Your Parenting Long Game

http://rachel-bailey.com/361When our kids resist, melt down, or push back, our instinct is to get them to calm down or cooperate...fast. We talk more, repeat rules, and try to convince them to “get it together.” But the more urgent we become, the more our kids resist and the harder everything feels. Fortunately, there a quick shift can help you respond more effectively, and in a way that you don't regret.  In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why urgency fuels kids' resistance (and why it’s so hard to stop being urgent in the moment) * How to recognize when your own fight-or-flight response is taking over * A simple shift that helps you slow down so that you can regain influence and your child can calm down more quickly -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

When our kids are upset, we often suggest strategies to help them calm down or manage tough situations—like taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or breaking down assignments into smaller steps. But when those strategies don’t instantly erase the discomfort, both kids (and parents!) often conclude that “nothing works.” In this episode, you’ll learn: * How to assess whether a strategy really “works” or not (so kids stop insisting that nothing works!) * A powerful exercise you can try with your child to help them build tolerance for discomfort * Simple ways to introduce the idea of tolerance in everyday situations (like chores, screen time, or schoolwork) -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

When you're raising a child with big emotions, it’s natural for an "easier" sibling to get less of your time and attention. But a more flexible child may pay a quiet price -- giving in to avoid conflict, hiding their feelings, or believing they matter less. Chances are, you've noticed that but aren't sure what to do.  Fortunately, a few small shifts can make a big difference in how they view themselves (and will can make you feel less guilty).  In this episode, you’ll learn how to: * Spot the signs that an "easier" child is struggling * Show them that they matter (even if you've told them and it hasn't helped) * Help them learn to stand up for themselves -- FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources to support you as you’re raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

If you’re raising a child with big emotions, you know how draining it can be when they melt down, argue, refuse to cooperate, or fall apart after the smallest setback. It’s easy to assume these behaviors are defiance, disrespect, or laziness… but most of the time, they’re actually signs that your child is missing something that you can provide! In this episode, you’ll learn: * The two main sets of skills kids with big emotions often lack * How to recognize behaviors that signal a missing skill rather than misbehavior * Why addressing missing skills reduces drama now and builds your child’s long-term confidence and self-esteem --  FREE WORKSHOP: Stop Working So Hard to Get Your Kids to Calm Down [https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/CXHcNqXpQLy9gfvqSeDzZA] Other free resources to support you as you're raising a child with big emotions [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]

Many kids with big emotions have big reactions when things don’t go their way. They may yell, slam doors, roll their eyes, or even say disrespectful things when they are upset. And while it’s natural for parents to think that our children are choosing to be rude or defiant, something else is actually happening instead. In this episode, you’ll learn:  * What's going on in the brain that explains why Yuck behaviors are not a conscious choice * Why this is NOT an excuse for negative behavior * How kids can learn to handle their “Yuck Urge”… and how this builds their confidence rather than eroding it --  FREE RESOURCE: Understanding the Yuck Curve [https://rachel-bailey.com/yuck-curve] Other free resources [https://rachel-bailey.com/everything-page/] Join Rachel’s Facebook group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/RachelBailey/] Work with Rachel [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel]