9: When I Used the Question as a Pickup Line

13: Who I Ask & How I Do It, Part 1

Ever wondered how to turn a simple question into 500+ heartfelt conversations? In part 1 of 2, I share 10 of the creative ways I’ve asked people to share a song that reminds them of a happy memory, with examples of each. Every story shows how the right approach, based on the setting, can spark meaningful conversations about something we all have in common. Listen for practical ways to connect with people from all walks of life, hear heartwarming real-life stories about music and memory, and discover how small acts of curiosity can connect you to the people around you. You’ll hear how music can bridge differences, inspire empathy, and create lasting human connection—whether you’re talking to someone on a plane, in a grocery store, or at a street performance. 📃 Transcript: HappinessSoundtrack.com/stories/ep13 [HappinessSoundtrack.com/stories/ep13] 💌 Subscribe to emails [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/subscribe] to get the links and show notes in your inbox! 💛 Help more people find the show by leaving a rating or review on Apple or Spotify, or send it to someone who could use a smile. Learn more about Chef Barton Seaver [https://www.instagram.com/bartonseaver/] and his mission of sustainability on his website [https://seafoodthatmatters.com/about] Listen to Gabriel’s music (a.k.a. Omenfog [https://omenfog.bandcamp.com/]) on Bandcamp Related episodes: * #2: Day 1 of the Project * #7: How Firefighters Responded to My Musical Emergency * #8: Only Another… 3 Years of Asking?! * #9: When I Used the Question as a Pickup Line * #10: Is Music Holding You Back, or Propelling You Forward?

12: Singing the Blues? These 14 Scientific Strategies Will Make You Happier

In this episode, we’re talking less about music and more about happiness. (Although music does come into play!) Once upon a pandemic, I was struggling with severe depression and anxiety. After losing my former job from COVID, and while in the midst of a toxic relationship, I started searching for things like “how to increase happiness” and “ways to relieve depression and anxiety.” I discovered these 14 scientifically-backed methods to improve happiness, all supported by neuroscience and/or psychology. They helped me from the inside out! If you’re struggling with your mental health, I hope they help you, too. Here I outline each strategy in depth, provide tips backed by research, and share proven insights on how to increase dopamine and serotonin—without drugs or medication. Tune in for actionable advice and suggestions for how to enhance your wellbeing! 📃 Get the transcript and ALL the links I referenced at HappinessSoundtrack.com/stories/ep12 [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/stories/ep12] 🎶 Listen to the 5 happiest songs, according to science [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3USj2QqlxAqCGcrQSZtKQb] 💌 Subscribe to emails [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/subscribe] to get the links and show notes sent to your inbox every week 💛 Do you know someone who could use these tips right now? Send them this episode, or the blog post! Chapters: 00:00 Welcome! 01:39 The 14 strategies, why I needed them, and how I discovered them 07:22 (#1) Program happy moments into your day 08:08 (#2) Manage your physical and emotional energy 17:43 (#3) Recite positive affirmations 20:28 (#4) Act like a happy person—smile and sing (Btw, wanna help me make a playlist?) 24:06 (#5) Invest in your relationships  26:32 (#6) Do kind things for other people 27:35 (#7) Practice deliberate gratitude 30:54 Halfway there! Thoughts so far? 31:26 (#8) Incorporate meditation and practice mindfulness 34:14 (#9) Do work that gives you meaning and delight 35:30 (#10) Make fun a priority 38:26 (#11) Anticipate and reflect 40:44 (#12) Spend time out in nature 42:28 (#13) Work with your strengths 43:12 (#14) Spend more on experiences than on possessions 44:22 Reviewing the list 45:16 Thanks for listening! + What’s next

11: The 5 Happiest Songs, According to Science

I explore five songs shown to increase dopamine levels in the brain—regardless of their emotional context (or lack thereof). These aren’t your typical party anthems; they’re all instrumental tracks that demonstrate a powerful emotional structure. You’ll learn: * Why these songs reliably trigger joy and reward in the brain * The science behind dopamine and musical tension * The stories behind all five tunes If you’re struggling with anxiety or depression, or if you’re just curious, science says these songs should uplift your mood! 📃 Get the transcript and ALL the links I referenced at HappinessSoundtrack.com/stories/ep11 [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/stories/ep11] 🎵 Listen to the Spotify playlist [https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3USj2QqlxAqCGcrQSZtKQb], or check out Signal [https://signal.vercel.app/edit] to make MIDI songs! 💌 Subscribe to emails [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/subscribe] to get the links and show notes sent to your inbox every week 💛 Do you know someone who could use a smile? Send them this episode!

