Ep 10: Parenting Your Singer Self

Ep 10: Parenting Your Singer Self

How do you speak to yourself after a bad audition? After a mistake? After a performance that didn’t go the way you hoped? Most of us would never speak to a friend the way we sometimes speak to ourselves. And yet, there’s this kind of conversation happening 👇 "You should have done better." "You messed up." "You’re not enough." In this episode of The Joyful Singer Podcast, we’re exploring something powerful: You are already parenting yourself every day. The question is: how?  Because whether you realize it or not, you are constantly coaching yourself through fear, disappointment, embarrassment, mistakes, growth, and success. Today we’re talking about how to shift from harshness and shame into something more supportive: ✨ empathy ✨ compassion ✨ encouragement ✨ unconditional love Because your singer self deserves the same kindness you naturally offer to the people you love. In this episode you'll discover: - Why we all have an ongoing "inner parenting voice" - How harsh self-talk often disguises itself as motivation - Why shame and self-criticism can become automatic - The surprising lesson Erin learned while navigating Lyme disease - How conditional love quietly shows up in our relationship with ourselves - Why empathy may be one of your greatest untapped superpowers - How working with a childhood photo can help you reconnect with your essence - The difference between analytical thinking and compassionate wisdom - How to begin developing a more nurturing relationship with yourself as a singer Your invitation this week: Find a childhood picture that brings up good feelings for you. Choose a picture that reminds you of your essence—your joy, spirit, personality, curiosity, playfulness... you.  Spend a few moments with it each day and notice: * What feelings arise? * What do you notice about this little person? * How would you speak to them? * Can you begin offering that same kindness to yourself now? And throughout the week ask: Can I hold myself with love when I mess up? Can I respond with care instead of criticism? Can I become the parent my singer self needs? A mantra from today's episode: "I love myself."  "I love myself."  "I love myself."    Mentioned in this episode: ➡ FREE Joyful Singing Workshop: The 3 Steps to Confident, Joyful Singing  In this free workshop you'll: • Learn vocal warmups that actually work to strengthen and free your voice • Create a personalized affirmation unique to your voice journey • Explore the beliefs that may be holding you back • Experience my complete 3-step Joyful Singing process Register here: erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop  [http://erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop]   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @joyfulsingingwitherin  [https://www.instagram.com/joyfulsingingwitherin/] Facebook: Erin Stewart - Voice Teacher and Mindset Coach for Singers  [https://www.facebook.com/erinstewartvoicestudio] Website: erinstewart.net  [http://erinstewart.net] Email: info@erinstewart.net  If you try the childhood photo exercise or want to share your experience from this week's episode, send a message or email! Would LOVE to hear from you!   Love the show? If this episode resonated with you: ⭐ Follow the podcast ⭐ Leave a review ⭐ Share this episode with a friend ⭐ Tag @joyfulsingingwitherin if you share on social media Your support helps more singers discover this work and build more joyful relationships with their voices.

Ep 9: A singing practice that’s just for you.

Do you ever feel like your singing has slowly become something you do for everyone else? For the audience. For the teacher. For approval Somewhere along the way, maybe you began to lose touch with what you actually want. In this episode of The Joyful Singer Podcast, we're talking about creating a singing practice that belongs to you first and foremost—one rooted in joy, curiosity, creativity, and connection rather than pleasing and obligation. Inspired by a story from Natalie Portman while filming Black Swan, we explore what happens when we stop performing for approval and start creating from ourselves instead. Because singing doesn't only exist to make you better.  It can also exist to make you feel: *  more connected * more alive * more honest * more like yourself   In this episode you'll discover: - Why so many singers slowly disconnect from their own desires and creativity - Four ways to create a singing practice that's actually for you  - Why singing doesn't have to be shared publicly to be meaningful - The surprising cost of always singing from obligation instead of joy - Why discipline and joy don't have to compete with one another   Mentioned in this episode: 🎧 Episode 5: Vocal Warmups That Actually Work   [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joyful-singer/id1888003722?i=1000764233567] 🎧 Episode 4: Taming Your Inner Critic   [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joyful-singer/id1888003722?i=1000763056395]   ➡ FREE Joyful Singing Workshop In this free workshop you'll: • Learn vocal warmups that actually work to strengthen and free your voice • Create a personalized affirmation unique to your voice journey • Explore the beliefs that may be holding you back • Experience my complete 3-step Joyful Singing process  Register here: erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop  [http://erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop]   Connect with Erin: Instagram: @joyfulsingingwitherin  [https://www.instagram.com/joyfulsingingwitherin/] Facebook: Erin Stewart - Voice Teacher and Mindset Coach for Singers  [https://www.facebook.com/erinstewartvoicestudio]   Have a topic you'd love covered on the podcast? Send me a message: info@erinstewart.net

