Dating in Midlife and Post-divorce: Expert Tips Revealed (w/ Bela Gandhi)

This is Your Season (w/ Dr. Sherita Gaskins-Tillett)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/fan_mail/new] “Life does not always unfold according to our plans, but that does not mean we are headed in the wrong direction.” In this week’s conversation, I sat down with Dr. Sherita Gaskins-Tillett to talk about expectations, reinvention, and the unexpected turns that often shape our lives. Dr. Sherita shares her journey of building a successful medical career and becoming a wife and mother later than expected, only to realize that success alone was not enough to create a fulfilling life.  Together, we explore the gap between expectations and reality, the courage to let go of identities that no longer fit, and the power of asking yourself what you truly want. This episode is a reminder that nothing is wasted, every season has purpose, and sometimes the path you never planned leads exactly where you need to be. Song of the week: It's Working (This Is My Season) by William Murphy Topics Covered: 00:00:00 – Episode snippet 00:01:21 – Introducing our guest, Dr. Sherita Gaskins Tillette 00:03:18 – When life unfolds differently than planned  00:07:31 – The sacrifices behind a successful career  00:12:23 – Choosing wellness over achievement  00:18:02 – Challenging your own assumptions  00:20:46 – You can have it all, but...  00:22:12 – Asking yourself the hard questions 00:26:15 – Nothing is wasted  00:30:55 – A Weekend for Me: reconnect, redefine, reclaim  00:32:40 – The five reasons women stay stuck 00:36:37 – Ask 00:38:05 – Connect with Dr. Sherita Gaskins-Tillett *Special offer 🎉: Enter code NXTCHAPT for $250 off your A Weekend for Me retreat registration Key Takeaways: “I was trying to be everything to everybody. I honestly got to the point where I felt like I was failing at everything.” “Sometimes when we are stuck, it's because we have made ourselves stuck.” “You can have it all, but you have to decide what your ‘all’ looks like.” *Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors reopen.  bit.ly/yncapply [http://bit.ly/yncapply] ☕ Support the podcast here: Buy Me a Coffee [https://buymeacoffee.com/drnicolepod?utm_source=chatgpt.com]  Episode Sponsors:  * This episode is sponsored by Your Next Chapter LLC. Need a speaker? Book Dr. Nicole, TEDx and keynote speaker, to speak on life transitions, healing, and growth. Email hello@yournextchapter.co [hello@yournextchapter.co] with “Speaker Request” to get started. About Our Guest: Dr. Sherita Gaskins-Tillett is a board-certified OB/GYN, personal development coach, speaker, and founder of Boss Lady Dream Builders. Through coaching, speaking, and her signature retreat, A Weekend For Me, she helps high-achieving women reconnect with themselves, redefine success, and step confidently into their next chapter. Connect with Dr. Sherita: Web: https://bossladydreambuilders.com/ [https://bossladydreambuilders.com/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/drsheritadgtob/ [https://www.instagram.com/drsheritadgtob/] About Your Host Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE! Connect with Dr. Nicole: Web: https://yournextchapter.co/ [https://yournextchapter.co/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co [https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co] FB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co [https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co] Join our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community [https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community] Your nEXt Chapter podcast explores the challenges and triumphs women face as they reclaim joy, reimagine the future, and redefine their identity after divorce and other unexpected life transitions. Join Dr. Nicole as she shares insights from her journey as a high-achieving professional woman navigating divorce while walking in her Christian faith. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/support]

