Bye Bye Panic

Why Anxious People Can't Set Boundaries - And How To Fix It

Does setting boundaries make your chest tighten? Even just thinking about saying “no”?  Well, you’re not alone. For a lot of anxious people, turning someone down feels selfish in the moment. So they go along with everything, and slowly sink into exhaustion, anger, and resentment. Although always saying “yes” might feel kind or capable, this loop of taking on more than you can handle has nothing to do with either. It’s actually about avoiding emotional discomfort, and it shows how easy it can be to place other people’s reactions above your own capacity. In this episode, I share what’s actually happening when boundaries feel hard, and how to set them without feeling guilty or spiraling afterward. (This comes straight from my own experience of burning out, resenting people I cared about, and learning how to set healthy boundaries.) Tune in to learn: * 00.35 Why boundaries don’t make you selfish * 02:48 Why you still avoid saying “no” * 05:53 How to set boundaries without overexplaining * 09:33 How boundaries strengthen self-trust and calm the nervous system Additional Resources: ➡️ To accelerate your recovery journey, book a call to see if the mentorship with Shaan's team will help your specific situation [https://byebyepanic.lpages.co/permanentrecoveryvideo/?utm_campaign=125&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]  ➡️ Get access to the Desensitization Blueprint [https://www.byebyepanic.com/?utm_campaign=125&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   ➡️ FREE E-BOOK [https://www.byebyepanic.com/optin-v21740104216015?utm_campaign=125&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   --- Follow me on social media:  🔹 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam]  🔹 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/byebyepanic/]  🔹 LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaankassam/]

7 Simple Shifts That Will ACTUALLY Heal Your Nervous System

If you’ve been trying to heal your anxiety by fixing, analyzing, or controlling every sensation, it can start to feel like your nervous system is working against you. But it isn’t. What’s really happening is that your nervous system is stuck in protection mode. It responds to discomfort as if it’s danger. And the harder you push for certainty or calm, the more it tightens its grip. In this episode, I walk through seven small shifts that gradually teach the nervous system a different story. Each shift sends a signal of safety through how you relate to sensations, uncertainty, and daily stress. You’ll hear about: * How a nervous system learns safety through experience * Why allowing sensations changes the stress respons * How trust and resilience rebuild the nervous system Tune in! Additional Resources: ➡️ To accelerate your recovery journey, book a call to see if the mentorship with Shaan's team will help your specific situation [https://byebyepanic.lpages.co/permanentrecoveryvideo/?utm_campaign=126&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]  ➡️ Get access to the Desensitization Blueprint [https://www.byebyepanic.com/?utm_campaign=126&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   ➡️ FREE E-BOOK [https://www.byebyepanic.com/optin-v21740104216015?utm_campaign=126&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   --- Follow me on social media:  🔹 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam]  🔹 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/byebyepanic/]  🔹 LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaankassam/]

What 15 Years of Anxiety Taught Me - That Therapy Didn't

For the last 15 years, I’ve been recovering from my own anxiety and helping over 1,000 people around the world heal theirs, including doctors and therapists. Before I understood what actually works, I did what everyone tells you to do: therapy, books, talking about triggers, childhood, and thought patterns. And I was still anxious. What changed everything was treating anxiety like what it actually was for me: a nervous system stuck in protection mode, reacting to normal sensations like they’re threats. In this episode, I share the seven lessons I learned about healing anxiety that I wish someone had explained to me sooner. You’ll learn: *  02:01 Why anxiety isn’t just a mental issue *  08:43 Why recovery can feel worse at first *  11:19 Why anxiety recovery can’t be rushed … and several more things most people usually never hear. Tune in. Additional Resources: ➡️ To accelerate your recovery journey, book a call to see if the mentorship with Shaan's team will help your specific situation [https://byebyepanic.lpages.co/permanentrecoveryvideo/?utm_campaign=124&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]  ➡️ Get access to the Desensitization Blueprint [https://www.byebyepanic.com/?utm_campaign=124&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   ➡️ FREE E-BOOK [https://www.byebyepanic.com/optin-v21740104216015?utm_campaign=124&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   --- Follow me on social media:  🔹 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam]  🔹 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/byebyepanic/]  🔹 LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaankassam/]

Why You Can't 'Just Relax' (And That's Actually Normal)

“Just relax.” People say it like it’s the easiest thing in the world. And it sounds easy. Just relax. Really, how hard can it be?  But more often than not, you’ve tried everything to relax… and your body still won’t calm down. If you’re nodding right now, I have news for you:  This is normal. It means your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do to keep you safe. After enough stress, it stays in protection mode. It scans and braces because it hasn’t gotten the message that the threat is over yet. That’s why deep breathing, meditation, or any other method to rest doesn’t work. You can’t relax a body that’s convinced it’s in danger. So in this video, I’ll help show you how to get your body relaxed, and how to begin working with it so that you can feel restored. Tune in to learn: * Why “just relax” often makes things harder * How protection mode keeps the body alert * What allows relaxation to happen naturally Additional Resources: ➡️ To accelerate your recovery journey, book a call to see if the mentorship with Shaan's team will help your specific situation [https://byebyepanic.lpages.co/permanentrecoveryvideo/?utm_campaign=123&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]  ➡️ Get access to the Desensitization Blueprint [https://www.byebyepanic.com/?utm_campaign=123&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   ➡️ FREE E-BOOK [https://www.byebyepanic.com/optin-v21740104216015?utm_campaign=123&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   --- Follow me on social media:  🔹 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam]  🔹 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/byebyepanic/]  🔹 LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaankassam/]

How to FINALLY Fix Your Nervous System - And Bring Your Life Back

If you’re trying to fix your nervous system, it probably feels like something went wrong inside your body. Like it changed, broke, or stopped working the way it used to. The problem is, it was never broken. A sensitized nervous system isn’t damaged. It’s a system that learned to protect you after too much stress. Panic, anxiety, and strange sensations are signs your body is stuck in protection mode and still waiting for proof that it’s safe. In this episode, I explain why recovery comes from understanding what’s happening and changing how you respond to it.  I talk about: * 00:00 - why your nervous system stays on high alert  * 01:51 - how calling yourself broken keeps the alarm turned on * 05:10 - how understanding what’s happening conveys safety and reduces fear  * 11:30 - why living life with sensations teaches the body it’s safe again * 15:36 - what actually allows the nervous system to settle on its own Tune in to understand why fixing isn’t what heals the nervous system. Additional Resources: ➡️ To accelerate your recovery journey, book a call to see if the mentorship with Shaan's team will help your specific situation [https://byebyepanic.lpages.co/permanentrecoveryvideo/?utm_campaign=122&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]  ➡️ Get access to the Desensitization Blueprint [https://www.byebyepanic.com/?utm_campaign=122&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   ➡️ FREE E-BOOK [https://www.byebyepanic.com/optin-v21740104216015?utm_campaign=122&utm_medium=audio&utm_source=podcast]   --- Follow me on social media:  🔹 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/shaan_kassam]  🔹 Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/byebyepanic/]  🔹 LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/shaankassam/]