We Gotta Thing - A Swinger Podcast

Episode 152: Managing Anxiety in the Lifestyle

There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will 'find someone better,' performance issue worries....and so on. What is actually going on in our brains when we feel anxious or depressed? How can we recognize what's really happening and deal with it in a healthy way? Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we help to address some of these very common concerns. Spoiler Alert: You are not alone in dealing with these feelings and emotions!

Episode 151: The Resort- A Gateway to Ethical Non-Monogamy

In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. This property is set on the cliffs of western Jamaica and is absolutely stunning! The views, the service, the food, the entertainment, the sensual vibe and of course the sexy people were all amazing! Spoiler alert: you won't be disappointed.... Mentioned in this episode: The Resort website [https://the-group.co/resort/] Music by Pornoson (used with permission) [https://open.spotify.com/album/5NhXtalm5RAs3VW9YrcvIz?si=n4HmF-S6QEejTSZt6s_GBg] Devious Dragonfly Events [https://deviousdragonfly.com/] The Free We Gotta Thing Info Hub [https://wegottathing.com/] Contact Mr Jones [https://wegottathing.com/contact-the-joneses/] for a WGT community promo code

Episode 150: Is the Lifestyle Addictive?

Can the lifestyle become an addiction? Well, it can if we don't recognize what's going on in our brains. In this episode with Catherine from Expansive Connection, we break down the key components at play including New Relationship Energy (NRE), Novelty, Desensation, the 'Pleasure Paradox' and how all of this shows up in our relationships. Of course we also discuss ways to recognize and respond when armed with this new knowledge! Discussed in this episode: Expansive Connection Coaching [https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm] The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Paradox of Pleasure [https://open.spotify.com/episode/73hthu5wshqn3uVevKPU9C?si=aaY6DC8yTXufxgzihEc1wA&nd=1&dlsi=fe97d772d35b472e] The Hidden Brain Podcast: The Path to Enough [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6cdSq91URXn0SajHKH9olW?si=EeOT-WorQQuuWwb2rAaeHg&nd=1&dlsi=8353c1e4bc974746] Join the We Gotta Thing Community [https://community.wegottathing.com/?_gl=1*gff2yf*_ga*MTA0NDI2MjcuMTc3MjU1ODU1MA..*_ga_057Z6WWEJF*czE3NzI1NTg1NTAkbzEkZzAkdDE3NzI1NTg1NTAkajYwJGwwJGgw] Request a WGT Community promo code from Mr Jones [https://wegottathing.com/contact-the-joneses/]

Episode 149: How to Be a Power Couple in the Lifestyle

What does it take to be 'successful' as a couple in the world of non-monogamy? In this episode we discuss waht we believe to be the four most important characteristics of a power couple in the lifestyle: * Be Connected * Be Curious * Be Confident * Be Approachable Important Links: Contact Mr Jones [https://wegottathing.com/contact-the-joneses/] to request a WGT community trial discount promo code Get access to the free We Gotta Thing Information Hub [https://community.wegottathing.com/plans/1950130?bundle_token=6f7f4b888ceb397c1923219347557094&utm_source=manual&_gl=1*1ucf8ji*_ga*NDQ5MjcyMzMuMTc2ODQ5MTI0NA..*_ga_057Z6WWEJF*czE3Njg0OTEyNDMkbzEkZzAkdDE3Njg0OTEyNDMkajYwJGwwJGgw] collection of resources Learn how to be successful as a single guy [https://community.wegottathing.com/plans/1910297?bundle_token=d15c7014139352f689f2ea1eb18bbb95&utm_source=manual] in the lifestyle Learn how to talk to your partner [https://community.wegottathing.com/plans/1960255?bundle_token=0f87574b5dc46a1550ec5f46782877c1&utm_source=manual] about non-monogamy STD Hero testing kits discount [https://wegottathing.com/we-recommend/] Follow us on 'X' [https://x.com/wegottathing] and Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/wegottathing/]