Ep 8: Owning Your Voice in Midlife

Have you started noticing changes in your voice as you move through midlife? Maybe your voice feels less flexible. Maybe warming up takes longer than it used to. Maybe your range, stamina, breath support, or vocal ease feel different. Or maybe you’ve been feeling disconnected from your voice entirely and you’re wondering how to find your way back. In this episode of The Joyful Singer Podcast, we’re talking about the very real vocal changes that can happen during midlife, aging, perimenopause, and menopause — and how to support your voice with more compassion, intention, and care. A few weeks ago, I hosted a free live workshop called Midlife and Beyond Voice Revival, and the response was incredible. So many singers shared how relieved they felt simply hearing these conversations happening openly and honestly. Because the truth is we don’t talk enough about midlife voices. And we should! Your voice changing does not mean your voice has lost value. It does not mean you are failing. It does not mean your best singing years are behind you. Your voice is evolving. And in many ways, this chapter can bring a new richness, depth, wisdom, and emotional connection to your singing that younger voices simply don’t have yet. In this episode, I’m sharing practical tools to help you: * support your changing voice * rebuild trust with your instrument * stay connected to singing through transitions * and approach this season with more gentleness and confidence In this episode, we cover: * Common vocal changes that happen with aging * How menopause and hormonal shifts can impact the voice * Why vocal changes are normal (and workable) * The emotional side of changing voices * How the inner critic can intensify fear and discouragement * Why self-care matters for singers * The importance of hydration and vocal recovery * SOVT exercises (like straw phonation and lip trills) and why they’re so effective * How to adapt your singing practice instead of fighting your voice * Why continuing to sing is one of the best things you can do for vocal health We also talk about: * adjusting song keys * choosing repertoire that supports your current voice * reconnecting with joy instead of perfectionism * and learning how to work with your voice instead of against it Because this isn’t about trying to force your voice to sound 20 again. It’s about learning how to support the voice you have now — with wisdom, flexibility, curiosity, and care. Your voice matters.   FREE WORKSHOP: The Joyful Singing Workshop I’m so excited to be offering a brand new free workshop experience: The Joyful Singing Workshop  Multiple live sessions are available. We’ll explore: * how to reconnect with your voice * ways to reduce tension and self-criticism * gentle warmups that actually help * mindset shifts for more confident singing * and how to build a more joyful singing practice Registration link: https://www.erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop [https://www.erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingworkshop]   Resources + Links The Joyful Singing Starter Kit (FREE): https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit [https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit] Website: https://www.erinstewart.net [https://www.erinstewart.net/]   Let’s Stay Connected Instagram: @joyfulsingingwitherin [https://www.instagram.com/joyfulsingingwitherin/] Facebook: Erin Stewart - Voice Teacher and Mindset Coach for Singers [https://www.facebook.com/erinstewartvoicestudio] If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes. And if you’re enjoying the podcast, leaving a review is one of the most powerful ways to help more singers find this work.

