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Living Your Dream but Still Seeking Approval | Nyasha Ngwena on Identity, Self-Worth & Trusting Yourself

57 min · 9 jul 2026
aflevering Living Your Dream but Still Seeking Approval | Nyasha Ngwena on Identity, Self-Worth & Trusting Yourself artwork

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What happens when you've built the life you always dreamed of… and still don't feel free? In this deeply honest conversation, Debbie Thompson speaks with entrepreneur, investor and founder Nyasha Ngwena about the hidden patterns that shaped her life long after she had achieved the career she'd always wanted. From growing up believing she needed approval to pursue her dreams, to recognising that people-pleasing had quietly become part of her identity, Nyasha shares the powerful turning point that changed everything. Rather than blaming her circumstances, she began asking different questions—questions that led her back to herself. Together, Debbie and Nyasha explore what it means to stop performing for acceptance, reconnect with your intuition, and build a life that's aligned not just with your ambitions, but with who you truly are. If you've ever felt emotionally disconnected despite outward success, found yourself constantly seeking validation, or wondered why achieving your goals hasn't brought the peace you expected, this conversation will resonate deeply. In this episode you'll hear about: * Living your dream while still seeking approval * The hidden cost of people-pleasing * Why self-sacrifice can become a lifelong pattern * Learning to trust your intuition instead of external validation * Identity, belonging and self-worth * Rebuilding your relationship with yourself * Creating success without abandoning who you are This episode is for women navigating identity shifts, emotional burnout, life transitions and the quiet feeling that there has to be another way to live. Sometimes the biggest turning point isn't changing your life. It's changing the story you've been telling yourself. 👤 Connect with Nyasha Personal Website: https://nyasha.koshabrands.com [https://nyasha.koshabrands.com/] Instagram:https://instagram.com/beingnyasha [https://instagram.com/beingnyasha] Substack:https://substack.com/@cultivateyourknowing [https://substack.com/@cultivateyourknowing] Aligned Wealth:https://alignedwealth.life/ [https://alignedwealth.life/] YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@AlignedWealthLife [https://www.youtube.com/@AlignedWealthLife] Aligned Frequencies:https://music.alignedwealth.life/ [https://music.alignedwealth.life/] 🌿 Rewired & Radiant Instagram:⁠https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant] Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/rewiredandradiant [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281]

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aflevering Living Your Dream but Still Seeking Approval | Nyasha Ngwena on Identity, Self-Worth & Trusting Yourself artwork

Living Your Dream but Still Seeking Approval | Nyasha Ngwena on Identity, Self-Worth & Trusting Yourself

What happens when you've built the life you always dreamed of… and still don't feel free? In this deeply honest conversation, Debbie Thompson speaks with entrepreneur, investor and founder Nyasha Ngwena about the hidden patterns that shaped her life long after she had achieved the career she'd always wanted. From growing up believing she needed approval to pursue her dreams, to recognising that people-pleasing had quietly become part of her identity, Nyasha shares the powerful turning point that changed everything. Rather than blaming her circumstances, she began asking different questions—questions that led her back to herself. Together, Debbie and Nyasha explore what it means to stop performing for acceptance, reconnect with your intuition, and build a life that's aligned not just with your ambitions, but with who you truly are. If you've ever felt emotionally disconnected despite outward success, found yourself constantly seeking validation, or wondered why achieving your goals hasn't brought the peace you expected, this conversation will resonate deeply. In this episode you'll hear about: * Living your dream while still seeking approval * The hidden cost of people-pleasing * Why self-sacrifice can become a lifelong pattern * Learning to trust your intuition instead of external validation * Identity, belonging and self-worth * Rebuilding your relationship with yourself * Creating success without abandoning who you are This episode is for women navigating identity shifts, emotional burnout, life transitions and the quiet feeling that there has to be another way to live. Sometimes the biggest turning point isn't changing your life. It's changing the story you've been telling yourself. 👤 Connect with Nyasha Personal Website: https://nyasha.koshabrands.com [https://nyasha.koshabrands.com/] Instagram:https://instagram.com/beingnyasha [https://instagram.com/beingnyasha] Substack:https://substack.com/@cultivateyourknowing [https://substack.com/@cultivateyourknowing] Aligned Wealth:https://alignedwealth.life/ [https://alignedwealth.life/] YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@AlignedWealthLife [https://www.youtube.com/@AlignedWealthLife] Aligned Frequencies:https://music.alignedwealth.life/ [https://music.alignedwealth.life/] 🌿 Rewired & Radiant Instagram:⁠https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant] Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/rewiredandradiant [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281]

