We've Never Been More Alone - Why the Most Connected Generation Is the Loneliest in History

Weh'yee Barkon: The Millennial Digital Nomad, Africa Rising, and Building a Borderless Life

What happens when you trade a fast-rising San Francisco startup job for a one-way ticket to Casablanca and no plan past three nights in a hostel? Weh'yee Barkon found out. He joins Ryan Vet, a friend of more than two decades, to talk about the digital nomad life, rediscovering his roots, and building businesses across Africa. Weh'yee was employee number seven at a fast-growing electronics-recycling startup, helping it climb from roughly one million to nearly seven million in annual revenue. He was traveling constantly and climbing the ladder, but he wasn't fulfilled, and the pace was wearing on his health. Single, no kids, and standing in front of an open window of time, he bought a one-way ticket from San Francisco to Casablanca and spent the next twelve months moving through eleven countries, much of it overland. As a first-generation Liberian-American whose parents were born and raised in Liberia, the trip was about more than travel. It was about rediscovering where he comes from. Along the way he lived on a Workaway program, farmed in the Sahara, hosted a hostel in Seville, and eventually crossed into Senegal, where an accidental moment with a refugee family and a bag of charcoal became the spark for everything that came next. Today he runs Africa Rising, a recruitment firm that connects skilled African talent to global companies, alongside on-the-ground businesses including short-term rentals in Dakar, a poultry farm, and a butcher shop in Kigali, Rwanda. This conversation is really about the future of work. Weh'yee and Ryan dig into why a lean team of two to five people plus AI can now do what once took fifty, why the return-to-office fight is the same push and pull that follows every period of change, and why, in the age of AI, the real edge is getting back on the ground and shaking hands. In this episode: * Why Weh'yee left a fast-rising San Francisco startup at the top of his climb * The one-way ticket to Casablanca, eleven countries, and traveling overland with about ten thousand dollars * Rediscovering his Liberian roots as a first-generation Liberian-American * Workaway, a month farming in the Sahara, and hosting a hostel in Seville * Why we become "country club visitors" of other countries, and how to actually experience a place * The charcoal-bag moment in Senegal that became his entrepreneurial spark * Africa Rising: connecting elite African talent to global companies, and why it is a win-win-win * Hedging online income with real-world businesses: rentals in Dakar, a farm, a butcher shop in Kigali * Why a team of two to five people plus AI can now do what once took fifty * The return-to-office push and pull, and Ryan's advice to leaders afraid of distributed work * Why the age of AI is sparking a renaissance of in-person, on-the-ground connection Connect with Weh'yee Barkon: * Africa Rising: africarising.work * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/wehyeeba Connect with Ryan Vet: * Website: ryanvet.com * COLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collide * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvet * Instagram: instagram.com/ryancvet * Book Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speaker Subscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Nicki Petrosi on "Scrolling to Death," and what always-on screens are doing to all of us. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2557074/fan_mail/new] ABOUT RYAN VET Ryan Vet [https://ryanvet.com/?ref=podcast] is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist [https://ryanvet.com/futurist/], and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. JOIN 20,000+ LEADERS FOR WEEKLY INSIGHTS If you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

Is America Going Black and White Again? - The Wizard of Oz, Gen Z's Grayscale Rebellion, and the Overstimulation Era

The Wizard of Oz taught a generation to gasp when the world turned to color. Now Gen Z is deliberately turning its phones back to black and white. Generational futurist, USA TODAY bestselling author, and international keynote speaker Ryan Vet starts with a viral photo, two rows of cars sixty years apart, captioned "America is losing its color," and goes looking for the numbers. What he finds is a culture draining toward white, black, and gray, from cars to countertops to the grayscale screens Gen Z is choosing on purpose. This episode of The Ryan Vet Show asks whether all that restraint is peace or avoidance, and what the overstimulation era is really signaling. Don't miss this week's Monday guest episode with Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free-Range Kids, on why overprotection is the real danger. Key Takeaways * By 2024, roughly four out of five new passenger cars worldwide were white, black, gray, or silver (BASF, 2024). White and off-white together make up about 70% of US countertop choices (Houzz, 2024). * 71% of Americans report overstimulation, and Gen Z carries the heaviest load at 85%, nearly twice the rate of Boomers at 47% (Best Therapies, 2026). * Students who switched their phones to grayscale used them about 40 minutes less per day, with the steepest drops in social media (Holte and Ferraro, 2020). Bright color is the reward. Take it away, and the slot machine goes dark. * Gen Z is the only age group actively shrinking its digital footprint (PYMNTS Intelligence, 2024), and built a movement around buying less called underconsumption core (McKinsey and Company, 2024). It cut overall spending about 13% in early 2025 (PwC, 2025). * The bare white room and the dim gray phone may be the same instinct aimed at two screens: when the input will not stop, you turn down the part you can. * The open question is whether this is calm or avoidance. A grayscale screen reads as discipline in one hand and exhaustion in the other. Research and Sources Cited * BASF (2024), Houzz (2024), and Fixr (2024) on the neutral drift across cars, countertops, and home palettes * Best Therapies (2026) and the American Psychological Association (2023) on overstimulation and Gen Z stress * Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (2023) on teen screen time * Holte and Ferraro (2020) and Dekker and Baumgartner (2024) on grayscale smartphone interventions * PYMNTS Intelligence (2024), McKinsey and Company (2024), and PwC (2025) on Gen Z's shrinking footprint and underconsumption core * Northeast Recycling Council (2024), EPA (2018), and McDonald's (2021) on the recycling era that shaped Millennials * Cultural touchstone: The Wizard of Oz (1939) Connect with Ryan Vet * Read the full Collide essay: https://ryanvet.com/collide/gen-z-is-turning-its-phones-black-and-white/ * Subscribe to the Collide newsletter: https://ryanvet.com/collide * Learn more and book Ryan to speak: https://ryanvet.com Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2557074/fan_mail/new] ABOUT RYAN VET Ryan Vet [https://ryanvet.com/?ref=podcast] is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist [https://ryanvet.com/futurist/], and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. JOIN 20,000+ LEADERS FOR WEEKLY INSIGHTS If you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

