something that moves you towards the person or leader you want to become. With a real example of replacing one high-intensity activity with a more restorative option, I show how a small change in language can make new behaviour feel lighter, more achievable and far less like punishment. Highlights: (01:31) - Why fighting your habits creates more resistance (02:26) - The problem with relying on willpower (03:08) - Why adding something can work better than giving it up (04:02) - The question that connects change to your identity (05:13) - How one simple swap improved energy and wellbeing (06:37) - Turning a stopping goal into a towards statement Connect with Emma: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaMVL] Website [https://www.mindvaluesleadership.co.uk] This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio [https://www.wavemakersaudio.com/book-a-call]

Diagnosing Team Trust and Psychological Safety

In this episode, I’m continuing what has accidentally become a three-part mini series on psychological safety, trust, and what leaders can do when something in the team feels off. I talk through why it is so important to diagnose first, rather than rushing straight into action with a generic fix that might miss the real issue. We explore the difference between trust and psychological safety, the questions that help you work out what is really happening, and a simple four-quadrant map leaders can return to again and again. This is about noticing patterns, looking honestly at your own behaviour, and taking brave, practical steps to strengthen the team. Highlights: (01:38) - Why leaders need to diagnose before jumping into action (02:40) - The key difference between one-to-one trust and group safety (06:42) - Why teams move around the map instead of climbing a ladder (08:45) - What low trust and low safety can quietly look like (15:27) - How leaders can accidentally turn meetings into performance spaces (23:28) - Why honest self-reflection has to come before action Connect with Emma: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaMVL] Website [https://www.mindvaluesleadership.co.uk] This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio [https://www.wavemakersaudio.com/book-a-call]

Why Trust Is Not The Same As Psychological Safety

In this episode, I’m talking about trust, and honestly, how have we got to episode 60 without giving it its own moment? After last week’s reflections on psychological safety, I wanted to pull apart the difference between feeling safe in a group and deciding whether we trust another person. I look at why trust is really about prediction and risk, how it builds over time, and why leaders need to know whether they are dealing with a trust issue or a psychological safety issue. I also share two helpful models, the trust equation and Brené Brown’s BRAVING acronym, to make trust feel a little less fluffy and a lot more practical. Highlights: (01:34) - Why trust and psychological safety are not the same thing (05:14) - The leadership question that helps you spot what is really going on (06:22) - The trust equation, made human and usable (08:49) - Why self-orientation can quietly wreck trust (11:10) - Brené Brown’s BRAVING model and what it teaches us (13:15) - The generous assumption that helps trust grow Connect with Emma: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaMVL] Website [https://www.mindvaluesleadership.co.uk] This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio [https://www.wavemakersaudio.com/book-a-call]

Creating Psychological Safety Under Pressure

In this episode, I’m sharing a reflective learning moment from one of my most extreme leadership testing grounds, supporting my son in his ambitions as an athlete. It has had me thinking deeply about psychological safety, what it really means to create it, and how easy it is for good intentions to land as pressure instead of support. I’m talking about the fine line between helping and over-engineering, why leaders need their own support structures, and how high performance is rarely as simple as the shiny moment we see at the end. Real leadership often happens quietly, consistently and without fanfare, especially when things feel hard. Highlights: (01:42) - Why reflective learning matters so much for leaders (03:00) - The unexpected leadership lessons in supporting an ambitious athlete (05:17) - When coaching questions feel more like intervention than safety (07:10) - Why psychological safety has to be about the other person (10:07) - The importance of having your own scaffolding under pressure (13:00) - What we forget about the messy road to high performance Connect with Emma: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaMVL] Website [https://www.mindvaluesleadership.co.uk] This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio [https://www.wavemakersaudio.com/book-a-call]

The Leadership Skill That Makes Accountability Feel Safer

In this episode, I’m talking about accountability, one of those words we use all the time in business, but often mean very different things by it. Rather than seeing accountability as something reactive, something we only drag out when things go wrong, I’m exploring how we can think about it as a proactive relationship with a commitment. I unpack the difference between responsibility and accountability, why psychological safety matters so much, and how leaders can accidentally kill accountability through micromanaging, vague expectations or punishing mistakes. This is a practical look at how we can create more clarity, ownership and trust, without making accountability feel like a sledgehammer. Highlights: (01:30) - What accountability really means beyond the usual business buzzword (03:02) - The key difference between taking responsibility and owning the outcome (05:13) - Four questions that help make accountability clearer and more human (08:42) - Why conflict, blame and shame make accountability much harder (10:14) - How psychological safety and accountability are more connected than we think (13:05) - The leadership habits that quietly shut accountability down Connect with Emma: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaMVL] Website [https://www.mindvaluesleadership.co.uk] This Podcast is proudly produced by Wavemakers Audio [https://www.wavemakersaudio.com/book-a-call]