There's 2 Sides to Every Coin | Unfair Projections In Fatherhood | Ep 190 | The Dear Son, Show

There's 2 Sides to Every Coin | Unfair Projections In Fatherhood | Ep 190 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Two Sides to the Coin: Parenting, Perspective, and Better Preparation | Dear Son Show In this episode of The Dear Son Show, hosts Jey Blac and D. Johns discuss the importance of perspective and “the other side of the coin,” using the idea of cassette tape B-sides to illustrate value beyond what’s most visible. They share real-life parenting and responsibility lessons, including a story about poor planning while moving a son out of his college dorm and frustrations with household cleanliness and accountability. The conversation expands to how parental coddling can create dependency, how to correct behavior without damaging relationships, and how to connect important responsibilities to personal desires. They also reflect on friendships across life phases, the impact of first impressions and presentation, and the lasting effect of adults who genuinely engage young people—especially those seen as “troublemakers.” 00:00 Real Listening Matters 00:45 Show Intro and Catching Up 03:02 Two Sides of a Coin 04:12 B Sides Explained 06:23 College Move Out Chaos 16:22 Moral Lack of Planning 17:04 Anchored to Bad Habits 18:46 Household Mess and Discipline 24:46 Coddling Creates Dependence 27:57 Embarrassment and Accountability 30:39 Rational Disapproval 32:37 Desire Drives Consistency 33:30 Phases and Day Twos 37:54 Time and Bonding 41:08 No Enemies Energy 43:22 Parenting Open Mind 48:24 Teaching Respectful Presence 53:20 First Impressions Matter 56:42 Support the Brand 59:39 Closing Reflections #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk  Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac   Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel,  2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video,  4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com  Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show   Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com   My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially:  https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast   https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast   The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma  2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Fatherhood, Ministry, and Staying Humble in the Spotlight | Ep 189 | The Dear Son, Show

Quentin Harris on Fatherhood, Ministry, and Staying Humble in the Spotlight | Dear Son Show On the Dear Son Show, host D Johns welcomes back QuIntin Harris, the young adult director at Concord Church, to discuss busy family life with a daughter in competitive dance and theater and a toddler son, and the ongoing need to “slow down” and stay present. They explore the tension of serving in ministry while prioritizing family, eliminating distractions, and being honest about motives as public recognition grows. Quentin shares how early ambition to grow the ministry through networking was misread as clout-chasing, prompting him to step back and let God lead, and he emphasizes keeping grounded friends for counsel amid shifting perceptions. The conversation also covers faith being marketed, balancing struggle and prosperity, how fatherhood reshaped his understanding of God’s unconditional love and grace, navigating church culture and titles, and ending with an encouragement that it’s never too late to come home to God. 00:00 Lives Changed Calling 00:49 Show Intro Welcome Back 01:32 Dad Life Busy Season 03:27 Church Role Credentials 05:07 Slow Down Parenting 08:00 Balancing Kids Schedules 10:25 Ministry Family Priority 13:44 Ambition Versus Leading 20:03 Grounded By Real Friends 21:42 Stewarding Recognition 24:04 Donkey Story Perception 25:18 Need Sound Counsel 26:10 Faith Beyond Appearances 26:32 Marketing Christianity Today 28:38 Balance Struggle and Blessing 30:15 Ministry and Fatherhood 32:29 Unconditional Love Lens 35:30 Grace Paid in Advance 37:09 Black Sheep in Church 42:07 Impact Over Titles 44:55 Witness in Real Life 47:41 How God Sees Me 52:29 Coming Home and Shift 54:42 Podcast Accountability 56:35 Hard Truth Accountability 58:46 Final Wrap and Blessing #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow Quinton: https://instagram.com/q.rius.mind Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Why Sons Stop Talking to Their Fathers | We Asked AI | Ep 188 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Why Sons Stop Talking to Their Fathers | The Dear Son, Show The hosts use ChatGPT to suggest discussion topics for the Dear Son, Show and choose “Why sons stop talking to their fathers,” reflecting on how fathers’ seriousness, constant accountability, and communication style can make kids seek the “path of least resistance” with mom instead. They discuss male ego and pride when a child brings issues to the mother first, the importance of asking why a son doesn’t feel comfortable approaching dad, and how parents can present a unified front without using mom as a buffer. They emphasize balancing love and grace with timely, appropriate lessons, especially as older teens and young adults can walk away. They encourage dads to initiate regular, even trivial conversations so their voice isn’t only heard when something is wrong. 00:00 Asking AI For Topics 01:39 Choosing The Episode Theme 02:43 Welcome To Dear Son 04:10 AI Recap And Reframe 05:18 Family Updates And Summer Break 10:16 DFW Home Base And Merch 11:46 Unhinged Episode Deadline 13:41 Why Sons Go Quiet 17:23 Mom Vs Dad The Yes Path 23:53 Ego And Handling Silence 26:47 Unified Parenting Front 28:00 Accountability Builds Roots 30:00 Correcting With Love 32:48 Ego And Comfort Responses 36:42 Choosing The Right Tone 42:50 Uncle James Work Ethic 46:26 Discipline Over Comfort 51:25 Normalize Casual Connection 53:52 Steamed Syrup Debate 56:14 Final Charge On Silence #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #fatherhoodidentity #mantalk #fathersondiscussions Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac   Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel,  2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video,  4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com  Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show   Love Kisha J Studios: https://houseoflkj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially:  https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast   https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast   The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma  2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Dear Son, Allow Life to Get Better | Ep 187 | The Dear Son, Show

Dear Son: Life Gets Better—Let It Hosts D Johns and Jey Blac open by reflecting on recent positive changes in their families, including the end of the semester, kids coming home for summer, Imani’s medical-school track, and graduation season. They introduce the episode’s theme—“Life gets better. Let it.”—urging listeners to stop clinging to familiar struggle when solutions and blessings appear, and to honor progress instead of roadblocking it with fear, over-caution, or old conditioning. Using analogies like traffic opening up, repeated “dud” opportunities (including solar sales), and relationships, they discuss skepticism, self-sabotage, ego, and identity as the “go-to” person. They emphasize humility, listening, seeking input, admitting “I don’t know,” and defining “better” carefully by valuing what lasts and asking “at what cost?” 00:00 Let It Get Better 01:13 Welcome Dear Son Show 01:33 Family Updates Graduation Season 03:37 Sponsor Candle Shoutout 04:18 Topic Life Gets Better 07:10 Conditioned To Struggle 10:42 Duds Burnout And Love 14:29 Closed Doors Open One 17:43 Finding The Door 20:11 Ask Then Listen 21:39 Pressure To Know How 22:29 Training With Wall Street Wallace 24:22 Thinking Out Loud Vs Precision 26:40 Ego And Yielding To Experts 30:24 Fear Of Getting Better 31:50 Identity Of Being The Go To 34:06 Vulnerable Questions Unlock Growth 39:28 Defining Better And Value 41:39 Masking Pain With Temporary Highs 43:18 Street Love Is Not Better 44:11 Closing Charge At What Cost #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel, 2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video, 4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors: Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show Love Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishaj.com My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially: https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma 2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Dear Son, There's Only Now | Ep 186 | The Dear Son, Show

Every father should have honest conversations with his son. In this episode of The Dear Son, Show, we explore the lessons fathers must teach their sons before adulthood. Dear Son: The Time Is Now (Parents & Young Men, Don’t Wait) Hosts Jey Blac and D Johns use a birthday call with a 20-year-old son—turning into a repeated condom and responsibility talk—to stress that if parents are asking “when is the time,” it’s already time. They discuss how rapid shifts in technology, especially AI, make “in my day” advice ineffective unless parents first understand their kids’ perspective, stay relatable, and anchor them to enduring principles and morality. The conversation warns against procrastination, overreliance on convenience, and letting social media “crowds” define truth or personal value, emphasizing that being overlooked doesn’t reduce worth. They challenge parents to act now, communicate without judgment, hold standards at home, and consider “at what cost” when chasing speed, money, or new tools. 00:00 Birthday Talk and Condoms 01:20 Welcome to Dear Son Show 02:29 Setting the Theme Time Is Now 05:00 How to Talk Urgency 11:19 Parents Behind the Curve 15:09 Release Them to Thrive 18:45 Be an Anchor to Principles 25:21 At What Cost of AI 26:37 Crowds Likes and Value 31:45 Stay Your Course Timeless 35:37 Falling Behind Fast 36:44 AI Dependency Spiral 37:50 From Enhancements to Necessities 40:24 Who Holds the Plug 41:09 Only Now Matters 42:44 Procrastination Costs 46:48 Time Allocation Skills 48:40 Parenting Accountability 56:10 Family Familiarity Trap 01:00:24 Hard Talks With Sons 01:06:40 At What Cost 01:07:19 Final Thanks and Signoff #fathersonrelationship #adviceformen #modernfatherhood #adultchildren #lifelessonsformen #raisingmen #raisingkids #mantalk  Channel Focus Areas: “What Fathers Should Teach Their Sons” “How to Be a Better Father” “Father Son Relationship Advice” “Mistakes Fathers Make” “Lessons Every Man Should Learn” Follow James: https://instagram.com/jeyblac   Also, if you've made it this far, don't forget to: 1. subscribe to the channel,  2. turn on the notifications, 3. like this video,  4. leave a comment, and 5. share this content with someone who needs it. The DSP: https://thedearsonpodcast.com  Support the podcast by supporting our sponsors:  Shop DSN Merch: https://dear-son-merch.creator-spring.com/listing/the-dear-son-show   Love Kisha J Studios: https://lovekishaj.com   My ebook: https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/20lifepromptsv1 My book (physical): https://thedearsonpodcast.com/dsp-merch-%26-digital/ols/products/dear-son-what-i-wish-my-father-told-me-physical-copy Let’s connect socially:  https://instagram.com/thedearsonpodcast   https://facebook.com/thedearsonpodcast   The Three Foundational Pillars of the DSP Community 1. Reveal trauma  2. Heal from trauma 3. Help through telling stories of it all “Better Man. Better Father.” The Dear Son, Network ® Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]