Lenore Skenazy: Free Range Kids and Why Overprotection Is the Real Danger

We convinced ourselves that childhood is more dangerous than ever, right as crime hit historic lows. Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free Range Kids and president of Let Grow, joins The Ryan Vet Show to explain why overprotection became the actual threat, and how to give kids their independence back. In 2008, Lenore Skenazy let her nine year old ride the New York City subway home alone. He had begged for it. He made it back levitating with pride. She wrote a column about it, and within two days she was on the Today Show, MSNBC, Fox News, and NPR defending herself against the title that stuck: America's Worst Mom. She turned that moment into Free Range Kids, and then into Let Grow, the nonprofit she co-founded with psychologists Jonathan Haidt and Peter Gray to make childhood independence normal and easy again. In this conversation with host Ryan Vet, Lenore unpacks how American fear got so distorted. She traces the spike to the 1980s: the arrival of 24 hour cable news, a handful of high profile abductions, and missing kid photos on milk cartons that left out the context. The result is a culture where, by one University of Michigan finding she cites, half of parents of nine to eleven year olds will not let their child walk to a different aisle in a store. Meanwhile the data points the other way. Lenore cites figures putting the American homicide rate back to where it was around 1900, and notes that a genuine stranger kidnapping is so rare you would have to leave a child outside for hundreds of thousands of years for it to become statistically likely. The cost of all that protection is not neutral. Drawing on Peter Gray's work, Lenore argues that as children's real world independence has declined over decades, anxiety and depression have climbed, because independence is how kids build an internal locus of control, the felt sense that they can handle things. Ryan connects this to his Generational Pendulum, from latchkey kids to helicopter parents to today's digital leash. Lenore's sharpest point lands on tracking apps: with around 86 percent of children now tracked, she argues we are replacing faith with certainty, and certainty is more fragile because you have to keep checking it. The episode closes on what actually works. The only thing that changes anxiety, Lenore says, is action. She walks through Let Grow's free programs, the Reasonable Childhood Independence laws now passed in 13 states, and a Harris finding that kids themselves rank free play first and time online last. They are there by default, not by desire. In this episode: * The subway story that made Lenore America's Worst Mom, and what her son actually learned that day * Why American fear spiked in the 1980s: 24 hour cable news, high profile abductions, and the milk carton effect * The University of Michigan finding that half of parents of nine to eleven year olds will not let them go to a different aisle in a store * Why a stranger kidnapping is statistically so rare, and the homicide rate's return to roughly 1900 levels * Internal versus external locus of control, and how independence builds resilience * Peter Gray's research linking the decades long decline in independence to rising anxiety and depression * The tracking trap: why around 86 percent of kids are now monitored, and why certainty is more anxious than trust * Ryan's Generational Pendulum: latchkey kids, helicopter parents, and the digital leash * Let Grow's free programs: the Let Grow Experience, the Let Grow Play Club, and the Independence Kit * The 13 states that have passed Reasonable Childhood Independence laws, usually with bipartisan support * The Harris finding that kids rank free play first and online last when choosing how to spend time with friends Referenced in this episode: * Let Grow: letgrow.org [https://letgrow.org] * Free-Range Kids by Lenore Skenazy (2009, re-released 2021) * Jonathan Haidt and Peter Gray, co-founders of Let Grow * Peter Gray's research on declining independence and rising youth anxiety * The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt * Kevin Stinehart and the Let Grow Play Club (last week's episode) Connect with Ryan Vet: * Website: ryanvet.com [https://ryanvet.com] * COLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collide [https://ryanvet.com/collide] * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvet [https://linkedin.com/in/ryanvet] * Instagram: instagram.com/ryancvet [https://instagram.com/ryancvet] * Book Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speaker [https://ryanvet.com/generational-speaker] Subscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Weh'yee Barkon on the millennial digital nomad, work without borders, and what a location independent life really costs. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2557074/fan_mail/new] ABOUT RYAN VET Ryan Vet [https://ryanvet.com/?ref=podcast] is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist [https://ryanvet.com/futurist/], and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. JOIN 20,000+ LEADERS FOR WEEKLY INSIGHTS If you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