It Ain't Over- Navigating Life's Dark Seasons

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/fan_mail/new] “One of the hardest parts of healing is continuing to believe that better days are still possible while you are living through the heavy ones.” In this week’s solo episode, I share an honest conversation about trials, heartbreak, and the seasons that can leave you feeling exhausted and ready to give up. Reflecting on my own journey through divorce, grief, disappointment, and rebuilding, I talk about what it looked like to keep going even when the future felt uncertain and the pain felt overwhelming. This episode is for anyone carrying heavy burdens and wondering when their breakthrough will come.  My hope is that this conversation reminds you that even the hardest chapters can still produce growth, strength, faith, and hope. Song of the week: It Ain’t Over by Maurette Brown Clark Topics Covered: 00:00:00 – Episode snippet 00:02:45 – Finding joy while still carrying unanswered prayers 00:03:44 – “It Ain’t Over.” 00:06:25 – What trials really teach us 00:10:01 – Trials do not last forever 00:11:13 – The purpose of testing seasons 00:15:19 – Learning to surrender control 00:16:23 – Giving up can cost you your breakthrough 00:21:12 – “God wink.” 00:22:04 – Read your bible 00:23:04 – Be in community with like-hearted people 00:26:40 – Understanding your “faith bank” 00:29:26 – Remember what God has done for you 00:31:12 – “It ain’t over until God says it’s over.” Key Takeaways: “No matter how bad things look, things are gonna get better.” “The only way that I have been able to navigate my trials is because of God.” “Your story could be the catalyst for someone else’s breakthrough.” “My greatest lessons have always come on the other side of a trial.” “Your breakthrough is right on the other side of a season where you almost gave up. Our job is to keep the faith.” *Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors reopen.  bit.ly/yncapply [http://bit.ly/yncapply] ☕ Support the podcast here: Buy Me a Coffee [https://buymeacoffee.com/drnicolepod?utm_source=chatgpt.com]  Mentioned in the episode: Dr. Nicole’s healthcare company, Your GPS Doc, LLC [https://www.yourgpsdoc.com] Episode Sponsors:  * This episode is sponsored by Your Next Chapter LLC. Need a speaker? Book Dr. Nicole, TEDx and keynote speaker, to speak on life transitions, healing, and growth. Email hello@yournextchapter.co [hello@yournextchapter.co] with “Speaker Request” to get started. About Your Host Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE! Connect with Dr. Nicole: Web: https://yournextchapter.co/ [https://yournextchapter.co/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co [https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co] FB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co [https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co] Join our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community [https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community] Your nEXt Chapter podcast explores the challenges and triumphs women face as they reclaim joy, reimagine the future, and redefine their identity after divorce and other unexpected life transitions. Join Dr. Nicole as she shares insights from her journey as a high-achieving professional woman navigating divorce while walking in her Christian faith. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/support]

The Aftermath of Infidelity

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/fan_mail/new] “Sometimes the most healing moments come from simply being seen and met with care in your most vulnerable state.”  In this week’s solo episode, I share a personal story about infidelity, healing, and the compassion that met me during one of the hardest seasons of my life. After discovering my husband’s serial infidelity and filing for divorce, a vulnerable moment in a doctor’s office became a reminder of the power of empathy, care, and being truly seen. This episode reflects on how compassion can shape healing and how painful chapters can still lead to beauty. Song of the week: Put a Little Love in Your Heart by Al Green and Annie Lennox Topics Covered: 00:00:00 – Episode snippet 00:03:12 – Where the story of  infidelity begins 00:05:42 – Sitting with fear, shame, and unspoken truth  00:08:11 – STI testing and reclaiming control 00:10:29 – I am healthy! 00:12:12 – Why empathy in healthcare matters  00:14:23 – Power of being seen and cared for 00:17:21 – Empathy beyond healthcare  00:18:53 – Upcoming live podcast announcement  Key Takeaways: “There was a moment of relief knowing that regardless of the outcome, I had reclaimed control of my body and of my health.” “How you show up in the exam room matters. The extra time that you take matters. The smile that you give matters.” “You deserve care, you deserve compassion, you deserve empathy.” “A little bit of love and a little bit of empathy and a little bit of compassion can go a long way.” *Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors re-open.  bit.ly/yncapply [http://bit.ly/yncapply] Mentioned in the episode: Dr. Nicole’s healthcare company, Your GPS Doc, LLC [https://www.yourgpsdoc.com] Episode Sponsors:  * This episode is sponsored by Your Next Chapter LLC. Need a speaker? Book Dr. Nicole, TEDx and keynote speaker, to speak on life transitions, healing, and growth. Email hello@yournextchapter.co [hello@yournextchapter.co] with “Speaker Request” to get started. About Your Host Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE! Connect with Dr. Nicole: Web: https://yournextchapter.co/ [https://yournextchapter.co/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co [https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co] FB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co [https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co] Join our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community [https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community] Your nEXt Chapter podcast explores the challenges and triumphs women face as they reclaim joy, reimagine the future, and redefine their identity after divorce and other unexpected life transitions. Join Dr. Nicole as she shares insights from her journey as a high-achieving professional woman navigating divorce while walking in her Christian faith. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/support]

