EP795: TL Nuggets #240 - The Power Of Feedback

EP795: TL Nuggets #240 - The Power Of Feedback

"Between stimulus and response is a space. And in that space lies the opportunity for growth and freedom." — Viktor Frankl Nicky Billou is a high-achiever who, by his own admission, spent decades being bad at one of the most important skills in personal development: receiving feedback. Not ignoring it exactly — but going defensive, dismissing it, finding reasons it didn't apply. Sound familiar? Recording from his car during a rare day off on World Cup week, Nicky shares what shifted after two people he genuinely respects told him the same thing within two weeks — the second time at a men's overnight retreat in the Muskokas. Instead of deflecting, he finally sat with it. And in doing so, he found his way to one of Viktor Frankl's most powerful ideas: that between stimulus and response there is a space, and that space is where growth and freedom actually live. The practice Nicky lands on isn't passive acceptance. He's equally direct about the trap of agreeing with every piece of feedback you receive. The real skill is the pause — listening without immediately reacting, evaluating honestly, and then deciding what actually applies. It's harder than it sounds for driven people. It's also more valuable. Resources mentioned: Man's Search for Meaning — Viktor Frankl Viktor Frankl Institute: https://www.viktorfrankl.org Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level.

EP794: Roman Bodnarchuk - The Future is Now, And Its AI!

"The excuses are over. More millionaires and billionaires have been created through AI in the last 40 months than through any other industry we've ever seen — and this is just the beginning." Most people using AI are getting about 2% of what it can actually do. Not because the technology is too complicated, but because they have never set it up properly — and nobody has shown them how. Roman Bodnarczuk has been working in artificial intelligence since 2017, when a conversation with Dr. Geoffrey Hinton at the University of Toronto changed his view of what was coming. He is now one of Canada's leading AI strategists and the founder of N5R.AI, and what he finds everywhere he goes — in boardrooms, at conferences, on executives' phones — is the same gap: people know the buzzwords, but they have not done the setup. They have not personalized their AI. They have not connected it to their data. They have never had the moment where it stops feeling like a search engine and starts feeling like a co-founder. In this conversation, Roman walks through the setup live, in real time, with Nicky working through his own ChatGPT configuration on screen. He explains why personalization is not optional, how connecting your email, calendar, and documents changes everything the AI produces, and why speaking to your AI — rather than typing at it — is the fastest way to close the gap between where you are and what you want to build. He also shares the story of two brothers who took a $20,000 investment, used twelve off-the-shelf AI tools, and built a business to $400 million in revenue in a single year — with no employees and no outside investors. Roman closes with three concrete steps anyone can take today — none of them require technical expertise, and the most important one takes about ten minutes. Expert action steps: 1. Personalize your AI immediately. Go into the settings of whichever AI you use — ChatGPT, Claude, or Gemini — and fill in the custom instructions, occupation, and "more about you" fields. Ask the AI itself to generate optimized versions of all three based on everything it knows about you; each section should be around 1,350 characters. 2. Connect your data. Link your email, calendar, Google Drive, and any other apps you use regularly. The AI is only as useful as the context it has access to; connecting your real data transforms generic responses into genuinely relevant ones. 3. Talk to your AI every day. Speak rather than type — it is three times faster and more natural. Use it as a thinking partner, a coach, a strategist. The more you engage with it and ask it to remember what matters to you, the more useful it becomes over time. Learn more & connect: https://www.N5R.AI [https://www.N5R.AI] Resources mentioned: ChatGPT — https://www.chatgpt.com [https://www.chatgpt.com] Claude (Anthropic) — https://www.claude.ai [https://www.claude.ai] Gemini (Google) — https://gemini.google.com [https://gemini.google.com] HeyGen (AI video and avatar creation) — https://www.heygen.com [https://www.heygen.com] Super Whisper (voice-to-text app) — https://superwhisper.com [https://superwhisper.com] Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com [https://www.eCircleAcademy.com] and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level.

EP793: Joseph Riggio - How To Make Better Decisions

"Arrogance is the ability to recognize you own the decision. You own the idea of what to do. I make the decision — and then when I make it, I own the responsibility, whether it works or it doesn't." Joseph Riggio has spent 36 years working where decisions carry real weight — with C-suite executives, high-net-worth investors, and special forces operators around the world. What he has found, consistently, is that the quality separating great leaders from well-meaning ones has almost nothing to do with intelligence or strategy. It has to do with ownership. In this conversation, Riggio introduces the concept of ontological arrogance — the subject of his recent book — and makes the case that collaborative leadership, as it has been practiced and preached over the last two decades, has inadvertently coached leaders out of the one thing they most need: the willingness to stand in their own authority, make the call, and own what happens next. He draws on his background in NLP, his formative training under Werner Erhard, and years of applied work with the highest-stakes decision-makers in the world to explain where the breakdown happens — and what it looks like when someone gets it right. Nicky and Joseph also explore the Vince Lombardi story that crystallises the whole idea: the difference between being someone's coach and being their friend, and why the best leaders know how to be both without confusing the two. The conversation covers the parallels between individual leadership accountability and how great national leaders — Trump, Reagan, Roosevelt — have demonstrated the same pattern of gathering broad input and then making the call decisively. Riggio's path to this work began in architecture in 1980s New York, ran through Werner Erhard's training rooms, and was shaped by years of study under Roy Frazier and alongside John LaValle, Richard Bandler's co-trainer worldwide. His Decision Architecture Correction Methodology is the practical expression of everything that background produced. Learn more & connect: https://www.josephriggio.com [https://www.josephriggio.com] Resources mentioned: In Praise of the Ontology of Arrogance — Joseph Riggio Sex, Possibility, and Transformation — Marsha Martin The Sterling Men's Weekend — https://www.sterlingmensweekend.com [https://www.sterlingmensweekend.com] Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com [https://www.eCircleAcademy.com] and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level.