There Is No Such Thing as a Fragile Child: What We Created When We Tried to Keep Kids Safe

We didn't raise a fragile generation. We renamed discomfort as danger, then removed the very experiences that make kids strong. The contrarian case for why there is no such thing as a fragile child. Generational futurist, USA Today bestselling author, and keynote speaker Ryan Vet makes a contrarian case: there is no such thing as a fragile child. Kids learn to walk by falling. They are built to fall, fail, recover, and grow stronger. So what changed? Over a few decades we did not simply parent differently. We renamed the experience of discomfort itself. Ryan traces the language shift that quietly rewired childhood. Psychological safety, introduced by Carl Rogers in the 1950s and redefined by organizational scholars before going mainstream in the 2010s. Emotional safety, which spread through counseling and parenting literature in the 1980s and 1990s. Safe spaces, born in 1960s social movements and vastly expanded in the 2010s. Trigger warnings, which migrated from late-1990s internet forums into academia by the early 2010s. Linguistic change is a leading indicator of cultural change. The pain of emotional hurt was not new. It just got a new name. And once discomfort was framed as harm, kids learned to avoid the wet paint entirely. Then he turns to Nassim Nicholas Taleb's idea of anti-fragility, the observation that some systems grow stronger under stress. "Some things benefit from shocks; they thrive and grow when exposed to volatility, randomness, disorder, and stressors." A healthy immune system is anti-fragile. So is a child. Scraped knees, risky play, and low-stakes failure are not threats to development. They are the mechanism of it. Ryan names three forces that combined to strip those experiences away: technology, media, and parenting. Nursery cameras, GPS trackers, and smartphones gave parents total visibility for the first time in history, and visibility created the obligation to manage everything. Media turned statistically rare fears into constant ones. And new language relabeled "challenging" as "dangerous." The cost is now measurable. Research on risky play shows children need age-appropriate exposure to uncertainty to build resilience (Sandseter & Kennair, 2011), and a 2023 review in The Journal of Pediatrics ties the decades-long decline in children's independent activity directly to the rise in anxiety, depression, and helplessness among young people (Gray, Lancy & Bjorklund, 2023). This is the Generational Pendulum at work. Every generation overcorrects for the one before it. Free-range childhood gave way to the helicopter, and the helicopter, for all its love, gave us fragility. But the pendulum is already swinging back. The generation we raised most carefully is the same one now choosing the mall, the bookstore, and the face-to-face over the screen. Kids are not fragile. They just have not been given enough chances to prove it. In this episode: * The bear trap parable, and why the trap sometimes has to tighten before it releases * The "wet paint" test: how kids actually learn, and what happens when we remove the lesson * How four words rewired childhood: psychological safety, emotional safety, safe spaces, and trigger warnings * Why linguistic change is a leading indicator of cultural change * Fragility vs. anti-fragility, and what Nassim Taleb got right about stress * The three forces behind overprotection: technology, media, and parenting * Why total parental visibility created the obligation to manage everything * The data: risky play, independent activity, and the rise in youth anxiety and depression * The Generational Pendulum: how every generation overcorrects for the one before it * Why there is no such thing as a fragile child, and how the pendulum is swinging back Referenced in this episode: * Nassim Nicholas Taleb, Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder * Carl Rogers (1954), Toward a Theory of Creativity * Amy C. Edmondson (1999), psychological safety and learning behavior in work teams * Sandseter & Kennair (2011), children's risky play from an evolutionary perspective, Evolutionary Psychology * Gray, Lancy & Bjorklund (2023), decline in independent activity and children's mental well-being, The Journal of Pediatrics * COLLIDE Newsletter by Ryan Vet: ryanvet.com/collide [https://ryanvet.com/collide] Connect with Ryan Vet: * Website: ryanvet.com [https://ryanvet.com] * COLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collide [https://ryanvet.com/collide] * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvet [https://linkedin.com/in/ryanvet] * Instagram: instagram.com/ryancvet [https://instagram.com/ryancvet] * Book Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speaker [https://ryanvet.com/generational-speaker] Subscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. New COLLIDE essay episodes release every Thursday at 7am ET. Guest era episodes release Monday mornings at 6am ET. Join the COLLIDE newsletter at ryanvet.com/collide [https://ryanvet.com/collide] for the research, reflections, and frameworks behind every episode. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2557074/fan_mail/new] ABOUT RYAN VET Ryan Vet [https://ryanvet.com/?ref=podcast] is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist [https://ryanvet.com/futurist/], and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. JOIN 20,000+ LEADERS FOR WEEKLY INSIGHTS If you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide

Kevin Stinehart: Rebuilding Recess and Why Play Is a Developmental Need, Not a Want

We engineered the friction out of childhood, then acted surprised when kids could not handle it. Kevin Stinehart, the third grade teacher and play advocate featured in chapter 11 of Jonathan Haidt's The Anxious Generation, joins The Ryan Vet Show to make the case that play is not a want. It is a developmental need. Kevin Stinehart teaches third grade at Central Academy of the Arts in Pickens County, South Carolina. He is a District Teacher of the Year, a South Carolina State Teacher of the Year candidate, and a Golden Apple Award winner. He also founded his school's Let Grow Play Club, a before and after school program with no budget and no curriculum. He opens the playground and lets kids play. In this conversation with host Ryan Vet, Kevin walks through what happens when you give children back unstructured time, and why the results are anything but soft. The data is the part that stops people. Inside the Play Club, physical incidents dropped from about 65 in one year to 32 the next, cut by more than half. The school hit 100 percent parent approval on its report card, a number that almost never happens in public education. And Kevin reframes the behavior conversation entirely. A lot of what gets labeled a discipline problem, he argues, is really a design problem. The third grader who cannot sit still after an hour of math is not misbehaving. He is doing what a developing brain is wired to do inside a system that was never built around healthy child development. Ryan connects this directly to his Loss of Friction thesis. Every scraped knee, every argument with a friend, every game where the rules break down is a rep. That is where kids build the capacity to adapt. Remove the friction and you remove the practice. Kevin's fix is not expensive, it is a mindset shift: stop being the cruise director, start being the park ranger. As he puts it, he is not there to control the wildlife, he is there to cultivate what is already growing. The conversation closes on why this matters more now, not less. AI will do the fast, factual work faster than any human brain. The capacities built through play, creativity, adaptability, and self direction, are exactly the things that get more valuable from here. Play was never frivolous. It is how kids become capable. In this episode: * Why protection can quietly turn into overprotection, and how to tell the difference * The Let Grow Play Club model: no budget, no curriculum, just unstructured play before and after school * The data behind the club: physical incidents cut from about 65 to 32 in a single year, and 100 percent parent approval on the school report card * Why a lot of behavior issues are not behavior issues at all, but a consequence of school systems not designed around healthy child development * Finland's 45-15 model: 45 minutes of instruction, 15 minutes of recess, all day long * The American Academy of Pediatrics recommendation of 60 minutes of play a day * The park ranger versus cruise director mindset for parents and teachers * How friction in play builds the capacities kids cannot learn any other way * Why play and the skills it builds, creativity and adaptability, become more important in the age of AI, not less * What it means to treat play as a fundamental need rather than a reward to be earned Referenced in this episode: * The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt (Kevin is featured in chapter 11) * Let Grow: letgrow.org [https://letgrow.org] * Central Academy of the Arts, Pickens County, South Carolina * Finland's 45-15 recess model * American Academy of Pediatrics: 60 minutes of play a day Connect with Ryan Vet: * Website: ryanvet.com [https://ryanvet.com] * COLLIDE Newsletter: ryanvet.com/collide [https://ryanvet.com/collide] * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/ryanvet [https://linkedin.com/in/ryanvet] * Instagram: instagram.com/ryancvet [https://instagram.com/ryancvet] * Book Ryan as a Keynote Speaker: ryanvet.com/generational-speaker [https://ryanvet.com/generational-speaker] Subscribe to The Ryan Vet Show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and wherever you get your podcasts. The guest era continues every Monday at 6am ET. Next week: Lenore Skenazy, founder of Free Range Kids and president of Let Grow, on why we stopped trusting kids with independence and how to give it back. The COLLIDE essay podcast continues every Thursday at 7am ET. Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2557074/fan_mail/new] ABOUT RYAN VET Ryan Vet [https://ryanvet.com/?ref=podcast] is a USA TODAY bestselling author, futurist [https://ryanvet.com/futurist/], and international keynote speaker whose insights on generations, culture, and the future of work have been featured in Forbes, Financial Times, ABC, NBC, and CBS. His research helps leaders understand emerging generational patterns and anticipate societal shifts before they fully unfold. JOIN 20,000+ LEADERS FOR WEEKLY INSIGHTS If you want deeper research and behind-the-scenes insights on generations and the future of culture and society, join Ryan’s weekly newsletter: 👉 https://ryanvet.com/collide