Ep 7: 12 Tips for Dealing with Performance Anxiety

12 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH PERFORMANCE ANXIETY Do you ever feel like performance anxiety completely hijacks your body before you sing? Racing heart. Shaky hands. Tight throat. Spinning thoughts. That awful feeling of wanting to escape before you even step on stage? In this episode of The Joyful Singer Podcast, I’m talking honestly about performance anxiety — not just as a singer and performer, but as someone who deeply struggled with it for years.   In this episode, we explore a gentler, more compassionate approach to nerves and stage fright — one that helps you work with your body instead of fighting against it. I’m also sharing 12 practical tools that have genuinely helped me throughout my performing career — tools I’ve tested before auditions, concerts, rehearsals, performances, and high-pressure singing situations. These are strategies to help you: * feel more grounded in your body * regulate nervous energy * reconnect to your breath * shift out of panic spirals * stay connected to your voice under pressure * and ultimately… enjoy performing more Because the goal isn’t to become someone who never feels nervous. The goal is to become someone who knows how to move through it. IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER: * Why performance anxiety happens from a nervous system perspective * The difference between fear and danger * How perfectionism can intensify stage fright * Why trying to “eliminate” nerves often backfires * How to stop fighting your body during performances * 12 practical tools for calming and channeling nervous energy Including: * identifying physical symptoms * preparation + muscle memory * journaling fears * meditation + breathwork * exercise before performing * visualization * power poses * self-talk * getting into character * redefining your performance goal * Yo-Yo Ma’s beautiful “be the host” mindset * and why exposure matters when it comes to fear If you’ve ever felt ashamed of your nerves, frustrated by your anxiety, or discouraged by how vulnerable performing can feel… this episode is for you. And you can absolutely learn how to feel more supported, grounded, and free when you sing.   RESOURCES + LINKS The Joyful Singing Starter Kit (FREE): https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit  [https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit] Website: https://www.erinstewart.net  [https://www.erinstewart.net/]   LET’S STAY CONNECTED Instagram: @joyfulsingingwitherin [https://www.instagram.com/joyfulsingingwitherin/] Facebook: Erin Stewart - Voice Teacher and Mindset Coach for Singers [https://www.facebook.com/erinstewartvoicestudio]   If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss future episodes. And if you’re enjoying the podcast, leaving a review is one of the most powerful ways you can help more singers find this work. I appreciate you so much for being here!!   DISCLAIMER While we talk about mental, physical, and vocal wellbeing here, this podcast is not a substitute for medical, vocal, or therapeutic care. Please seek guidance from a licensed professional for personalized support.

Ep. 6: How to Sing More Consistently

Episode 6: How to Sing More Consistently  If you’ve been telling yourself, “I just need to be more consistent”… but it’s not happening—this episode is for you. Because the truth is: It’s not about discipline. It’s not about willpower. And it’s not because you don’t care enough. In this episode, we’re rethinking what it actually takes to build a sustainable singing practice—one that fits your life, supports your voice, and feels good enough to keep coming back to. Whether you’ve fallen out of the habit, lost your motivation, or just don’t know where to start again… this is your way back. Inside This Episode: * Why inconsistency has nothing to do with laziness * The identity shift that changes everything (“I am someone who sings”) * Why small, simple practices are more powerful than long, intense ones * How to create a routine that works with your life (not against it) * The 5 keys to making your singing practice stick: * Make it doable * Plan ahead * Make it enjoyable * Make it satisfying * Anticipate your inner critic You’ll also learn how to create structure and support so you’re not relying on motivation to show up. A lot of what I’m sharing here is inspired by the work of James Clear in Atomic Habits—especially the idea that we overestimate motivation and underestimate environment. I’ve adapted these ideas specifically for singers. For additional reading, be sure to check out this wonderful resource: Atomic Habits by James Clear [https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits]   Joyful Singing – Special Podcast Offer (Ends May 15) If you’ve been listening to the podcast and thinking, “I want more support with my voice”… this is for you. For a limited time, I’m offering a special podcast-only bonus inside Joyful Singing—including 4 private voice lessons with me, which I’ve never bundled this many into the program. But what truly makes this program different is the level of support. Inside, you’ll get: * Access to a private, supportive community (with direct coaching from me) * Two live coaching calls every month * Guidance on technique, warmups, mindset, and confidence * Real-time feedback so you’re not figuring it out alone * Lifetime access—so you can go at your own pace, without pressure This isn’t just about learning how to sing. It’s about having a space where your voice is supported, understood, and encouraged as you grow. ✨ This special offer ends Friday, May 15—and the program price will be increasing after that. Learn more here: https://www.erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingspecialoffer [https://www.erinstewart.net/joyfulsingingspecialoffer]   Free Resource 🎁 The Joyful Singing Starter Kit Get simple, supportive tools to start reconnecting with your voice: https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit [https://www.erinstewart.net/starterkit]   Let’s Stay Connected Instagram: @joyfulsingingwitherin Facebook: Erin Stewart – Voice Teacher and Mindset Coach for Singers Website: https://www.erinstewart.net [https://www.erinstewart.net/]   If this episode resonated with you, make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss what’s coming next. And if you’re enjoying the podcast, leaving a review is one of the most powerful ways to help more singers find this work. I appreciate you so much for being here. 💛   Disclaimer: While we talk about mental, physical, and vocal wellbeing here, this podcast is not a substitute for medical, vocal, or therapeutic care. Please seek guidance from a licensed professional for personalized support.