The Modern Creative Woman

133. That Quiet Drift Away From Ourselves...and How to Return

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2199359/open_sms] In this episode, Dr. Amy Backos takes you inside a moment every creative woman knows too well—the quiet drift away from our creativity and, in many ways, from ourselves. What begins as a blank page or stalled idea can quickly snowball into self-doubt, overwhelm, or a nervous system stuck in self-protection. But this isn’t a personal failure—it’s biology, psychology, and lived experience converging. For 20 grounding minutes, Amy unpacks why we stop creating and how to gently navigate our way back. You’ll learn: * Why the brain interprets vulnerability, visibility, and uncertainty as “threats,” and how that shuts down creative impulses * The four psychological patterns that disconnect us from our art: avoidance, emotional overwhelm, perfectionism, and the freeze response * How childhood experiences—from classroom critiques to the pressure to perform—shape our adult creative identity * Why creativity is not a luxury, but a biological form of expression that reconnects us to our sense of self * How art-making supports self-regulation, identity repair, and the reclaiming of your own perspective * A simple, soothing creative practice you can do today: the Rainbow Photo Series, designed to ground you in presence and rekindle your creative spark Amy also shares personal stories about knitting failures, adolescent art shame, the psychology of “too muchness,” and the surprising perfectionism behind choosing the “right tomato.” You’ll walk away with practical ways to re-enter your inner world, slow your nervous system, and create not for the product—but for the reconnection. The Modern Creative Woman is a weekly podcast for women who want to live, create, and heal with intention. If this episode resonates, please share it with a friend and leave a 5-star review—your support helps bring this work to more women. To learn about the upcoming Modern Creative Woman x Girlboss Paris Retreat—a transformative week of art therapy, self-expression, and deep reflection—connect with Amy through the link in the show notes or on Instagram @dramybackos. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

132. Taking Control of Your Brain

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2199359/open_sms] In this week’s episode, Dr. Amy Backos invites listeners into a grounding and honest conversation about the power of values—especially as we head into a season filled with expectations, pressure, and anticipatory anxiety. Using the Buddha’s teaching on the “drunken monkeys” mind as a starting point, Amy explores how our restless, swirling thoughts can pull us away from what truly matters… unless we intentionally return to presence. Amy breaks down the heart of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT): identifying what is most important to us, and taking small, consistent, value-aligned actions. She shares how values differ from goals, how to recognize the values already present in your daily life, and how non-value actions—overthinking, pseudo-action, avoidance, distraction, or overindulgence—quietly drain meaning and increase suffering. In this rich, reflective episode, Amy offers practical tools for returning to presence: two-minute mindfulness resets, mirror practices, grounding routines, mindful breathing at red lights, and small daily behaviors that strengthen your connection to what matters. She also unpacks the “emotional cycle of change,” explaining why so many people stall in the Valley of Despair—and how values help us move forward with informed optimism. As the holidays approach and the new year looms, Amy nudges listeners to begin preparing now: clarifying your values, envisioning how you want to live them in the months ahead, and biasing yourself toward action with creative, doable behavioral experiments. This episode is an invitation to reconnect with your purpose, choose the behaviors that express it, and gently return—time and again—to the present moment. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

131. Creativity and Context

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2199359/open_sms] "Creativity itself doesn't care about results. The only thing it craves is the process. Learn to love the process and let whatever happens happen next without fussing too much about it. Work like a monk or a mule or some other representative metaphor for diligence. Love the work. Destiny will do what it wants with you regardless." - Elizabeth Gilbert  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

130. The Product Matters Less Than You Think

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2199359/open_sms]  “You should never let your fears prevent you from doing what you know is right.” - Aung San Suu Kyi In this episode, Dr. Amy Backos invites you to rethink your relationship with creativity, success, and even everyday life. Amy explores how our attachment to outcomes—whether in art, parenting, or personal growth—can limit our sense of fulfillment and agency. Through stories from her own art practice, her time as a student in art critiques, and her love of knitting, she illustrates the deep satisfaction that comes from being immersed in the process itself. Drawing from Art Therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), she connects creativity to values-based living, showing how to align your daily actions with what truly matters—no matter the final product. This episode is an invitation to slow down, stay present, and rediscover the joy of becoming—one brushstroke, one choice, one act of courage at a time. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

129. Why Compassion Is the Hardest (and Most Powerful) Thing You Can Do

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2199359/open_sms] “Extending yourself in compassion to another human being changes the nature of your relationship. The acknowledgment of one human being to another is what bonds, strengthens, and expands the human connection.” — Oprah Winfrey Empathy is one of the most beautiful, natural instincts we have as human beings — and one of the most misunderstood. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]