Episode 67: Leading When Your Team Is Beat Down

Episode 73: Hard Conversations Are the Work AI Cannot Do for You

This week's Play: Schedule the conversation you have been outsourcing to time. The conversations leaders postpone do not disappear. They accumulate. They compound. They develop their own gravity. In this episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams explores the leadership work senior leaders consistently postpone, the work that compounds in cost the longer it gets postponed, and the work AI cannot do no matter how good the tools get. The reason for postponing has never been that the right time has not arrived. The reason has always been that the conversation costs the leader something. The mistake is in believing the costs of postponement and resolution are not symmetrical when they are. In this episode: - Why every senior leader Robert has coached has at least one conversation sitting on their internal docket - The five conversations that keep surfacing across coaching practice and thirty years of food distribution leadership - Why AI can prep you for these conversations but cannot have them - The Place Setting Framework's Knife as judgment and balance in the moment - Three patterns that distinguish productive hard conversations from unproductive ones - Why most leaders get the standard-vs-tone calibration exactly backwards The five common conversations: 01. The honest performance conversation with a long-term contributor whose performance has been slipping 02. The conversation with a peer whose behavior is creating problems for both teams 03. The push-up to a senior leader whose direction is producing outcomes that are clearly not working 04. The honest conversation with a high-potential about what is actually in the way of their next promotion 05. The internal conversation with yourself about a public commitment you can now see was wrong The three patterns of productive conversations: 01. Open with what you observed, not what you concluded 02. End with the future, not the past 03. Hold the standard firm. Let the tone be human. Referenced this week: Robert's coaching practice, drawn from years of work with senior leaders. Five common conversations identified across coaching engagements. Anonymized to protect privacy of clients. Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching methodology. Robert is a certified Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coach (2018). Episode 72: Walking Away From a Title You Spent Thirty Years Earning. Available now in your podcast feed. CONNECT WITH ROBERT ADAMS: The Leadership Table, weekly newsletter on Substack (free) A weekly leadership playbook. Every Monday at 6:00 AM EST. https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/ [https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/] Breaking Bread, LinkedIn Newsletter (free) The shorter version of the week's idea. Every Friday at 6:45 AM EST. https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/ [https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/] Subscribe to A Student of Leadership: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy [https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy] Website: https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/ [https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/] Real Leaders. Real Growth. One Table.

Episode 72: Walking Away From a Title You Spent Thirty Years Earning

This week's Play: Stop one piece of title work for a week. Most leaders are far more attached to their titles than they realize. In this Q3 opening episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams shares what he learned in the last few weeks of holding a title he spent thirty years earning, the day after walking away from it. The transition from EVP at UniPro Foodservice to full-time A Student of Leadership, LLC is the backdrop. The leadership argument is the substance. This is the first episode recorded as Robert's full-time work. In this episode: - Why the trap of title-based leadership is invisible from inside it - What Robert noticed in the final weeks of holding a senior role about the ratio of maintenance to work - The accumulation pattern: how senior-level scaffolding becomes indistinguishable from the building it was meant to support - Three diagnostic questions every leader can run on themselves, regardless of how long they have held the role - Why title-based authority is depreciating and earned authority is appreciating in an AI-augmented organization - The Place Setting Framework's Plate as the deeper question underneath title-based leadership The three diagnostic questions: 01. What part of your daily energy is going to maintaining the title rather than doing the work the title is supposed to make possible? 02. What conversations are you avoiding because the title makes them feel more weighted than they need to be? 03. If you walked away from your title tomorrow, what would you do on Monday morning? Q3 BEGINS: This is the opening episode of Q3 and the first episode of A Student of Leadership, LLC, full-time. The framework continues. The plays continue. The work, finally, with the room to do it fully. Q3 ARC: Q3 opens "The Honest Quarter" - direct contrarian leadership content from the leader past the point of needing to prove anything. Four weeks. Four hard truths. Beginning here. Referenced this week: Robert Adams's transition: from EVP at UniPro Foodservice (last day July 3) to A Student of Leadership, LLC, full-time (Monday July 6 forward). Verified personal. Available for Robert's first-person use across all platforms. Episode 71: Q2 Close - The Trust Audit Most Leaders Skip. Available now in your podcast feed. CONNECT WITH ROBERT ADAMS: The Leadership Table, weekly newsletter on Substack (free) A weekly leadership playbook. Every Monday at 6:00 AM EST. https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/ [https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/] Breaking Bread, LinkedIn Newsletter (free) The shorter version of the week's idea. Every Friday at 6:45 AM EST. https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/ [https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/] Subscribe to A Student of Leadership: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy [https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy] Website: https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/ [https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/] Share this episode with a senior leader carrying more in their title than they would want to admit. Real Leaders. Real Growth. One Table. Robert Adams | A Student of Leadership

