Befriending Death Podcast

Listen: Allowance to Grieve

Read along here [https://lovealekz.substack.com/p/allowance-to-grieve?r=2whimv]. Resources: All art and poetry included my own. Cook, A.S & Oltjenbruns, K. A. (1998) Dying and grieving: Life space and family perspectives. Earl McPeek. Doka, K. (1989) Disenfranchised grief: Recognizing hidden sorrow. Lexington Books. Haig, M. (2013) The Humans. Simon and Schuster. Kwong, E. & O’Connor M. (8 November, 2021) What happens in the brain when we grieve. Short Wave, NPR. https://www.npr.org/transcripts/1052498852 Sas, C. & Coman, A. (2016) Designing personal grief rituals: An analysis of symbolic objects and actions. Death Studies. Get full access to Befriending Death at lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe [https://lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Listen: Grief Exercises for Witnessing Genocide

Read along with the essay here [https://lovealekz.substack.com/p/grief-exercises-for-witnessing-genocide]. Watch Day Schildkret’s video about morning altars here: youtube [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFCX9jPQquQ] Here is my creation:  Resources: Black, A. (2024). (Unpublished Zoom Workshop, Feb. 23, 2024) Milstein, C. (2017). Rebellious Mourning: The Collective Work of Grief. AK Press. Srinivasa, E. (2024). (Unpublished Grief Support Specialist Course Lectures, UW-Madison.) Get full access to Befriending Death at lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe [https://lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Listen: Am I Grieving Right?

I gave up on waiting for a silent room to record, so you can hear my pets living their best life in the background, my apologies. Read along with the essay here [https://lovealekz.substack.com/p/am-i-grieving-right]. Take the grief styles quiz here [https://uquiz.com/quiz/vrfhPV/what-is-your-grief-style?p=6579259]. I’m catching up on posting past essays as podcasts, so there will be an influx of podcasts episodes as I do so. Love, Alekz Resources: Attig, T. (2004). Disenfranchised Grief Revisited: Discounting Hope and Love. OMEGA - Journal of Death and Dying, 49(3), 197-215. Black, A. (2024). (Unpublished Zoom Workshop, Feb. 23, 2024) Buckley, T. et al. (2012) Effect of Early Bereavement on Heart Rate and Heart Rate Variability. The American Journal of Cardiology, Volume 110(9), 1378-1383. Doka, K.J (2017). Grief is a Journey: Finding Your Path Through Loss. New York Atria Paperback. Doka, K.J., Martin, T.L. (2010). Grieving Beyond Gender: Understanding the Ways Men and Women Mourn, Revised Edition. Routledge. hooks, b. (1999). All About Love: New Visions. William Morrow. Rando, T.A. (1984). Grief, Dying, and Death: Clinical Interventions for Caregivers. Champaign, Ill: Research Press Co. Selinger, I. (2021, April 22). What Happens in the Body During Grief. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/22/well/what-happens-in-the-body-during-grief.html Get full access to Befriending Death at lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe [https://lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Listen: Intro-So I'm Writing a Grief Book

Find/read the post itself here [https://lovealekz.substack.com/p/so-im-writing-a-grief-book]. Bear with me as I figure out better recording techniques. Happy listening! Love, Alekz Get full access to Befriending Death at lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe [https://lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Listen: Thwarted Death in Palestine

An audio recording of this essay [https://substack.com/home/post/p-144604965?source=queue], posted on May 15, 2024. Read by the author. Links to the suggested further reading on necropolitics,‘Colonial management of death: To be or not to be dead in Palestine’ (link [https://sci-hub.st/10.1177/0011392120948923]), and ‘Fighting to Bury Their Children: on the Necropolitics of Occupation’. The latter is an essay found in Rebellious Mourning edited by Cindy Milstein, and I think it is so important to read that I will be including a link to a PDF of the pages I have scanned. Find it here [https://drive.google.com/file/d/1rgK16--IOnYhEESMHvkd0SLMSnz_BuET/view?usp=sharing]. References: Alsaafin, L. & Amra, A. (2023, November 3). Mass graves, rushed burials: Funeral rites bypass Gaza dead amid Israel war. Al Jazeera. https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2023/11/3/mass-graves-rushed-burials-funeral-rites-bypass-gaza-dead-amid-israel-war [https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2023/11/3/mass-graves-rushed-burials-funeral-rites-bypass-gaza-dead-amid-israel-war] Corso, A. (2022, October 6). The smell of bare death: Encountering life at the graveyard of Lampedusa. Sage Journals, 23(3) https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/14634996221128104 [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/14634996221128104] Daher-Nashif, S. (2022) Colonial management of death: To be or not to be dead in Palestine. Current Sociology.  https://sci-hub.st/10.1177/0011392120948923 [https://sci-hub.st/10.1177/0011392120948923] Debre, I., Shurafa, W. (2023, October 28). Mass graves, unclaimed bodies and overcrowded cemeteries. The war robs Gaza of funeral rites. AP News. https://apnews.com/article/palestinians-israel-graves-gaza-morgue-dead-9b0349ae914e33492c049430e6649c53 [https://apnews.com/article/palestinians-israel-graves-gaza-morgue-dead-9b0349ae914e33492c049430e6649c53] Foucault, M. (1976). The History of Sexuality: Right of Death and Power over Life. Editions Gallimard, Paris. https://www.scribd.com/document/339327/History-of-sexuality-vol-1 [https://www.scribd.com/document/339327/History-of-sexuality-vol-1] Kong, Y. et al. Issue 3: Bare Life. CMA Journal. 3. https://www.sfu.ca/cmajournal/issues/issue-three--bare-life.html [https://www.sfu.ca/cmajournal/issues/issue-three--bare-life.html] LeWine, H.E. (2023, June 13). Broken-heart syndrome (takotsubo cardiomyopathy). Harvard Health Publishing. https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/takotsubo-cardiomyopathy-broken-heart-syndrome [https://www.health.harvard.edu/heart-health/takotsubo-cardiomyopathy-broken-heart-syndrome] Palitsky, R., Wilson, D.T., Friedman, S.E., Ruiz, J.M., Sullivan, D., O’Connor, M-F. The Relationship of Prolonged Grief Disorder Symptoms With Hemodynamic Response to Grief Recall Among Bereaved Adults. Psychosomatic Medicine 85(6):p 545-550 https://journals.lww.com/psychosomaticmedicine/fulltext/2023/07000/the_relationship_of_prolonged_grief_disorder.11.aspx [https://journals.lww.com/psychosomaticmedicine/fulltext/2023/07000/the_relationship_of_prolonged_grief_disorder.11.aspx] Pappé, I.; Chomsky, N.; Barat, F. (2015) On Palestine. Haymarket Books. https://www.everand.com/book/446836527/On-Palestine [https://www.everand.com/book/446836527/On-Palestine] Reeves, N.C. (2011). Death acceptance through ritual. Routledge. https://sci-hub.st/10.1080/07481187.2011.552056 [https://sci-hub.st/10.1080/07481187.2011.552056] Get full access to Befriending Death at lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe [https://lovealekz.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]