Episode 148: Reframing Christian Faith and the Lifestyle

Do you struggle with your understanding of how non-monogamy reconciles with a life of faith? Join us for a thought provoking conversation with Dr Mitch G, the newest member of the Expansive Connection coaching team. His training, experience, and specialization in religion and theology provides a helpful framework and understanding for those with religious backgrounds who find themselves struggling with their belief systems or plagued by shame, guilt, and fear over what they've been taught or once believed. Dr Mitch's Education and Certifications * B.A in Religion * Master's degree in Theology * Doctoral degree in Holistic Health * Postive Psychology & Well-being Coaching Certification Resources supporting this episode: Join the We Gotta Thing Community! [https://community.wegottathing.com/?_gl=1*1mmbpcf*_ga*ODYwODY1NjEuMTc2OTA4NDc2Nw..*_ga_057Z6WWEJF*czE3NjkwODQ3NjckbzEkZzAkdDE3NjkwODQ3NjckajYwJGwwJGgw] Expansive Connection Coaching [https://www.expansiveconnection.com/enm] Embracing Prodigals by John Sanders [https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Prodigals-Overcoming-Authoritative-Embodying/dp/1725264064/ref=sr_1_1?crid=226U1CEN0CFYB&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.E3wDhM5cfdjoyb7To7omdA.mhCCMmX-uDgDXSPhFw0p45IwRvXc9H6ONWMt-ctoYu0&dib_tag=se&keywords=Embracing+Prodigals+by+John+Sanders&qid=1769083823&sprefix=embracing+prodigals+by+john+sanders+%2Caps%2C110&sr=8-1] (Cascade Books, 2020) How the Bible Actually Works [https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062686755/?bestFormat=true&k=how%20the%20bible%20actually%20works%20by%20peter%20enns&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-ww_k0_1_42_de&crid=14HNUX2LGUGVC&sprefix=How%20the%20Bible%20Actually%20Works%20by%20Peter%20Enns] by Peter Enns, PhD (Harper One, 2019) Inspired [https://www.amazon.com/Inspired-Slaying-Giants-Walking-Loving/dp/0718022319/ref=sr_1_1?crid=7N3EJZQFD6OI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.3U_bDzpfpT8DRElMdObSm17DULy88U4ptyXFJIaiP-K13QuSL06v1Ig-D2VzaNkf5q-wiTZ02gshAI7nhuHnYQDf_HO162w436a2QBCJFs6k3QRI33EMSOw9TdOTBb-4y-ukGoLz8pA5MrlT1Rrqe8lLdmejtLlNQBu5-Q5E75T2Cbk076GGywGc26KSzN-aC7k3LO0rRdRQ-K3x4k5WgKM1n4oC3oVIstAttaBtjMI.-1bdIp5-dOoUP2ASH8uBlF-hIBGaqHeZNax2HYlG2Fg&dib_tag=se&keywords=Inspired+by+Rachel+Held+Evans&qid=1769083923&sprefix=inspired+by+rachel+held+evans%2Caps%2C115&sr=8-1] by Rachel Held Evans (Nelson Books, 2018) Better Ways to Read the Bible [https://www.amazon.com/Better-Ways-Read-Bible-Transforming/dp/158743668X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2CBKH350ES964&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.b736DZZE06hDzHPMapTzDb5VW05ne4MOyr0iMBdNiyXGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.6UOHZgAPe4oNBepg4W1lvBzdU1vDaWAhfW2G5dZl4Gs&dib_tag=se&keywords=Better+Ways+to+Read+the+Bible+by+Zack+W.+Lambert&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769083988&sprefix=better+ways+to+read+the+bible+by+zack+w.+lambert%2Caps%2C117&sr=8-1] by Zack W. Lambert (Brazos Press, 2025) "Why You Don't Want a Biblical Marriage" [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6ikz1TmAeYe1KlDTDZiu8X?si=908a7c9500144b1c] with Jennifer Bird, PhD (Podcast - The New Evangelicals) Marriage in the Bible - What Do the Texts Say? [https://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Bible-What-Texts-Say/dp/1538121050/ref=sr_1_1?crid=38DNKNNQL6PPQ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.PYe482KxJuT_A1uWj-KxAnVbJiwglaCI5snRLGQ_Z73N3touQYBSxqWHmLdRID4cgXC0Qb8xP0gjOV_m9fLPP80pWym4mqNMtRQXnbggontn5mzK7xyCUlOQCmfizQxKJUr5cTDqm8e4oVT6izI67A.nMlRsbyllT__loJwiv-raSKAN0vmw4Ev77vtRyzO110&dib_tag=se&keywords=Marriage+in+the+Bible+-+What+Do+the+Texts+Say%3F&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769084101&sprefix=marriage+in+the+bible+-+what+do+the+texts+say+%2Caps%2C86&sr=8-1] by Jennifer G. Bird, PhD (Rowman & Littlefield, 2023) Sex, God & the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy [https://www.amazon.com/Conservative-Church-Tina-Schermer-Sellers/dp/1138674982/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2R5FIUFUQN8Y2&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.JLL3XPU4tGo55IRWDcFgw_qhFOM3-wzPtacVb350HhrgnFN0TKDXCrkJ92x-lLc9C63J5-mNrl7Ibyz4xFEuj1g8MvMuY2tQkShI3__FHhI.fzh4IoGljSOz578SU7R3poA0qPfdBE_J-HJle_-0nSs&dib_tag=se&keywords=Sex%2C+God+%26+the+Conservative+Church%3A+Erasing+Shame+from+Sexual+Intimacy&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769084456&sprefix=sex%2C+god+%26+the+conservative+church+erasing+shame+from+sexual+intimacy%2Caps%2C83&sr=8-1] by Tina Schermer Sellers, PhD (Routledge, 2017) Let's Talk About Sex - Challenging the Church's Stance on Sexual Morality [https://www.amazon.com/Lets-Talk-About-Sex-Challenging/dp/B0CWY1Z4W5/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1G8N22JORFFBE&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.neOThR0uRtwtbyOxJmQT8UgxqF0cSXoan9xzisqXYxipRqoKa7waC89LCtuNDbOjNIBYDpPqBmYFn7hqHnAutAcNh6dQ1YG2CHOisUZF7Xe_sFHOWk9IEhxnLfB8baJhjmWHNiEXxTL3RoYokIwiBQCc77UNJc-PERSvwo2B1IOt2AQJwSKdeJTj99ULpQr3TepC9Veda2fLWpey22aRsu3wCRu0BUC0iXje3fymT0k.os25TAt-a6mw_DOjSQa58QwotLtKes5blNQgRsjd_yA&dib_tag=se&keywords=Let%27s+Talk+About+Sex+-+Challenging+the+Church%27s+Stance+on+Sexual+Morality&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769084498&sprefix=let%27s+talk+about+sex+-+challenging+the+church%27s+stance+on+sexual+morality%2Caps%2C86&sr=8-1] by Glen Farell (Love Done Right, 2024) or their podcast "But is it Biblical [https://open.spotify.com/show/2m4VO44jOtuW1Rn3vibFdl?si=4c4bceb1d54a44ed]" with Glen & Lydia Farell Shameless - A Sexual Reformation [https://www.amazon.com/Shameless-Sexual-Reformation-Nadia-Bolz-Weber/dp/1601427581/ref=sr_1_1?crid=25HWYNJTW3RGJ&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9._LSbWRC_TaBl2V0RKdFXtg3gI8fKiw-O5iGxtt6ef0-xRUgFUoFl814h4g774hKqNbNV-aioqYIu8e9aVUKuKw._NzCM5aqvroZYMn2dIlSnie1eim86Wz03rqHhaxqcYg&dib_tag=se&keywords=Shameless+-+A+Sexual+Reformation&qid=1769084580&sprefix=shameless+-+a+sexual+reformation%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1] by Nadia Bolz-Weber (Convergent, 2019) Beyond Shame - Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms [https://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Shame-Creating-Healthy-Terms/dp/1506455662/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2EXWNJOV3R3Q5&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.zfKBVKIVnkTNTbXfXexjIA.WHax5Ri_HcN6xod1O55BQQJuErLzGsk-yTMj0SPPZ2o&dib_tag=se&keywords=Beyond+Shame+-+Creating+a+Healthy+Sex+Life+on+Your+Own+Terms&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769084612&sprefix=beyond+shame+-+creating+a+healthy+sex+life+on+your+own+terms%2Caps%2C110&sr=8-1] by Matthias Roberts (Fortress Press, 2020) The Wisdom of Your Body - Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living [https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Your-Body-Wholeness-Connection/dp/1587435527/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3J8F7PF998RVE&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.n7ki-vAMy6Gs88HYKHHNprdmevTGxGR2KjvxXFCCHayXhXOlaqkvMaHlbTgSv28r2vM7vKAhWR7YNbAt2zunonzf6p3EBzxNzsGsdCDtSbeYmDk0IsFOPFwkD1mn9TK7iM1fUa6VnLIPPbRf5hQXruAHLRIsh69Ax3J4Ni1SchBMcZN2Xsq_u6oGyJZFzcVqvqVrpN4oitlplvvsSmDhomuSdFIqxmp-NjRnBuaaiJ8.qld5Gk9HKPnGp4zLn4UQmkieUCExu2OZyIMd3zCb4JE&dib_tag=se&keywords=The+Wisdom+of+Your+Body+-+Finding+Healing%2C+Wholeness%2C+and+Connection+through+Embodied+Living&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1769084642&sprefix=the+wisdom+of+your+body+-+finding+healing%2C+wholeness%2C+and+connection+through+embodied+living%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1] by Hillary McBride, PhD (Brazos Press, 2021) NG Podcast - "Reconciling Religion & Non-monogamy [https://open.spotify.com/episode/59cAQ5RCruF03xmAaxtBFN?si=mKS8RLPsTgefONE8Qm9rWA]" 9/10/2024 Casual Swinger Podcast - "Shame on you! - Love God" [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shame-on-you-love-god/id1439075343?i=1000459838372] 12/16/2019