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She Dreaded 3pm Every Day — What Her Child with ADHD Taught Her About Parenting — EFFT Therapist Katharina Sandizell

In this episode Michelle sits down with Katharina Sandizell — Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist and Supervisor across Couples, Individuals, and Families, and Certified AEDP therapist — for one of the most clinically rich and personally honest conversations on the podcast. They explore what is really happening inside parents when parenting gets hard, what the research tells us about how emotions actually move through children and adults when they feel safe, and what repair looks like in real family life — not the concept, but the words, the moment, the breath. In this episode you'll learn: * Why your biggest parenting reactions are almost never really about what is happening in front of you * The wave of emotion — why feelings move through in just 2 to 5 minutes when a child feels held and not alone * How to recognize the early signs that your nervous system is being hijacked by something older than this moment * The inner child practice that parents can use before bed, in the morning, and eventually in the moment itself * What spirited, highly sensitive, and ADHD children most need from their parents — and why it is not what we think * What repair actually sounds like — including when years have gone by and the guilt feels enormous * Why our hardest parenting moments have the potential to be genuine agents of healing — for us and for our children Topics: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy · EFFT · AEDP · parenting ADHD children · highly sensitive child · spirited child · parent emotional regulation · parenting triggers · yelling and parenting shame · inner child work for parents · self-compassion for parents · repair after conflict · parent burnout · gentle parenting · peaceful parenting · conscious parenting · attachment parenting · parenting and trauma · RAIN practice · wave of emotion Guest: Katharina is certified with the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) as an Emotionally Focused Therapist and Supervisor. This means that she has met the rigorous standards required for specialized and advanced certification, earning high recognition for her expertise in working with couples (EFCT) and for her supervision and training of other therapists learning couples therapy. Katharina is also certified with the AEDP Institute as a Certified AEDP Therapist. AEDP is most often used for individuals and is deeply relational, interactive, experiential, and somatic. AEDP is wonderful for trauma, attachment, and intensive inner child work. In addition to couples and individuals, Katharina works with adult families using the attachment-based approach of Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT). Specializing in relationships, attachment issues, anxiety, depression, OCD, trauma, and affair recovery, Katharina is also certified as an EFIT and EFFT Therapist and Supervisor. Katharina is the Founder and Clinical Director of Love Frontier Therapy Group, where she supervises Associate Marriage Family and Post-Doctoral Therapists using her Certification as a Deliberate Practice Supervisor (IDPS) to deepen the supervisory and learning experience. She is on the Advisory Council for The Sentio University Marriage Family Therapy Program, which is a Masters level Program for emerging Therapists grounded in the Deliberate Practice model of Supervision and training. https://lovefrontiertherapy.com https://www.ksandizell.com https://www.facebook.com/p/Love-Frontier-Therapy-61561171780910/ https://www.instagram.com/p/C8fVIkev5xL/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/love-frontier-therapy-group-75211582/ Connect with Michelle - https://compassionateheartparenting.com/ [https://compassionateheartparenting.com/] Free Guided Pause + Regroup: https://link.innovorise.com/widget/form/Pm5Uy0ezEwvqKxwlL8Ik [https://link.innovorise.com/widget/form/Pm5Uy0ezEwvqKxwlL8Ik] This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services. Join me each week for a tail from the trenches of parenting burnout and how I (and you) can use mindfulness, mediation and self-compassion to find your inner calm and a little more sanity in your parenting. You’ll get a story from my heart and a quick win you can use the same day. A free gift for you: the RAGE Break [https://exciting-trader-3018.ck.page/2242e21170], a free guided audio pause for when you are about to lose or have just lost it with your kids and you need a moment to regroup. Find the audio download in the links. I created the Rage Break because it is exactly what I needed when I was struggling with anger and yelling in parenting.  This story was brought to you by “Yelling to Connecting.”  If you or someone you know struggles with yelling at your kids, losing it, or being constantly on edge this course will be a helpful tool.  A reminder: This content is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for private psychotherapy services. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services in any capacity. I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and this is not therapy and should not be a substitute for mental health treatment. If you need mental health treatment please find a qualified professional in your area. __________________________________________ ...

