The Narcissism Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Nikki Glaser: Sex, Death and Trauma

Trigger Warning for our listeners - please be advised, this episode talks about suicide and eating disorders. Amanda welcomes comedian, writer, producer, and host Nikki Glaser this week on The Conversation. Nikki shares her experiences in Hollywood, trauma, relationships, and insight on her new HBO special, Nikki Glaser: Someday You’ll Die [https://www.hbo.com/movies/nikki-glaser-someday-youll-die].  Amanda and Nikki speak with humor, compassion, and brutal honesty. Nikki opens up about her struggles with eating disorders, addiction, and the road to recovery.   Nikki Glaser is a stand-up comedian, producer, actress, and television host. Just a week before releasing her HBO special, she received a standing ovation for her roast of Tom Brady on Netflix’s The Greatest of All Time: Tom Brady [https://www.netflixisajokefest.com/shows/g-r-o-a-t-the-greatest-roast-of-all-time-tom-brady]. She is known for her slice of life perspective on intimate topics, balancing humor with themes including sex, trauma, dating, and mental health.   IN THIS EPISODE:  * [1:57] Amanda and Nikki catch up on Nikki’s schedule and how she was one of the comedians on Netflix’s The Greatest of All Time: Tom Brady [https://www.netflixisajokefest.com/shows/g-r-o-a-t-the-greatest-roast-of-all-time-tom-brady]. * [2:09] The story behind naming her special and composing the theme music.  * [4:50] Amanda talks about the series on death she’s working on, and Nikki discusses her thoughts on life after death and self-esteem. * [10:03] Shame, anorexia, substance abuse, and the pursuit of healing.  * [13:40] Nikki shares her aspirations for a healthier lifestyle, IFS and EMDR. [15:30] Feelings around the challenges of fame. * [17:24] Nikki talks about being a late bloomer, sex, and her boyfriend. * [19:14] Experiences with intimacy and vulnerability.  * [29:33] Decisions regarding motherhood and the evolving dynamics of friendships. * [33:11] Nikki and Amanda share how they grew up in a home with an alcoholic parent and talk about being uncomfortable with attention   KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Nikki has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for 10 years and is open about her late-bloomer experiences with sex. Amanda and Nikki talk about honest communication in sex and relationships helping individuals navigate their own experiences. * The decision to have children is a personal one, and it's okay to not want  to become a parent.   RESOURCES: Nikki Glaser: "Someday You’ll Die" HBO Trailer [https://www.hbo.com/movies/nikki-glaser-someday-youll-die]Nikki Glaser - Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/nikkiglaser/?hl=en]Nikki Glaser - Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/OfficialNikkiGlaser]Nikki Glaser - Website [https://www.nikkiglaser.com/]The Nikki Glaser Podcast on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/c/TheNikkiGlaserPodcast]    About This Podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com [http://amandadecadenet.com/] to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/].  Follow Amanda on Substack at amandadecadenet.substack.com [http://amandadecadenet.substack.com]   BIOGRAPHY:   For nearly two decades at clubs across the country, and as the host of three hit podcasts, Nikki Glaser has honed her shockingly honest, no-holds barred style of comedy, solidifying herself as one of the funniest voices in comedy today.  Glaser is currently on the road with her global THE GOOD GIRL stand-up tour, which kicked off in January 2023 and will continue through September 2024.   This Spring, Glaser premiered her highly anticipated second HBO comedy special. In July 2022, she headlined her first HBO comedy special, GOOD CLEAN FILTH, which was nominated for a Critics Choice Award for Best Comedy Special.  In March 2021, Glaser launched THE NIKKI GLASER PODCAST for iHeartMedia and Will Ferrell’s Big Money Players Network, where she provides a fun and brutally honest look into pop-culture and her own personal life in weekly episodes.  Nikki has multiple stand-up specials and late-night tv appearances in which she jokes about her most humiliating moments as a woman in the modern world. Nikki’s past and current struggles with anorexia, depression, and anxiety are fair game in both her stand-up, and in-depth interviews with THE HOWARD STERN SHOW, WTF with MARC MARON, CONAN O ́BRIEN NEEDS A FRIEND and THE JOE ROGAN EXPERIENCE. She has become a complete open book on mic for the laughs and as the empowering voice for women that she yearned for as a confused adolescent.  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Great Life Lessons - Parenting, Career and Relationships with Billie Piper