Episode 71: Q2 Close - The Trust Audit Most Leaders Skip

This week's Play: Repair the small trust break before it compounds. Trust is not lost in the dramatic moment. It is lost in the pattern of small things. In this Q2 close episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams returns to The Napkin, the seventh element of the Place Setting Framework, with the question that closes the quarter. What are the small behaviors that quietly destroy trust, and how do you audit yourself honestly enough to catch them before your team gives up? This is the Q2 close. Thirteen weeks of the Place Setting Framework. Seven elements introduced, with several on their second pass. The full table has been set, and parts of it have been set twice. In this episode: - Why the leaders who derail at senior levels do not derail because of strategic failures - Marshall Goldsmith's research, accumulated over decades, on the small behavioral patterns that compound into lost trust - Five small trust-destroyers most leaders do not see in themselves - Why the people closest to the pattern are usually the last ones to see it - The audit that matters most is the one the team runs on the leader every day - Why AI cannot run this audit for the leader - The Q2 close: where the framework has been, where it goes from here The five trust-destroyers to audit: 01. Divided attention 02. Credit asymmetry 03. The broken small commitment 04. The barely-visible favoritism 05. The dismissed input Q2 BY THE NUMBERS: 13 weeks of weekly publishing 7 framework elements introduced 4 elements at second pass already 4 months of compounding content WHAT'S NEXT: Q3 begins July 6. The framework continues. The remaining second-pass elements. By the end of Q3, every piece of the framework will have been deepened. July 14: A Student of Leadership, LLC becomes Robert's full-time work. The transition from EVP at UniPro to full-time coaching, content, and the next phase. Referenced this week: Marshall Goldsmith leadership derailers research. Documented across decades of executive coaching at senior organizational levels and across multiple published works. Robert is a certified Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coach (2018). Episode 70: The Refill Discipline. Available now in your podcast feed. CONNECT WITH ROBERT ADAMS: The Leadership Table, weekly newsletter on Substack (free) A weekly leadership playbook. Every Monday at 6:00 AM EST. https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/ [https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/] Breaking Bread, LinkedIn Newsletter (free) The shorter version of the week's idea. Every Friday at 6:45 AM EST. https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/ [https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/] Subscribe to A Student of Leadership: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy [https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy] Website: https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/ [https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/] Share this episode with one leader closing Q2 and ready to run the trust audit they have been postponing. Real Leaders. Real Growth. One Table. Robert Adams | A Student of Leadership