9 jul 202657 min
aflevering I Thought I Was the Problem | Amanda Gorman on ADHD, Self-Blame & Learning to See Yourself Differently artwork

I Thought I Was the Problem | Amanda Gorman on ADHD, Self-Blame & Learning to See Yourself Differently

What happens when you've spent your entire life believing you're the problem? In this deeply honest conversation, Debbie Thompson sits down with Amanda Gorman, artist, ADHD advocate, TEDx speaker, founder of Distractd, and mother of two, to explore the emotional reality of living for decades without understanding why life felt harder than it seemed for everyone else. Amanda shares her experience of juggling work, parenting, caregiving, grief, and the relentless pressure to keep everything together while quietly blaming herself for struggles she couldn't explain. What begins as a conversation about ADHD becomes something much deeper. It's a conversation about identity. About the stories we create about ourselves. About carrying invisible burdens. And about the freedom that comes when understanding replaces self-judgment. Together, Debbie and Amanda explore: * The emotional impact of receiving an ADHD diagnosis later in life * The hidden cost of masking and high-functioning coping strategies * Grief, burnout, and what happens when life becomes too heavy to carry alone * Why many women grow up believing they're "too much" or "not enough" * The difference between a character flaw and a neurological difference * Learning self-compassion after years of self-criticism * Why understanding yourself changes everything * The powerful question: "What do I need?" This episode is for women who have spent years doing everything for everyone else while quietly questioning themselves. For women navigating life transitions, identity shifts, emotional exhaustion, people-pleasing, or the feeling that something doesn't quite fit anymore. Most of all, it's for the woman who has carried a story about herself for a very long time and is beginning to wonder if that story is actually true. Sometimes healing doesn't begin with fixing yourself. Sometimes it begins with seeing yourself differently.

1 jul 202649 min
aflevering There Will Be Time Later | Adriana Carballo on Dreams, Intuition & the Cost of Waiting artwork

There Will Be Time Later | Adriana Carballo on Dreams, Intuition & the Cost of Waiting

How many of the things that matter most have quietly been placed in the "someday" category? In this heartfelt conversation, Debbie Thompson speaks with Adriana Carballo—storyteller, community builder, founder, mother, and creator of Spark Keepers—about the dream that changed the direction of her life. What begins as a story about her grandmother's wish to see the Norwegian fjords becomes a powerful reflection on time, intuition, adventure, and the assumptions we make about the future. When Adriana lost her grandmother before that dream could happen, she was forced to confront a question many women quietly carry: What am I postponing because I believe there will always be more time? Together, Debbie and Adriana explore the emotional patterns that keep us waiting, the hidden belief that we have to do everything alone, and the courage required to stop delaying what feels most alive. This conversation is for women navigating change, questioning what matters most, or feeling the pull toward something they can no longer ignore. In this episode you'll hear about: • The story that became Adriana's "stone in her shoe" • Why the things that matter most often get pushed into the future • The hidden cost of waiting for the perfect time • Learning to receive support instead of doing everything alone • Following a dream before certainty arrives • Creating space for joy, adventure, and possibility • What it means to become enchanted with your own life again Sometimes the stone isn't there to stop us. Sometimes it's there to wake us up. As you listen, notice what stays with you. Perhaps there is something in your life that has been waiting patiently for your attention. 👤 GUEST LINKS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hola.adrianacarballo [https://www.instagram.com/hola.adrianacarballo] Website: https://adrianacarballo.lovable.app/ [https://adrianacarballo.lovable.app/] Spark Keepers: https://spark-keepers.com/ [https://spark-keepers.com/] Substack: https://adrianacarballo.substack.com [https://adrianacarballo.substack.com/] 🌿 REWIRED & RADIANT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant [https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281]