Amanda reunites with her friend, actress, writer, producer, and singer Billie Piper. They reminisce about their shared experiences and beginnings in the UK - where they both started their professional careers as teenagers. Their conversation includes Billie’s latest project, the Netflix movie Scoop, inspired by the infamous interview of Prince Andrew. Amanda and Billie discuss the complicated journey of parenthood, sharing insights on the challenges of raising children in today's world. From contrasting parenting styles to the delicate balance of co-parenting , Amanda and Billie reflect on the universal struggle to not "screw up" their kids.    IN THIS EPISODE:  * [1:57] Amanda and Billie catch up after 20 years. They reflect on their public-facing careers and how life has changed for them.   * [13:09] Discussion of Billie’s accomplishments and discussion of I Hate Suzie * [18:24] Discussion of Billie’s new move, Scoop * [24:00] Billie discusses her family, and Amanda and Billie discuss the various ways of parenting * [31:46] Co-parenting and not having your same values and gauging what is age-appropriate for your child * [39:31] Raising boys versus girls * [45:41] Billie talks about her future    KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Career paths, autonomy, and personal narratives * Making creative choices and being guided by your own interests * Parenting and life reflections  * Telling your own stories    RESOURCES: Billie Piper - Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/billiepiper/] Billie Piper - Website [http://www.billiepiperofficial.com/] Official Teaser - SCOOP - Netflix [http://youtu.be/5cXzYpO8GxE?si=HLOKAAKv4cy5aYpC]   BIOGRAPHY:  Billie Piper is an Olivier Award-winning actress, singer, writer, and producer. She is known globally for her work on Doctor Who, Secret Diary of a Call Girl, I Hate Suzie, and countless other projects.  Scoop: Inspired by real events, Scoop is the inside account of the tenacious journalists that landed an earth-shattering interview - Prince Andrew's infamous BBC Newsnight appearance. From the tension of producer Sam McAlister’s (played by Billie Piper) high-stakes negotiations with Buckingham Palace all the way to Emily Maitlis’ (played by Gillian Anderson) jaw-dropping, forensic showdown with the Prince, Scoop takes us inside the story, with the women who would stop at nothing to get it. Scoop is now available on Netflix.    About this podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com [http://amandadecadenet.com] to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/], and on Substack at substack.com/@amandadecadenet See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Narcissism Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist based in Los Angeles, is renowned for her expertise in narcissism and its effects on relationships. Amanda and Dr. Durvasula discuss the complexities of narcissism, shedding light on its defining characteristics and the impact it has on individuals and their relationships. She explains that narcissism is more than just self-centeredness; it's a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a lack of empathy, and a constant need for admiration. For those entangled in relationships with narcissists, Dr. Durvasula emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist. She emphasizes that it's crucial to prioritize one's well-being and to recognize when a relationship becomes toxic or abusive. Through her insights and guidance, Dr. Durvasula empowers individuals to identify narcissistic behaviors and take steps toward healing and reclaiming their lives. Don’t miss her book, It's Not You - Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People [http://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/].   IN THIS EPISODE:  * [00:38] Discussion about the overuse of the word narcissism by untrained observers, how the narcissist snares people, and how Dr. Durvasula began working with narcissistic people * [04:48] Dr. Durvasula explains what narcissism is and what it isn’t * [13:17] Can a narcissist be healed through therapy, and why does that person use recovery as a weapon * [21:32] The term parental alienation and how a narcissist manipulates their children. * [23:04] How do children cope when being raised by a narcissist, and what to do you do if you are in a narcissistic relationship * [48:00] What creates adult narcissism? Temperament and resilience   KEY TAKEAWAYS: * A narcissistic individual may initially seem appealing as a partner. However, their true nature emerges once you're in a relationship. You'll constantly feel inadequate and blamed for everything. The narcissist will never take responsibility or offer apologies. * The children of a narcissist are children of child abuse—the result of the abuse lasts for years into their adulthood. Unfortunately, mental abuse is never thought of as bad as other forms of abuse. * There is help for the victims of a narcissistic abuser. Recognize your situation, accept it and then get healing through therapy. It’s not your fault.   