Emotionally Focused Family Therapy: When Your Marriage Is Affecting Your Parenting — Dennis & Kim Eames

What if the thing standing between you and the parent you want to be is not a technique — but the unhealed places in your closest relationship? Dennis and Kim Eames are certified Emotionally Focused Couple, Family, and Individual Therapists and Supervisors at Infinity Family Therapy — and they bring something to this conversation that no clinical training alone could provide: they have lived it. Twenty years into their marriage, with their relationship highly strained. Their children were quietly learning to duck and cover. Kim privately believed it was too late to have a real relationship with her daughter. That family looks completely different today. And in this episode they share exactly what changed — and what Emotionally Focused Therapy made possible for their marriage, their children, and their own healing as parents. In this episode you'll learn: * How disconnection between partners ripples directly into the parent-child relationship — and what children absorb that parents often cannot see or name * Why the negative cycle between parent and child scrambles loving parental intent into a message that lands as "you don't like me" — and how EFFT helps families see that cycle together * What Emotionally Focused Family Therapy actually looks like in a family session — and why bringing the whole family in changes everything * The Hold Me Tight Let Me Go workshop for parents and teens — what to expect and why Dennis recommends doing the couple work first * Why curiosity is a superpower — and how starting with curiosity toward yourself changes the entire emotional climate in your home * What real repair sounds like — and why a superficial apology can actually make things worse * Why it is never too late — with teenagers, with adult children, and even with parents who are no longer living Topics: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy · EFFT · Emotionally Focused Therapy · EFT for couples and families · EFCT · Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy · Hold Me Tight workshop · Hold Me Tight Let Me Go · parent-child repair · negative cycle in families · couple conflict and parenting · parenting teens with attachment · gentle parenting · peaceful parenting · conscious parenting · family repair · attachment parenting · parent burnout · parenting and marriage · generational healing Guests: Dennis Eames and Kim Eames — Certified Emotionally Focused Couple, Family, and Individual Therapists and Supervisors  Infinityfamilytherapy.com [http://infinityfamilytherapy.com/].   infinityeftintensives.com [https://infinityeftintensives.com/?mc_cid=eb905ebafa&mc_eid=UNIQID] www.holdmetightseattle.com [http://www.holdmetightseattle.com/?mc_cid=eb905ebafa&mc_eid=UNIQID] https://www.facebook.com/InfinityFamilyTherapy [https://www.facebook.com/InfinityFamilyTherapy] https://www.instagram.com/infinity_family_therapy/ [https://www.instagram.com/infinity_family_therapy/] 🎓 Ready to go deeper?  🎓 Yelling to Connecting — 6 week online parenting course ✨ Free Guided Pause + Regroup [https://link.innovorise.com/widget/form/Pm5Uy0ezEwvqKxwlL8Ik]:  🌐 compassionateheartparenting.com  This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. Compassionate Heart Parenting does not provide psychotherapy services. Infinityfamilytherapy.com [http://infinityfamilytherapy.com/].   infinityeftintensives.com [https://infinityeftintensives.com/?mc_cid=eb905ebafa&mc_eid=UNIQID] www.holdmetightseattle.com [http://www.holdmetightseattle.com/?mc_cid=eb905ebafa&mc_eid=UNIQID] Join me each week for a tail from the trenches of parenting burnout and how I (and you) can use mindfulness, mediation and self-compassion to find your inner calm and a little more sanity in your parenting. You’ll get a story from my heart and a quick win you can use the same day. A free gift for you: the RAGE Break [https://exciting-trader-3018.ck.page/2242e21170], a free guided audio pause for when you are about to lose or have just lost it with your kids and you need a moment to regroup. Find the audio download in the links. I created the Rage Break because it is exactly what I needed when I was struggling with anger and yelling in parenting.  This story was brought to you by “Yelling to Connecting.”  If you or someone you know struggles with yelling at your kids, losing it, or being constantly on edge this course will be a helpful tool.  A reminder: This content is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for private psychotherapy services. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services in any capacity. I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and this is not therapy and should not be a substitute for mental health treatment. If you need mental health treatment please find a qualified professional in your area. __________________________________________ ...

How to Repair with Your Kiddo (Emotionally Focused Family Therapy Tools) — with Stephanie Chimient

