The 33 and Up Club

The Missing Link; A Conversation With Mary Farrelly NICU Doula Academy Founder on Reducing Nursing Burnout by Having a Dedicated Person Managing What Nurses Want To, but Cannot; Our Patients Emotional Needs

This week on The 33 And Up Club, Chana sits down with Mary Farrelly — founder of the NICU Doula Academy, creator of NICU Translated, 15 year vet of Level IV NICU, birth doula, educator, and one of the most thoughtful voices currently speaking about trauma-informed NICU care. And honestly? This conversation goes deep. Together, Chana and Mary unpack: * NICU nursing burnout * moral injury in healthcare * “eating our young” nursing culture * trauma responses in parents and providers * why “difficult families” are usually terrified families * how healthcare workers unintentionally perpetuate trauma * the emotional burden of being the one physically causing pain during lifesaving care * and why NICU doulas may fundamentally transform neonatal care Mary explains the “Drama Triangle” vs. the “Empowerment Triangle” and how healthcare workers can shift from rescuing families to coaching and empowering them through impossible experiences. The conversation also dives into one of the hardest realities in NICU nursing: What happens when providers and parents fundamentally disagree about suffering, survival, disability, and quality of life? This episode explores: * complex diagnoses * the hidden emotional cost of bedside care * fight/flight/freeze/fawn responses in NICU parents * why some families disappear from the bedside * why some parents become “angry” * why others bring cookies * and how nurses carry trauma they rarely get permission to process Most importantly, this episode is a reminder that: Healthcare workers are not machines. Parents are not problems to solve. And nobody survives the NICU unchanged. Topics Discussed * NICU doulas * Trauma-informed care * NICU nursing culture * Burnout & moral distress * Parent advocacy * Compassion fatigue * Healthcare systems & moral injury * Family-centered NICU care * Neonatal nursing * Medical trauma * Empowerment dynamics * Emotional labor in healthcare About The Guest Mary Farrelly is a Level IV NICU nurse, birth doula, educator, founder of the NICU Doula Academy, and creator of NICU Translated. Her work focuses on trauma-informed NICU support, family empowerment, and helping healthcare providers reconnect with compassionate, sustainable care practices. Connect With Mary * Instagram: @thenicutranslator [https://www.instagram.com/thenicutranslator?utm_source=chatgpt.com] * Podcast: NICU Translated Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-nicu-translated-podcast/id1838158332?utm_source=chatgpt.com] * Website: NICU Doula Academy Connect With The Show * Instagram: @the33andupclub * Email: 33&upclub@gmail.com [33&upclub@gmail.com]

Weekly Podcast Digest No. 3; True Crime Documentary, Home Management and Trauma Informed Doula talks NICU

This week on The 33 And Up Club, we’re back with another Weekly Podcast Digest. This week’s listening list took a turn after a close friend released the Hulu documentary series The Nightmare Upstairs: What Happened to Ty and Bryn?, A deeply disturbing exploration of alleged child abuse, custody battles, and the family court system. The series follows siblings Ty and Bryn after they barricaded themselves in a bedroom for 54 days to avoid a court-ordered reunification program. Then, in desperate need of emotional whiplash therapy, we pivot into home management with The Raw and The Cooked and a surprisingly helpful mini-masterclass on micro habits, routines, and how you can run your home like its a Fortune 500 company. Then, we dive into a powerful episode from The NICU Heroes Podcast discussing birth trauma especially in NICU stays, and trauma-informed care. The referenced episode of the NICU Heroes Podcast explores emotional support for NICU families and the need for trauma-informed systems. Finally, a loving call-out to the lurkers. Podcasts & Media Mentioned * The Nightmare Upstairs: What Happened to Ty and Bryn? on Hulu Hulu Series Page @Hannahdreyfus on IG [https://www.hulu.com/series/the-nightmare-upstairs-what-happened-to-ty-and-bryn-41186fc2-6d8f-4a56-823e-a492594db7ff?utm_source=chatgpt.com] * The Raw and The Cooked Ep. 213 'Micro Habits; The Tiny Behaviors That Hold Your Home Together' * Atomic Habits by James Clear * The NICU Heroes Podcast S.7 Ep.51 'When Birth Doesn't Go As Planned; A Doula Informed Approach to Trauma' * Mary @TheNICUTranslator @NICUDoulaAcademy @TheNICUTranslatorPodcast Connect With The Show * Instagram: @the33andupclub * Email: 33&upclub@gmail.com [33&upclub@gmail.com]

Weekly Podcast Digest No. 2

Week 2 of the Weekly Podcast Digest (WPD); 'We Don't Have Time for This' Podcast, Ep.: 'I Need a New Podcast!' NICU Heroes Hand to Hold S.7 Ep. 49 - 'Inside the Preemie Microbiome' featuring Dr. Rina Sanghavi NICU Heros Hand to Hold S.7 Ep. 50 'Saving Two Lives in The NICU: Mother's and Babies' featuring Dr. Neel Shah The Podcast by Kevin MD 'No Nurse is Better than a Bad Nurse'

'Learning to Hear Your Body' a conversation with Jess Tims of HER Fertility Support; Infertility Doula; Combining Medicine AND Reconnecting to Our Own Bodily Intuitions

A conversation with Jess Tims of HER Fertility Support; Trigger warning: Infertility, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Find more of Jess @herfertility.support @herfertility.support on instagram, @herfertility.support on YouTube and @herfertility.support onTikTok. You can also hang out with her via her podcast Her Fertility Podcast Check out her website Herfertility.support [https://www.herfertility.support]

Weekly Podcast Digest No.1

This Week on The Weekly Podcast Digest: (1) NICU Heroes Podcast Season 7 Episode 48 (2) NICU Translated 'Season 1 Finale' (3) Call Her Daddy 'Serve C___ and Prevail'