RESOURCES: It's Not You - Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People - Book [http://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/710202/its-not-you-by-ramani-durvasula-phd/] Dr. Ramani Durvasula - Instagram [http://www.instagram.com/doctorramani] Dr. Durvasula - Website [https://doctor-ramani.com/]   BIOGRAPHY: Dr. Ramani Durvasula is a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is the author of several books, including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Her work has been featured at SXSW, TEDx, Red Table Talk, the Today Show, and Investigation Discovery. You can also find her on YouTube, where she has accumulated millions of views on her videos discussing narcissism on her successful channel and social media @DoctorRamani. Now, she will be adding the role of host to her resume as she launches her new podcast, Navigating Narcissism with Dr. Durvasula, a show that focuses on narcissism and its impact on relationships.   About this podcast: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host, Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com [http://amandadecadenet.com] to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/]. Please don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for more episodes, and if you feel moved by our discussion, please share it with someone who might need to hear it too.  See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Lady Gaga

For the first time we are making the Conversation original TV series interviews available on the pod. This is part of a miniseries featuring the first guests to appear on the show. In this mini-episode, we feature Lady Gaga.  Lady Gaga always knew she wanted a larger than life music career and has done everything possible to pursue that dream and goal. In my chat with Lady Gaga she reflects on a dark period in her life, and refocusing her attention on her music, career, and finding happiness. She shares that she wants young women to know, “It’s important to remember that you have to be the sole source of your happiness. It is up to you, no one else.”   IN THIS EPISODE:  * [00:32] Lady Gaga reflects on her teenage years and the growing up she needed to do * [02:30] How did Lady Gaga’s parents influence her views of marriage, and how did she deal with loneliness early in her career  * [04:30] Lady Gaga discusses a dark period in her life * [06:05] How she overcame and started focusing on music and happiness * [08:30] Lady Gaga’s advice to women * [09:13] Lady Gaga responds to Amanda’s rapid-fire questions    KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Artists should dedicate their time, effort and energy to what they want to become in life. * There is a myth that cocaine makes you better at what you do. Often, it just makes you sick. * Don’t rely on a man to make you happy. That is your responsibility, and it’s unfair to him.   RESOURCES: Amanda de Cadenet - Website [https://www.amandadecadenet.com/] Amanda de Cadenet - Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/] Lady Gaga - Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/ladygaga/] Lady Gaga - LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lady-gaga-029399133/]   ABOUT THIS PODCAST: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com [https://www.amandadecadenet.com/]to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/]. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Alicia Keys

For the first time we are making the Conversation original TV series interviews available on the pod. This is part of a miniseries featuring the first guests to appear on the show. In this mini episode we feature Alicia Keys.  We begin our conversation discussing how women perceive their body size and age. Alicia has a beautiful outlook on how a woman’s body perception can change with insight and a historical view. We also discussed the birth of her son, Egypt, and Alicia explains everything she learned about breastfeeding.    IN THIS EPISODE:  * [00:32] Alicia and Amanda talk about how women perceive their body size and age * [02:52] Alica discusses her body changing after she had her son * [03:22] Alica’s response to breastfeeding and what she wasn’t told * [05:52] How Alica came to choose her child's name * [07:26] Alica reflects on her trip to Egypt * [07:52] Alicia answers Amanda's rapid-fire questions   KEY TAKEAWAYS: * Vacationing alone can be liberating because you aren’t worried about another person’s happiness. * Women are hard on themselves when it comes to body size and aging. Women need to give themselves a break and look on the inside. * Before you melt down, getaway. You may not be able to travel to Egypt, but you can do a B&B in the next town.   RESOURCES: Amanda de Cadenet - Website [https://www.amandadecadenet.com/] Amanda de Cadenet - Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/] Alicia Keys - Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/aliciakeys/] Alicia Keys - Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/aliciakeys/?hl=en] ABOUT THIS PODCAST: The Conversation with Amanda de Cadenet is a groundbreaking series of weekly interviews featuring candid conversations with impactful thought leaders. Host Amanda de Cadenet provides a platform for raw and honest discussions on a wide variety of topics, from porn to politics. Visit amandadecadenet.com [https://www.amandadecadenet.com/]to learn more and sign up for her newsletter. Follow Amanda on Instagram @amandadecadenet [https://www.instagram.com/amandadecadenet/]. See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.