Dating in Midlife and Post-divorce: Expert Tips Revealed (w/ Bela Gandhi)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/fan_mail/new] In this week’s conversation, Dr. Nicole sits down with dating and relationship expert Bela Gandhi to unpack the realities of dating in midlife and after divorce. From unlearning fairy tale narratives to confronting the beliefs that keep women stuck, this discussion challenges the idea that love is something you wait for instead of something you intentionally choose. Together, they explore how mindset shapes relationship outcomes, why familiar patterns often lead to unhealthy choices, and what it really takes to break cycles and choose differently. This conversation offers clarity on redefining standards, identifying what a good partner truly looks like, and stepping into dating with confidence, self-awareness, and certainty. Song of the week: Nobody’s Supposed to Be Here by Deborah Cox Topics Covered: 00:00:00 – Episode snippet 00:01:50 – Introducing our guest, Bela Gandhi 00:11:04 – Episode Sponsor Break 00:12:32 – Reprogramming your mind  00:16:26 – “Why did I stay?” 00:19:29 – Letting go of the “one soulmate” belief 00:21:46 – You are already complete 00:37:47 – Choosing to rescue yourself 00:45:06 – Familiarity vs. true compatibility 00:48:12 – Yes 00:48:50 – Connect with Bela Gandhi Key Takeaways: “Nobody is coming to rescue you, you are the one who gets to rescue yourself.” “Our brains ignore red flags when we need clarity the most, which is why we can end up choosing the wrong partners.” *Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors re-open.  bit.ly/yncapply [http://bit.ly/yncapply] Episode Sponsors:  * This episode is sponsored by Your Next Chapter LLC. Need a speaker? Book Dr. Nicole, TEDx and keynote speaker, to speak on life transitions, healing, and growth. Email hello@yournextchapter.co [hello@yournextchapter.co] with “Speaker Request” to get started. About Our Guest Bela Gandhi is a dating and relationship expert, entrepreneur, and founder of Smart Dating Academy. She is the creator of the GPQ™ (Good Partner Qualities) process, a proven system designed to help individuals build healthier relationships and find lasting love. Known as the “Fairy Godmother of Love,” Bella combines data, mindset, and practical strategy to guide people toward meaningful connection, with zero divorces among her married clients. Connect with Bela: Web: https://smartdatingacademy.com/ [https://smartdatingacademy.com/]  IG: https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/ [https://www.instagram.com/smartdatingacademy/] About Your Host Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE! Connect with Dr. Nicole: Web: https://yournextchapter.co/ [https://yournextchapter.co/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co [https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co] FB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co [https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co] Join our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community [https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/support]

Co-Parenting with Grace (w/ Dr. Maiysha)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/fan_mail/new] In this week’s conversation, Dr. Nicole sits down with physician, coach, and communication expert Dr. Maiysha Clairborne to unpack the emotional and practical realities of co-parenting after divorce and separation. Dr. Maiysha shares her journey of becoming a single mother and how acceptance became a key turning point after separation. Together, they explore moving through disappointment, redefining expectations, and choosing cooperation over conflict for the sake of a child’s well-being. This conversation offers guidance for communicating with intention, releasing control, and showing up with clarity in co-parenting. Song of the week: If I Could by Regina Belle Topics Covered: 00:00:00 – Episode snippet 00:02:27 – Introducing our guest, Dr. Maiysha Clairborne 00:03:39 – Honoring motherhood and co-parenting journey 00:05:55 – Navigating grief after relationship endings  00:09:06 – Episode Sponsor Break  00:17:21 – Setting co-parenting agreements  00:19:51 – Not passing hurt onto children  00:22:05 – Co-parenting without legal conflict  00:26:11 – Healing, therapy, and communication tools  00:27:35 – Protecting children from parental conflict  00:34:20 – Children adapting across two homes  00:40:27 – Importance of community support  00:41:38 – Agreement 00:42:30 – Connect with Dr. Maiysha  Key Takeaways: “I can’t be the best mom that I can be if I’m in a relationship that is causing me pain and suffering.” “Hurt people hurt people, but they don't have to.” *Want to join our membership community, the R&R Collective™? Apply today and get on the waitlist for when the doors re-open.  bit.ly/yncapply [http://bit.ly/yncapply] Episode Sponsors:  * This episode is sponsored by Your Next Chapter LLC. Need a speaker? Book Dr. Nicole, TEDx and keynote speaker, to speak on life transitions, healing, and growth. Email hello@yournextchapter.co [hello@yournextchapter.co] with “Speaker Request” to get started. About Our Guest Dr. Maiysha Clairborne is a Family Medicine Physician, consultant, TEDx speaker, author, and founder of The Mind Re-Mapping Company. She specializes in helping organizations create inclusive, psychologically safe workplaces through trauma-informed training and leadership development.  Connect with Dr. Maiysha: Web: https://mindremappingacademy.com/  [https://mindremappingacademy.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/DrMaiysha/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/DrMaiysha/] About Your Host Dr. Nicole is a pediatrician, the owner of a successful healthcare consulting company, a riveting keynote and TEDx speaker, and the mom of two beautiful young adult daughters. From the outside, she appeared to have it all. But in 2023 she faced the most difficult challenge of her life- ending a 28-year marriage and navigating heartbreak, deception, and loss. Dr. Nicole is committed to creating a safe space where other women who have experienced a “divine disruption” can heal, recover, and THRIVE! Connect with Dr. Nicole: Web: https://yournextchapter.co/ [https://yournextchapter.co/] IG: https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co [https://www.instagram.com/yournextchapter_co] FB:https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co [https://www.facebook.com/yournextchapter.co] Join our email community:  https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community [https://yournextchapter.myflodesk.com/community] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2411613/support]