Who Are You Really Playing Chess With?

Who Are You Really Playing Chess With?

Kaila’s Keys Identify the real opponent. Class Notes Sometimes the conflict is not really with the person standing in front of you. In this Walks with Kaila episode, I talk about relationship conflict, emotional chess games, outside influences, boundaries, muscle testing, and learning how to find out whether you are dealing with your partner, their family, their friends, an old program, or an energy trying to control the situation. What May Need to Be Cleared Outside voices, control energy, relationship interference, boundary resistance, past programming, misplaced conflict, and emotional chess games with the wrong person.

Why You're Still Stuck, The Healing Hasn't Reached the Right Version of You

Kaila's Keys Find the entry point. Class Notes Sometimes the reason you're still struggling is because the version of you carrying the wound is not the version of you standing here today. In this Walks with Kaila episode, I talk about scrubbing season, going back to specific ages, clearing past versions of yourself, finding the trauma entry point, and healing the emotional loops that your body and spirit may still be carrying. What May Need to Be Cleared Age-specific wounds, emotional loops, trauma entry points, suppressed memories, absorbed relationship energy, and past versions of self still holding pain.

Becoming The Assistant: Skills That Make You Stand Out

Kaila’s Keys: The schedule belongs to you, and so does the standard. Class Notes: In this EA Coach video, I’m talking directly to executive assistants, admins, and executive service professionals about what it really means to become the assistant, not just someone sitting in the role. Your work may look small to other people, but calendar management, scheduling, communication, and the flow of the executive office depend on you paying attention, taking command, and moving like the administrative professional you are. If you want to grow in your career, be trusted, be respected, and be paid like the person who keeps things running, this one is for you.

Stop Taking On People’s Projections

Kaila’s Keys: Their struggle is not your sentence. Class Notes: In this video, I’m talking to two groups of people. First, the people who know they didn’t do anything wrong. You asked a simple question, made a simple request, or showed up normally, and suddenly someone else’s anger got thrown in your direction. This is where you have to pause and ask yourself, does this anger even belong to me? Sometimes people are going through their own lessons, and instead of learning from them, they complain, blame, and project. Second, I’m talking to the people doing the projecting. Pain does not give anybody permission to treat people poorly. Stress, sickness, money problems, heartbreak, and life pressure do not give you a license to become cruel, dismissive, or ungrateful to the people trying to stand beside you. This is a reminder that you are responsible for your own energy. You do not have to become someone’s punching bag just because they are struggling. And if someone keeps using their situation as an excuse to mistreat you, it may be time to pause, create distance, or leave the relationship altogether. Short Story: There was a person standing in front of someone else’s storm, trying to figure out why they were getting wet. They kept asking themselves, What did I do wrong? Did I say something wrong? Did I ask for too much? But the storm was never theirs. It belonged to the person in front of them, the one who was hurting, frustrated, tired, and angry at a life they had not yet learned from. Instead of sitting with the lesson, they threw the weather onto everyone nearby. And one day, the person getting soaked finally stepped back and said, I can care about you without carrying what belongs to you. That was the moment the lesson changed. Because compassion does not mean self-abandonment. And someone else’s pain does not give them permission to make you bleed.

Muscle Testing for Empaths: Is This Feeling Even Yours?

Before you react, pause and ask: is this mine? If you’re an empath, sensitive, or someone who absorbs other people’s energy, this one is for you. I’m sharing how muscle testing helped me pause after a tense conversation and realize the anger I felt did not actually belong to me. Sometimes what feels like anxiety, anger, or emotional overwhelm is really someone else’s energy being projected onto you. Before you react, check in with yourself, ask better questions, and learn how to tell the difference between your emotions and what you picked up from somebody else. Emotional regulation starts with knowing what is yours and what is not.