The Moving On Method® Podcast

This week on The Moving On Method®, Michelle Dempsey-Multack and Dr. Cassie Bowles delve into the complexities of detachment, particularly in the context of trauma and mental health. They explore how detachment can serve as a coping mechanism, its spectrum from mild to severe, and its implications on relationships and emotional well-being. Their conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness, compassionate curiosity, and the journey towards healing and reconnection with oneself. They also touch on the challenges of navigating relationships post-trauma and the significance of seeking help when needed. Together they will cover: * How detachment is a coping mechanism against overwhelming emotions * Self-Awareness is the first step towards change and healing * There is a spectrum of trauma levels * AND MORE Dr. Cassie Bowles graduated with honors from the University of California, Berkeley, earning a Bachelor’s Degree in American Studies. Following a few years working in health care consulting and the non-profit world, she returned to graduate school in 2014 to complete a Doctorate of Psychology at the California School of Professional Psychology. Dr. Cassie has trained in academic medical centers, schools, and private practice settings, working with a wide range of clinical presentations from depression and anxiety to complex medical diagnoses. She completed training in psychodiagnostic testing and assessment in the Infant and Preschool Clinic at UCLA’s Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior, working with families of young children to address developmental and behavioral concerns. As an intern at Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, she received training in neuropsychological assessment and cognitive behavioral therapy at the Children’s Orthopaedic Center. While at CHLA, she worked primarily with adolescents diagnosed with post-concussive syndrome and other neurological disorders such as epilepsy. Finding herself drawn to depth work and interested in deepening her clinical skills as a therapist, she completed an internship and post graduate fellowship in psychodynamic psychotherapy at the Wright Institute Los Angeles, working with adults on an ongoing basis. While she considers herself a generalist in clinical practice, she takes special interest in working with parents, survivors of sexual and gender-based trauma, and phase-of-life/personal identity issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

In this conversation, Dr. Zoe Shaw and Michelle Dempsey-Multack explore the complexities of shame, codependency, and the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in relationships. They discuss the impact of trauma on personal growth and relationships, the importance of vulnerability, and the need for emotional safety. Dr. Zoe shares her insights on how high-achieving women often struggle with their feminine energy and the societal pressures that contribute to this. The discussion also touches on the changing landscape of marriage and divorce, and Dr. Zoe's personal journey through her own divorce, emphasizing the importance of self-care and emotional health. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women with complex shame and codependency. This was a great conversation on the complexities of how the feminine vs masculine energy shows up in modern relationships. Some other key takeaways from this conversation include: * Complex shame can stem from early trauma and societal marginalization. * Healing from shame requires vulnerability and empathy. * High-achieving women often mask their femininity to succeed. * Self-sabotage is common among those with complex shame. * Healthy relationships require both partners to be intentional. * Feminine energy is powerful and nurturing, not weak. * Men need to feel needed to operate in their masculine energy. * Self-care is essential for teaching future generations. * Divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth and change. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in Clinical Psychology. For over 20 years she has worked to help women overcome Complex Shame™ and co-dependency in order to experience the healthy love you deserve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

In this conversation, Michelle Dempsey-Multack is joined by popular internet personality, Scarlett Longstreet. Together, they discuss the complexities of divorce, co-parenting, and the emotional journey of self-discovery that often accompanies the end of a marriage. They explore the societal stigma surrounding divorce, the importance of personal growth, and the challenges of integrating new partners into family life. The discussion emphasizes the need for empathy, understanding, and patience as individuals navigate their new realities post-divorce, while also prioritizing the well-being of their children. Key Takeaways: * Divorce is often a long and painful process of self-discovery. * Women often feel the need to hide their divorce-related content due to societal stigma. * Leaving a marriage is rarely a flippant decision; it often involves years of contemplation. * The emotional weight of divorce can be heavy, especially when children are involved. * It's important to recognize that a loveless marriage can be just as damaging as an abusive one. * Co-parenting requires alignment on core values, not just day-to-day decisions. * The loss of control after divorce can be one of the hardest aspects to navigate. * Healthy relationships post-divorce require personal growth and self-awareness. * Integrating new partners into family life should be done with care and patience. * It's essential to prioritize children's well-being over adult emotions during and after divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Have you been in a relationship and wondered, "is this abuse?" This week, Michelle Dempsey-Multack welcomes back podcast host & author Kate Anthony to discuss what abuse looks like and when it is time to leave an unhealthy marriage. Kate opens up to Michelle about her "frog in boiling water" analogy and how you can leave a relationship before staying for too long. In this informational episode, Michelle and Kate will cover: * How to break the cycle and leave an unhealthy marriage * Understanding that having empathy does not make you responsible for someone's feelings * Giving yourself compassion * It is not your responsibility to heal your partner's trauma * AND SO MUCH MORE Kate Anthony is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage, host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast and the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, Should I Stay or Should I Go? which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self-work. Kate empowers women to find their strength, passion, and confidence even in the most disempowering of circumstances and helps them move forward with concrete plans set on a solid foundation, putting their children at the center (not in the middle) of all their decisions. Kate is trained in various coaching modalities with two of the top coach training organizations in the world. Additionally, Kate is certified as a Domestic Violence Victim’s Advocate by the state of California, as a Co-Parenting Specialist by the Mosten Guthrie Academy, and as a High Conflict Divorce Coach by Tina Swithin’s High Conflict Divorce Coaching Certification Program. In addition to her online programs, Kate works privately with clients all over the world.  Kate lives in Los Angeles with her teenage son, whom she lovingly co-parents with her ex-husband. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Parenting styles often vary from person to person, but what happens when you are trying to decide which co-parenting style is best while also learning how to co-parent? This week, Michelle Dempsey-Multack sits down with Patrick Ney to discuss how to know what parenting style is right for you. They discuss the complexities of parenting, particularly in co-parenting situations. They also put an emphasis on the importance of empathy, understanding different perspectives, and maintaining boundaries while fostering trust and quality time with children. The conversation highlights the challenges parents face in balancing discipline and support, and the long-term lessons that can be imparted through thoughtful parenting. In this episode you will also learn: - How fear can hinder effective parenting and co-parenting. - How balancing boundaries and flexibility is essential in parenting. - How quality time with children strengthens relationships and trust. - How parenting is a continuous learning process, even for experienced parents. AND MORE! Paddy Ney is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and journalist who is also the founder of ⁠All About Parenting⁠, a global organization spanning 30+ countries. He’s led hundreds of workshops on parenting psychology, impacting over 100,000 students worldwide. His book, When At the Zoo Watch the Humans, became a #1 Amazon Bestseller, and his YouTube channel, Amazing Polish History, has racked up over 10 million views.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]