29 jun 202633 min
aflevering People Pleasing & Burnout: The Journey Back to Yourself | Karen Blair artwork

People Pleasing & Burnout: The Journey Back to Yourself | Karen Blair

What happens when you've spent so many years helping everyone else that you can no longer hear yourself? In this deeply honest conversation, Karen Blair shares the moment she realised that the life she had built around caring, achieving, helping and doing had come at a cost she never expected. For years, she believed her value came from being useful. She stayed busy, kept moving, supported others, and rarely stopped long enough to ask what she needed. What looked like commitment and capability on the outside was masking a growing disconnection from herself. The turning point came when she began to see the patterns she had been living inside for years. Patterns of people pleasing. Over-functioning. Constant doing. Avoiding stillness. Searching outside herself for something she could only find within. When someone asked Karen what her greatest loss had been, her answer was simple. "Losing myself." But this conversation is not only about loss. It is about the slow and courageous process of finding yourself again. In this episode, you'll hear about: * People pleasing and the hidden cost of constantly helping others * Burnout, over-functioning and tying self-worth to being useful * Losing connection with yourself while meeting everyone else's needs * Learning to slow down and listen to your inner voice * The discomfort of sitting with yourself instead of escaping yourself * Self-abandonment, identity shifts and personal transformation What it means to finally come home to yourself This episode is for women navigating life transitions, emotional disconnection, burnout, people pleasing, identity shifts, or the feeling that somewhere along the way they lost touch with who they really are. Karen's story is a reminder that the greatest transformation is often not becoming someone new. It's remembering who you were before you became everything for everyone else. 👤 GUEST LINKS Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenconsciouslycoaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/karenconsciouslycoaching/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-blair-a7260b207/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/karen-blair-a7260b207/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karen.blair.274039 [https://www.facebook.com/karen.blair.274039] 🌿 REWIRED & RADIANT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant [https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281]

19 jun 202634 min
aflevering I Couldn't Ignore It Anymore: Victoria Solomon on Self-Worth & Relationships artwork

I Couldn't Ignore It Anymore: Victoria Solomon on Self-Worth & Relationships

Sometimes the moment that changes everything isn't a crisis. It's a question. A comment. A reflection from someone who loves us. In this deeply honest conversation, Victoria Solomon shares the turning point that forced her to see her life through a different lens. What began as a seemingly ordinary interaction with her teenage daughter became the moment she could no longer ignore the reality she had been living with for years. Together, Debbie and Victoria explore how relationship patterns become normalised, how self-worth can slowly erode without us realising it, and why awareness often arrives long before change. This is a conversation about the painful gap between what we know deep down and what we continue to tolerate. It's about survival, self-abandonment, identity, and the courage it takes to finally acknowledge the truth. For women navigating life transitions, questioning long-held patterns, or feeling disconnected from themselves, this episode offers a powerful reminder that recognition is often where transformation begins. In this episode we explore: • The moment Victoria realised her daughter was watching more than she thought • How unhealthy relationship dynamics become normalised over time • The hidden cost of constantly trying to be enough • Why awareness can feel both devastating and liberating • The impact our choices have on the people who love us most • The beliefs that keep women stuck in relationships and situations that no longer serve them • Moving from survival toward self-worth and self-trust • The freedom that comes from seeing clearly Sometimes the greatest turning points begin with a simple question: What am I teaching by what I'm willing to tolerate? 🎧 PODCAST LINKS YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@stoneinmyshoepodcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2ZplV0leGMT3TAfrbrvWz0?si=37jd6LVYTKKH0zI0yOqzYgApple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stone-in-my-shoe/id1869259267 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-stone-in-my-shoe/id1869259267] 👤 GUEST LINKS Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/victoria.j.salomon [https://www.facebook.com/victoria.j.salomon] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theixchelsystem/ [https://www.instagram.com/theixchelsystem/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ixcheltherapies/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ixcheltherapies/] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IxchelTherapiesTheIxchelSystem [https://www.youtube.com/@IxchelTherapiesTheIxchelSystem] Website: http://www.ixchelsystem.com [http://www.ixchelsystem.com/] 🌿 REWIRED & RADIANT Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant [https://www.instagram.com/rewiredandradiant] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579968982281]

12 jun 202637 min