EP792: JJ Virgin - What If Age Was Your Biggest Advantage

"People who are excited about aging live seven and a half years longer than people who aren't." JJ Virgin is one of the most recognizable names in health, nutrition, and wellness entrepreneurship — a four-time New York Times bestselling author and the founder of two distinct businesses: one aimed at consumers through her Well Beyond 40 platform, and one aimed at healthcare practitioners through the Health Business Growth Collective. She joins Nicky for a conversation that moves fast and covers a lot of ground. The central thread running through everything is the belief — supported by research Virgin cites and by decades of watching people age well or poorly — that the story you tell yourself about getting older shapes the biological reality of it. The entrepreneurs and practitioners who stay sharp, vital, and relevant into their sixties and seventies tend to share one thing: it doesn't dawn on them to act old. They keep seeking challenge, keep falling in love with what they are learning, and refuse to accept that the best chapters are behind them. The conversation goes deep on the emerging science of peptides and regenerative medicine — two fields that Virgin believes are on the verge of becoming mainstream, and two fields that face meaningful resistance from the pharmaceutical industry. She explains what urolithin A, BPC-157, and regenerative biologics like exosomes and PRP actually do, why compounding pharmacies are more rigorously monitored than most people assume, and how this science first came onto her radar when her son was fighting for his life after a near-fatal accident. There is also a strong thread on sales and business — Virgin's argument that selling is a moral responsibility, not something to avoid, and what happens when healthcare practitioners treat their discomfort with sales as a virtue rather than a liability. JJ closes with three concrete steps anyone can act on immediately — none of them require a gym membership, a supplement budget, or a complete business overhaul. Expert Action Steps: 1. Move intentionally every single day. Daily movement is not optional maintenance — it is the most powerful tool available for extending both health span and mental sharpness. 2. Keep learning and seek out discomfort. Look specifically for challenges that force you to adapt — whether that is lifting heavier, taking on a new skill, or entering a room where you are the least experienced person. 3. Choose your thoughts about age and possibility with deliberate care. The research suggests that how you feel about aging shapes how you age. Decide who you want to be physically and mentally, and orient your daily choices around that version of yourself. Learn more & connect: JJVirgin.com [https://jjvirgin.com/] Well Beyond 40 podcast — available on all major platforms Health Business Growth Collective — https://thehbgc.com/ [https://thehbgc.com/] Health Business Growth Show — available on all major platforms Resources mentioned: The Virgin Diet by JJ Virgin — JJVirgin.com The Sugar Impact Diet by JJ Virgin — JJVirgin.com Understanding Women by Alison Armstrong — allisonarmstrong.com Urolithin A / Timeline — timelinenutrition.com BPC-157 — available through compounding pharmacies; consult a functional medicine practitioner Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level.

EP791: Amanda Johnson - How Books Can Build Your Authority

"What would be the use of me acquiring all of this for myself if I didn't leave it for somebody else?" Amanda Johnson has spent 20 years helping thought leaders, coaches, and business owners write books — and she has come to believe that the most important thing a book does has very little to do with authority or speaking engagements. It has to do with legacy. With what gets left behind. With the story that someone, somewhere, is going to need at the exact moment they're ready to lose everything. She makes that case through the story of Ruben — a business strategist and early client who was diagnosed with cancer, went into remission, and then got the call that it had come back. They gave him 30 days. He had three things left to do: hand over his business, marry his wife in a church, and finish the book he'd been meaning to write. He called Amanda. He wrote it in 30 days. He passed on day 31. That story isn't the whole conversation — but it's the heart of it. Amanda also gets into her message matrix framework, the retreat model she built after realizing that a clear outline wasn't enough to get accomplished people writing, and the pattern she's seen again and again with high-achievers in the helping professions: there's a part of their story that hasn't been processed, and it's quietly holding them back — from stages, from scaling, from fully showing up. Writing, she says, is the most powerful way to release it. Amanda closes with three concrete action steps for anyone who's been circling their book: 1. Treat the writing project the way you've treated every other successful thing you've built. Block time, set a schedule, create boundaries around it. The discipline that grew your business will write your book. 2. Find a writing partner, not a ghostwriter. Do as much of the writing yourself as you can — even if it's imperfect — and have someone sharpen it. The energetic ownership of the work matters, and readers feel the difference. 3. Ask yourself honestly whether this book needs more time than you typically give things. If there's a story still calling to be told, sit with it. Find a witness. Then put it into the world. Learn more & connect: Saved by Story House: https://www.savedbystory.house [https://www.savedbystory.house] Visit https://www.eCircleAcademy.com [https://www.eCircleAcademy.com] and book a success call with Nicky to take your practice to the next level.