Ep 41. WYW: "Since the Betrayal, I've Lost Myself. How Do I Get Me Back?"

BONUS: Healing After Betrayal: A Conversation on the Body, Safety, and Trust with Jan Winhall

This bonus episode is a powerful conversation between Jan Winhall and Carrie Holladay on the Embodied Dialogues Podcast. Together they explore betrayal trauma through a Felt Sense Polyvagal lens. Together, they discuss how betrayal impacts the nervous system, disrupts a person's sense of safety, and often leads to protective responses like hypervigilance, shutdown, and disconnection. Rather than focusing solely on understanding the story of what happened, they explain why healing requires restoring a felt sense of safety in the body. The conversation offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing approach to rebuilding trust, highlighting the roles of neuroception, co-regulation, embodied awareness, and ventral vagal connection in creating lasting healing after betrayal. Connect with Jan: https://www.fspminstitute.com/ [https://www.fspminstitute.com/] Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Ep 46. Somatic Safety Session: Soothing the Spike After a Trigger

Ever felt a sudden rush of panic that takes over your body? You're not alone. Let's talk about what to do next. Triggers can hit us out of nowhere, sending our bodies into a frenzy. Your heart races, muscles tense, and suddenly, you’re not in the present anymore. But it's important to remember: this reaction doesn't mean you're broken. It’s just your body trying to protect you from past trauma. Today, we’ll explore gentle practices to help your nervous system find calm again. It’s all about allowing yourself to feel and respond with compassion   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar] 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Ep 45. WYW: How Do I Make the Anxiety Stop?

Betrayal trauma reshapes your nervous system — and anxiety is often the loudest signal of that change. In this What You're Wondering episode, Carrie and David respond to a listener struggling with constant anxiety after discovering her husband's porn addiction. Carrie explains why anxiety after betrayal isn't a flaw but a survival response, and introduces a powerful reframe: instead of asking how do I make it stop, ask what is my anxiety trying to protect? David speaks honestly about how he mishandled Carrie's anxiety early on — and what actually helped. Practical somatic tools, a section for betrayers on what their partner's anxiety actually needs, and a candid look at what non-linear healing really looks like. Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay

Ep 44. The Secret Sexual Basement: Understanding Betrayal, Lies & Integrity Abuse with Janae Lindsey

This week on the Resiliently Rising Podcast, Carrie sits down with therapist and betrayal trauma specialist Jenae Lindsey for a powerful conversation about the hidden damage of deception, secrecy, and integrity abuse in relationships after betrayal. Together, they unpack the concept of the “secret sexual basement,” why the lies and manipulation often hurt more than the behavior itself, and how betrayal impacts the nervous system, self-trust, and reality itself. This episode offers validation, education, and hope for anyone navigating betrayal trauma... whether you’re struggling with hypervigilance, questioning your intuition, trying to rebuild trust, or simply wondering if healing is even possible. Carrie and Jenae explore topics like compartmentalization, betrayal blindness, attachment, self-trust, emotional safety, and why healing requires addressing both the compulsive behaviors and the integrity wounds underneath them. Connect with Janae: 📲 Instagram: @couchtalkers [https://www.instagram.com/couchtalkers/] https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/ [https://www.desertbloomrecovery.org/]   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar] 👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!

Ep 43. Disclosure vs. Discovery: Why the Way Truth Comes Out Matters

In this episode, Carrie and David explore the powerful difference between disclosure and discovery in betrayal trauma recovery. They unpack why trickle truth, partial disclosures, and ongoing deception can be just as damaging... and sometimes more damaging... than the original betrayal itself.  They discuss how secrecy impacts trust, why the body often knows something is wrong before the mind can explain it, and what happens when a relationship is built on incomplete information. Whether you're the betrayed partner questioning if you have the whole truth or the person who caused harm and is struggling with fear, shame, and honesty, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and hope for what real healing requires.   Connect with Carrie: 📲 Instagram: @healwithcarriejean [https://www.instagram.com/healwithcarriejean/] 🌿Resiliently Rising Circle: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/circle] ✨ Coaching: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/1-1-coaching] 💛 Rebuilding Us: Nervous System Based Path to Healing Together After Betrayal - https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/rebuildingus] 🌀 Reclaiming Safety: Healing Nervous System After Betrayal Course – https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/reclaimingsafety] 🙋‍♀️ ‘What You’re Wondering’ Q&A Submissions: https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8 [https://forms.gle/MmwTxso6rJH4uuPN8] 🔅 I was just betrayed... what now? Webinar: https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar [https://www.resilientlyrising.com/what-next-webinar]   👉 Stay Connected & Keep Rising!  🎧 Music Credits: “Piano Soft Music” - Surpringing_SnapShots, Music by Mircea lancu from Pixabay