Parallel Parenting vs Co-Parenting: When Cooperation Isn’t Possible

Pt 2: Inside I Love You, My Narcissist — with Producer/Director Ali & Stephanie Schmall

In Part 2 of this Coaching Couch interview, Livi North continues her conversation with Ali and Stephanie Schmall, the producer and director behind I Love You, My Narcissist. This episode goes deeper into the emotional reality of making a film about narcissistic abuse, the survivor stories that shaped the project, and why reactive abuse is so often misunderstood. Ali and Stephanie discuss the personal impact of creating the film, the scenes that were hardest to make, and why psychological abuse can make victims look like the problem — especially in court, family conflict, and public settings. We also talk about why charming abusers are so difficult for outsiders to recognize, how survivors are often dismissed when they try to explain what happened, and why films like I Love You, My Narcissist matter so much. If you have ever wished people could see the pattern instead of judging one reaction, this conversation is for you. Watch I Love You, My Narcissist and use code LIVI1 for 15% off. https://stream.alefcinestream.com/checkout/i-love-you-my-narcissist/purchase?code=livi1 Book a Strategy Call: unfuckyourcoparenting.com

10 Parenting Plan Mistakes to Avoid with a High-Conflict Co-Parent

Parenting plans are supposed to create structure, predictability, and peace. But when you are dealing with a high-conflict, narcissistic, or toxic co-parent, vague parenting plan language can become the exact thing that keeps you stuck in constant conflict. In this episode of Unfuck Your Co-Parenting, Livi North breaks down 10 common parenting plan clauses that sound reasonable in theory but often become chaos in real life. We’re talking about phrases like “parents will cooperate,” “reasonable notice,” “mutual agreement,” unlimited phone access, right of first refusal, morality clauses, ambiguous makeup time, and other language that can be twisted, weaponized, or used to keep you defending yourself. This episode is especially for parents who are negotiating a custody agreement, preparing for mediation, modifying a parenting plan, or realizing that their current agreement leaves way too much room for interpretation. The goal is not to write the prettiest parenting plan. The goal is to write one that actually works with the co-parent you have — not the fantasy version everyone wishes they would become. This episode is not legal advice. Always consult an attorney about your specific agreement and jurisdiction. Book a strategy call: https://unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call [https://unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call] high-conflict co-parenting, narcissistic co-parenting, parenting plan, custody agreement, parallel parenting, toxic ex, divorce support, custody tips, co-parenting with a narcissist, parenting plan mistakes, family court, mediation, custody modification, divorce strategy

Pt 1: Inside I Love You, My Narcissist — with Producer/Director Ali & Stephanie Schmall

In this episode of The Coaching Couch, Livi North is joined by Ali and Stephanie Schmall, the producer and director behind I Love You, My Narcissist. This independent hybrid film blends scripted storytelling, survivor experiences, and expert commentary to show the slow, confusing, identity-eroding reality of narcissistic abuse — the part that is so hard to explain to friends, family, courts, and anyone who only sees the charming public version of the abuser. Ali and Stephanie share why they created the film, how survivor stories shaped the fictional storylines, why they chose a hybrid scripted/documentary format, and how the film helps people see the pattern of manipulation, gaslighting, isolation, and reactive abuse more clearly. If you have ever wished you could point to something and say, “This. This is what happened,” this conversation — and this film — is for you. Watch I Love You, My Narcissist and use code LIVI1 for 15% off. [https://stream.alefcinestream.com/checkout/i-love-you-my-narcissist/purchase?code=livi1] Book a Strategy Call: unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call [unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call]

Parallel Parenting vs Co-Parenting: When Cooperation Isn’t Possible

What happens when “healthy co-parenting” becomes a trap? In this episode, Livi North breaks down the difference between co-parenting and parallel parenting — and why so many people stay emotionally stuck trying to force cooperation with someone committed to conflict. We cover: * what healthy co-parenting actually looks like * signs cooperation is no longer realistic * why communication becomes weaponized in high-conflict dynamics * the emotional burnout that pushes many parents toward parallel parenting * real-world examples of control, baiting, and endless conflict cycles * why reducing engagement is often healthier for both you and your kids If you have ever thought: “Why does every conversation turn into a fight?” or “Am I giving up if I stop trying so hard?” …this episode is for you. Book a Strategy Call: unfuckyourcoparenting.com/book-your-call Follow the show and share this episode with someone stuck in the Good Co-Parent Trap. #coparenting #parallelparenting #highconflictcoparenting #narcissisticcoparent #divorcepodcast #custodybattle #familycourt #coparentinghelp

Pt 2: The Gray Area Trap: Custody Agreement Loopholes High-Conflict Exes Love

This is Part 2 of our series on how high-conflict co-parents weaponize custody agreements. If you haven’t listened to Part 1, start there—we break down The Gray Area Trap and why “reasonable” parenting plans don’t work with unreasonable people. In this episode, we apply those concepts to real-life situations, including: * Being blocked from your child’s activities * Phone calls being ignored * Holidays and schedule manipulation * Extracurriculars scheduled during your time * Travel without notice * Last-minute changes used to control your life Because the issue is not the individual problem. It’s the pattern. You’ll learn how to: * Identify tactics like Boundary Creep and Schedule Hijacking * Stop engaging in constant renegotiation * Protect your time and your relationship with your kids * Stay strategic—even when your ex is not If you feel like you’re constantly reacting instead of actually co-parenting, this episode will help you shift that dynamic. 📩 Submit your questions: livi@unfuckyourcoparenting.com 📌 Disclaimer: This is not legal advice. Always consult an attorney for your specific situation. #coparenting #highconflictcoparenting #divorcepodcast #narcissisticex #custodybattle #familycourt #parallelparenting #toxicrelationships #divorcerecovery #parentingpodcast #part2