10: Is Music Holding You Back, or Propelling You Forward?

Start by listening to Part 1 of this story, which is Episode 9: When I Used the Question As a Pickup Line [https://pod.link/1818619839/episode/84be8e02da12d8418b1b68a1069dca2f]. You can give your ex a lot of things back after a breakup, but you can't give back the songs you formed memories with during the relationship. So, what will you do with them? In this continuation of Episode 9, I share how a beautiful first date slowly gave way to emotional realizations about exactly that. This story explores how we sometimes use music to relive the past, avoid the present, or keep ourselves on emotional loops. But the good news is we can also use music to escape the very traps we create for ourselves. ✨ 3 Takeaways: 1. Music can be both a time capsule and a trap. The stories we attach to songs may comfort us—but they can also keep us from moving forward. 2. We can become addicted not just to memories, but to possibilities. Clinging to what was or what could be can keep us from living fully in what is. 3. There is always a way out. The question isn’t whether you can leave—it’s whether you're ready to do so. Have you ever used a song to stay in a chapter you should’ve closed? Share your thoughts in the comments, or on Instagram ⁠@HappinessSoundtrack⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/happinesssoundtrack] Related episodes: * #9 – When I Used the Question as a Pickup Line [https://pod.link/1818619839/episode/84be8e02da12d8418b1b68a1069dca2f] (Part 1 of this story) * #1 – The Obsession That Started It All [https://pod.link/1818619839/episode/b25183c8338cfd43dda90c0cf719dd53] * #2 – Day 1 of the Project [https://pod.link/1818619839/episode/37d1572308f4eb0f709c71418351dd08] * #8 – Only Another… 3 Years of Asking?! [https://pod.link/1818619839/episode/db2a90696e324db86e16822edb5e69d8] Also mentioned in this episode: * “Happiness is a Warm Gun [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdvnOH060Qg&pp=0gcJCfwAo7VqN5tD]” by the Beatles * “Do You Realize?? [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lPXWt2ESxVY]” by the Flaming Lips * With You In Spirit [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgPaTIgQdRs] by Balance & Composure * Delfern Tondo [https://www.instagram.com/p/DEXo7ggs0FV/?img_index=2] by Tacita Dean * The Healer [https://www.menil.org/collection/objects/5936-the-healer-le-therapeute] by René Magritte * “The Wishing Well [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KwxV-8D5T1I]” by aKing * My writing about the memory associated with that song [https://medium.com/the-riff/love-at-first-listen-the-wishing-well-by-aking-part-1-3a79fad0a462] * “Sail Into the Night [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ByJ3LEDvxrE]” by Will Cookson 💌 To get links and show notes sent straight to your inbox, ⁠subscribe to emails⁠ [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/subscribe] 🎵 For more about the project, visit ⁠HappinessSoundtrack.com⁠ [http://happinesssoundtrack.com]! You’ll find: * Monthly playlists of every song people have shared * Transcripts of every episode (⁠This one is here⁠) * Ways to submit your song and be part of the project!

9: When I Used the Question as a Pickup Line

When I promised myself to take more chances, my resolve was almost immediately tested. This is a story about unexpected attraction, and being #BoldDammit to make the first move. This music question doesn’t just reveal other people’s stories; it’s constantly shaping mine. 💌To get links and show notes sent straight to your inbox, Subscribe to emails [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/subscribe] 🎵For more about the project, visit HappinessSoundtrack.com [http://happinesssoundtrack.com]! You’ll find: * Monthly playlists of every song people have shared * Transcripts of every episode (This one is here [http://happinesssoundtrack.com/stories/ep9]) * Ways to submit your song and be part of the project! How would you have reacted to reading that note in the napkin? Would you have made a move if you found yourself in the meet-cute situation I was in a few days later? When was a time you were too scared to make the first move—and when was a time that you took action? How did it go?