Your Parenting Long Game

Episode 377: Should There Be a Consequence for Big Reactions?

13 min · 16 apr 202613 min
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When kids say or do things that feel rude or disrespectful in the middle of a big reaction, it can leave you feeling stuck: Part of you knows they're overwhelmed, but another part is thinking, "I can't just let this go." That tension is real. And it makes sense, especially if you were raised to believe that every negative behavior needs a consequence. But what looks like "bad behavior" in these moments is often something deeper....and responding only to the behavior can miss the actual problem. In this episode, you'll hear: • Why your instinct to give a consequence makes sense, but often backfires • What's really happening for your child in those intense moments • A more effective way to respond that helps your child take responsibility and build the skills they need to handle these moments differently next time FREE: Does your child have a narrow zone of tolerance? [https://tally.so/r/Gxrr0L] Talk to Rachel about getting support [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel/]

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Episode 378: When You Say No and Your Child Keeps Pushing

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aflevering Episode 377: Should There Be a Consequence for Big Reactions? artwork

Episode 377: Should There Be a Consequence for Big Reactions?

When kids say or do things that feel rude or disrespectful in the middle of a big reaction, it can leave you feeling stuck: Part of you knows they're overwhelmed, but another part is thinking, "I can't just let this go." That tension is real. And it makes sense, especially if you were raised to believe that every negative behavior needs a consequence. But what looks like "bad behavior" in these moments is often something deeper....and responding only to the behavior can miss the actual problem. In this episode, you'll hear: • Why your instinct to give a consequence makes sense, but often backfires • What's really happening for your child in those intense moments • A more effective way to respond that helps your child take responsibility and build the skills they need to handle these moments differently next time FREE: Does your child have a narrow zone of tolerance? [https://tally.so/r/Gxrr0L] Talk to Rachel about getting support [https://rachel-bailey.com/work-with-rachel/]

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Episode 376: When Your Child Says "Stop Yelling at Me!" When You're Not Even Yelling

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Episode 375: When You Try to Do Something Fun With Your Child... and It Goes Downhill

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