Ep.30: When you've lost yourself in a relationship

Ep.30: When you've lost yourself in a relationship

I thought I was just being the best partner I could be...but since when did being a good partner require to feel empty the moment my boyfriend walked out the door? I'd completely lost myself in my relationship, and even though everything looked great from the outside -- on the inside I was completely reliant on him for my identity. If you are feeling this way, you are not alone. There's nothing wrong with you. You've just been doing things one way for too long, and in this episode I share what you can do to start getting yourself back. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/lQFOu_jYnDY Tracy's website: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

Ep.29: Selfishness VS Self-love

If you've felt conflicted about whether or not you're being selfish by finally putting yourself first in your life, this episode is for you. I include the best definition I've heard yet about selfishness VS self-love, and clean up any confusion that is making you feel guilty...so you can start doing more self-love in your life. Mentioned in episode: https://herediatherapy.com/selfishness-vs-self-love/ Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/XlKvDMFgqbw Tracy's website: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

Ep.28: Why it can feel scary to love yourself

We usually know exactly what kind of person we do NOT want to be. We live in fear of being a mean, selfish, unloving person... so we avoid doing anything that might make us come off that way. But this fear is often the very thing that is stopping us from learning how to love ourselves. I talk about how my clients and I have dealt with this fear, and I'll show you how to not let it stop you. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/iXxPSj9IXdw Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

Ep.27: Your responsibility as a significant other

As partner-pleasers, we often assume that our responsibility as a significant other is to keep our partners happy as we possibly can. When this becomes our main unspoken goal, we struggle to love ourselves, to find our own identities -- because we are so afraid of "neglecting" our partners by not catering as much as before. But. What if we've had it backwards? What if, in order to be a good partner, we are supposed to take responsibility for ourselves -- and give our partners responsibility for themselves? Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/F67nMPhzIPY Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

Ep.26: Partner-pleasing & perfectionism

I'm messy, disorganized, creative, chaotic! So I denied having any kind of perfectionist tendencies -- EVER... until I realized how much I was secretly expecting myself to be "perfect" in my relationship. I'd always thought this was a good thing for my relationship. But it was actually creating more problems. This is why it's so important to recognize when we're going to unreasonable extremes... and what we can do to bring ourselves back to a healthy, happy place. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/CeN5OSVL8W0 Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/