Do you love your child with everything you have — and still lie awake wondering if you're the reason they're struggling? That guilt is one of the heaviest things a parent can carry. And in this episode, Stephanie Chimienti is going to help you put some of it down. Stephanie is a Registered Psychotherapist trained in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy, play therapy, and parts work — a rare and powerful combination that allows her to work with families at multiple levels simultaneously: the cycles between parent and child, the internal parts the parent carries from their own history, and the healing that happens through play and connection. In this warm, honest conversation, Stephanie and Michelle explore what actually breaks down in the space between a parent and child, what keeps families stuck in the same painful loops, and what repair genuinely looks like — not the big dramatic conversation most parents imagine, but something more ordinary and more profound. In this episode you'll learn: * What Emotionally Focused Family Therapy reveals about the attachment signal underneath your child's most challenging behavior — and how that reframe changes everything * How the parts of you shaped by your own childhood history show up in your hardest parenting moments — and what to do when you recognize that's happening * Why play is one of the most underestimated tools parents have for rebuilding genuine connection at home * What the negative family cycle looks like from the inside — and the first thing that has to shift to interrupt it * What repair actually looks like in EFFT — and why it is always possible, even after years of disconnection * What Stephanie would say to the parent who is lying awake tonight convinced they are messing up their child Topics: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy · EFFT · EFT for families · parent guilt · parenting shame · parts work and parenting · IFS parenting · play therapy at home · child attachment · parent-child reconnection · family cycles · parenting triggers · emotional regulation for parents · repair after yelling · gentle parenting · peaceful parenting · conscious parenting · attachment parenting · parenting burnout · connection over correction Guest: Stephanie Chimienti, RP, MA — Registered Psychotherapist, Counselling & Co. Trained in Emotionally Focused Family Therapy, play therapy, and parts work 🎓 Ready to go deeper? Yelling to Connecting — Michelle's 7-week online parenting course helps you find and uproot the real blocks keeping you stuck so you can respond to your kids with more calm, connection, and less shame. ✨ Free Guided Pause + Regroup: [your link] 🌐 compassionateheartmindfullife.com This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services. Where to reach Stephanie  https://www.counsellingandco.com/stephanie-chimienti [https://www.counsellingandco.com/stephanie-chimienti] https://www.instagram.com/stephanie.psychotherapy/ [https://www.instagram.com/stephanie.psychotherapy/] https://www.instagram.com/counselling_and_co/ [https://www.instagram.com/counselling_and_co/] Join me each week for a tail from the trenches of parenting burnout and how I (and you) can use mindfulness, mediation and self-compassion to find your inner calm and a little more sanity in your parenting. You’ll get a story from my heart and a quick win you can use the same day. A free gift for you: the RAGE Break [https://exciting-trader-3018.ck.page/2242e21170], a free guided audio pause for when you are about to lose or have just lost it with your kids and you need a moment to regroup. Find the audio download in the links. I created the Rage Break because it is exactly what I needed when I was struggling with anger and yelling in parenting.  This story was brought to you by “Yelling to Connecting.”  If you or someone you know struggles with yelling at your kids, losing it, or being constantly on edge this course will be a helpful tool.  A reminder: This content is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for private psychotherapy services. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services in any capacity. I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and this is not therapy and should not be a substitute for mental health treatment. If you need mental health treatment please find a qualified professional in your area. __________________________________________ ...

What It Really Takes to Go From Reactive to Regulated — Guest Sarah Rosensweet

You believe in peaceful parenting.  You’ve done the reading. You know that connection comes before correction, that empathy matters, that your child’s behavior is a signal—not a problem. And then the moment comes…  and none of it is accessible to you. If that gap between knowing and doing feels like the story of your parenting life, this episode is going to land somewhere important. Michelle sits down with Sarah Rosensweet—certified peaceful parenting coach, founder of Reimagine Peaceful Parenting, host of the top-rated Peaceful Parenting Podcast, and a mom of three whose children have genuinely grown up with this philosophy—to get honest about what peaceful parenting actually requires. Not the theory.  The real, inside work that makes the theory possible to use when it counts. Sarah has spent over a decade coaching thousands of parents through this exact gap. She brings both deep practical wisdom and the long view that only comes from having parented all the way through. In this episode, you’ll learn: *  Why peaceful parenting is an inside job—and how that reframes the search for the “right” technique  *  What’s really happening neurologically and emotionally when you can’t access your calm in the moment  *  What needs to shift internally for regulation to become lasting—not just available on good days  *  The fear underneath a non-punitive approach—and how to hold empathy and limits at the same time  *  What Sarah knows now after raising three children that she couldn’t have known in the early years  *  What she would say to the parent who feels miles away from who they want to be  Topics: peaceful parenting · gentle parenting · conscious parenting · parenting triggers · emotional regulation for parents · reactive parenting · mom rage · parenting shame · connection over control · non-punitive parenting · parenting burnout · yelling and parenting · attachment parenting · inside-out parenting · Hand in Hand Parenting · Janet Lansbury · Dr. Laura Markham Guest: Sarah Rosensweet Certified peaceful parenting coach Founder, Reimagine Peaceful Parenting 🎙️ The Peaceful Parenting Podcast 🌐 reimaginepeacefulparenting.com 📱 Instagram: @sarahrosensweet 📝 Substack: sarahrosensweet.substack.com 🎓 Ready to go deeper? Yelling to Connecting — Michelle’s 6-week online parenting course for parents who understand the work but need support applying it in real life. ✨ Free Guided Pause + Regroup: [your link]  🌐 compassionateheartmindfullife.com This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services. Join me each week for a tail from the trenches of parenting burnout and how I (and you) can use mindfulness, mediation and self-compassion to find your inner calm and a little more sanity in your parenting. You’ll get a story from my heart and a quick win you can use the same day. A free gift for you: the RAGE Break [https://exciting-trader-3018.ck.page/2242e21170], a free guided audio pause for when you are about to lose or have just lost it with your kids and you need a moment to regroup. Find the audio download in the links. I created the Rage Break because it is exactly what I needed when I was struggling with anger and yelling in parenting.  This story was brought to you by “Yelling to Connecting.”  If you or someone you know struggles with yelling at your kids, losing it, or being constantly on edge this course will be a helpful tool.  A reminder: This content is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for private psychotherapy services. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services in any capacity. I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and this is not therapy and should not be a substitute for mental health treatment. If you need mental health treatment please find a qualified professional in your area. __________________________________________ ...