Episode 70: The Refill Discipline

This week's Play: Schedule thirty minutes with the person who refills you. The leader who has nothing left to give already stopped leading. In this episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams returns to The Spoon, the fifth element of the Place Setting Framework, with the question almost no one is asking. Who pours into the leader doing the pouring? The Place Setting Framework did not start in a conference room. It started at a kitchen table, where Robert's mother poured into a catering business, aging parents in caregiving, family, staff, and neighbors with a capacity that did not run out, because she had built three structural disciplines for staying full enough to keep pouring. In this episode: - Why "the leader who has nothing left to give already stopped leading" is a structural observation, not a sentimental one - The original Spoon: what Robert watched his mother do, decades before he had the language to name it - The three things she protected that nobody around her noticed - Why most leaders skip refilling in their thirties to climb, and most pay for it in their fifties - The three categories every leader refills in or pays for skipping: relational, physical, reflective - The hardest truth in this conversation: the leaders most likely to skip refilling are the leaders doing the most pouring - Why AI is making the refill discipline more important, not less The three refill categories: 01. Relational: a few specific people who do not need anything from you, where the dynamic is reciprocal 02. Physical: foundational, not optimized. Sleep, real food, movement, time outside 03. Reflective: thinking time that produces nothing and solves nothing. Thirty minutes a week, protected Referenced this week: Robert Adams's mother. Verified personal story. The catering business, the in-home caregiving for her aging parents, and the leadership-without-calling-it-leadership that became the emotional spine of the Place Setting Framework. Available for Robert's first-person use across all platforms. Episode 69: From Feedback to Feedforward. Available now in your podcast feed. CONNECT WITH ROBERT ADAMS: The Leadership Table, weekly newsletter on Substack (free) A weekly leadership playbook. Every Monday at 6:00 AM EST. https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/ [https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/] Breaking Bread, LinkedIn Newsletter (free) The shorter version of the week's idea. Every Friday at 6:45 AM EST. https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/ [https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/] Subscribe to A Student of Leadership: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy [https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy] Website: https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/ [https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/] Share this episode with a leader doing too much of the pouring and not enough of the refilling. Real Leaders. Real Growth. One Table. Robert Adams | A Student of Leadership

Episode 69: From Feedback to Feedforward

This week's Play: Run the feedback you have been quietly resisting. Average leaders defend. Great leaders absorb. In this episode of A Student of Leadership, Robert Adams returns to The Fork, the fourth element of the Place Setting Framework, with the harder question that takes its second pass. What do great leaders absorb that average leaders reject? The leader who absorbs feedback is building. The leader who defends against it is preserving. Both happen quietly. The compounding difference shows up over decades. In this episode: - The personal story Robert has not told publicly before: what happened in the first week of his Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching certification in 2018 - Why over twenty years of "receiving feedback well" was actually a sustained performance of receptiveness with internal defense underneath - The shift from feedback to feedforward, and why one is past-focused and the other is future-focused - Three things average leaders reject and why each one feels reasonable in the moment - Three disciplines that distinguish leaders who keep developing well into their sixties from leaders who plateau in their forties - Why the explanation attached to a thank-you is always a defense - Where AI helps with self-awareness and where it cannot replace the people who actually see your leadership The three rejections to watch for in yourself: 01. Suggestions from someone you outrank 02. Suggestions that contradict a previous public commitment 03. Suggestions that imply you have a gap The three disciplines of absorption: 01. Ask, repeatedly, with specificity 02. Thank without explaining 03. Follow up with what you tried and what happened Referenced this week: Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching methodology. Robert is a certified Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coach. The feedforward methodology is documented across Goldsmith's published work and decades of executive coaching research. Episode 68: How to Lead When You Do Not Have the Authority. Available now in your podcast feed. CONNECT WITH ROBERT ADAMS: The Leadership Table, weekly newsletter on Substack (free) A weekly leadership playbook. Every Monday at 6:00 AM EST. https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/ [https://robertadamsleader.substack.com/] Breaking Bread, LinkedIn Newsletter (free) The shorter version of the week's idea. Every Friday at 6:45 AM EST. https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/ [https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/7316826823063920641/] Subscribe to A Student of Leadership: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-student-of-leadership-real-leaders-real-growth-one-table/id1788679511] Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy [https://open.spotify.com/show/6KdlbKAVbF118b2Khfcpqy] Website: https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/ [https://astudentofleadership.riverside.com/] Share this episode with one leader who is ready to start absorbing instead of defending. Real Leaders. Real Growth. One Table. Robert Adams | A Student of Leadership