Emotionally Focused Family Therapy: What Your Child Is Really Asking for When They Fall Apart — Kathryn de Bruin & Ronda Evans

When your child is at their most dysregulated — melting down, shutting down, pushing you away — the moment they need you most is also the moment it's hardest to be present. Why does that happen? And what does it actually take to become the safe place your child is reaching for? In this episode Michelle sits down with two of the most experienced Emotionally Focused Family Therapy clinicians working with families today. Kathryn de Bruin is an ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, registered Play Therapy Supervisor, and co-host of The Family Therapy Express Podcast. Ronda Evans is an EFT Supervisor, co-host of The Family Therapy Express Podcast, and published children's book author whose books — A Jumble of Thoughts and A Tangle of Feelings and The Big Scary Moment — help families navigate big emotions together in everyday moments. Together, Kathryn and Ronda bring the full depth of Emotionally Focused Family Therapy to a conversation about what children are really communicating when their behavior is at its most challenging — and what parents need to understand about their own internal world to be able to respond with steadiness and connection rather than reactivity. In this episode you'll learn: * The core EFFT reframe: why your child's meltdown, power struggle, or withdrawal is an attachment signal — a reaching for you — even when it looks like the opposite * How the way you were raised shows up in your responses to your child's big feelings — and what shifts when you recognize that pattern * Why play is not just a fun activity but a genuine clinical tool for healing and strengthening the parent-child bond * What Ronda's children's books offer families in the ordinary moments of everyday life — and what happens between parent and child when they read them together * What a genuinely resilient and connected family looks like — and the signs you're moving toward it even when it doesn't feel that way * What Kathryn and Ronda would say to the parent who keeps missing the moments that matter and can't seem to get there when it counts Topics: Emotionally Focused Family Therapy · EFFT · Emotionally Focused Therapy for families · child attachment · attachment parenting · parent-child connection · child meltdowns · big emotions in children · emotional regulation for parents · play therapy · children's books about emotions · parenting triggers · gentle parenting · peaceful parenting · conscious parenting · family resilience · parent burnout · connection over control · parenting shame Guests:  Kathryn de Bruin, LMFT — ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer & Play Therapy Supervisor 🌐 kathryndebruin.com Ronda Evans, LMFT — EFT Supervisor & Children's Book Author 📚 A Jumble of Thoughts and A Tangle of Feelings· The Big Scary Moment 🌐 re2therapy.com 🎙️ The Family Therapy Express Podcast — find it wherever you listen 🎓 Ready to go deeper? Yelling to Connecting — Michelle's 7-week online parenting course helps you find and uproot the real blocks keeping you stuck so you can respond to your kids with more calm, more connection, and less shame. ✨ Free Guided Pause + Regroup: [your link] 🌐 compassionateheartmindfullife.com This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services. Join me each week for a tail from the trenches of parenting burnout and how I (and you) can use mindfulness, mediation and self-compassion to find your inner calm and a little more sanity in your parenting. You’ll get a story from my heart and a quick win you can use the same day. A free gift for you: the RAGE Break [https://exciting-trader-3018.ck.page/2242e21170], a free guided audio pause for when you are about to lose or have just lost it with your kids and you need a moment to regroup. Find the audio download in the links. I created the Rage Break because it is exactly what I needed when I was struggling with anger and yelling in parenting.  This story was brought to you by “Yelling to Connecting.”  If you or someone you know struggles with yelling at your kids, losing it, or being constantly on edge this course will be a helpful tool.  A reminder: This content is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a replacement for private psychotherapy services. Compassionate Heart Mindful Life does not provide psychotherapy services in any capacity. I am a therapist but I am not your therapist and this is not therapy and should not be a substitute for mental health treatment. If you need mental health treatment please find a qualified professional in your area. __________________________________________ ...