Behind the Filter

Who Do You Think You Are? Reclaiming Your Identity with Kat Perkins

Who do you think you are?" It’s a question most of us answer with our job titles or our family roles, but author and speaker Kat Perkins [https://www.iamkatperkins.com/] says those are often just identities handed to us by someone else. In this powerful follow-up episode, Kat returns to Behind the Filter to discuss the launch of her memoir, Girls With Pearls Have Power [https://www.iamkatperkins.com/book]. She dives deep into framework—Identity Interference, Identity Transference, and Identity Revelation—to explain how trauma and culture shape us before we even have a say in the matter. This isn't just a story of survival; it’s a masterclass in the "Recognition and Permission" required to forgive those who hurt us and finally submit to the extraordinary identity God intended for us. Whether you are battling a "mean spirit" born of protection or struggling to let go of a cross you weren't meant to carry, Kat’s message of being SHE (Sure, Honorable, Extraordinary) and HEM (Honorable, Extraordinary Man) will challenge you to drop the weight and walk in your truth.

After Dark Edition :: Motherhood, Men, and Medical Miracles

In this week’s After Dark edition of Behind the Filter, Ashley is joined by her Netflix Age of Attraction castmate, Michelle Yoswa. Michelle is pulling back the curtain on what it’s really like to be a "baddie" in her 50s navigating a dating pool of younger men. The ladies dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of the show, including the hilarious "big spoon" yoga moment that led to Michelle’s breaking point and the realization that she was being "mommy-zoned" by 26-year-olds. But it’s not all reality TV drama; Michelle shares her incredible, defiance-of-the-odds story of becoming a first-time mother at 40 and 42 after being told by doctors it was medically impossible. Episode Sponsor: Zero FKS [https://zerofks.co/]

After Dark Edition :: What Netflix Didn't Show

The world knows her as the "39-year-old virgin" from Netflix’s Age of Attraction, but there is so much more to Ashley’s story than a viral headline. In this kickoff to our special Age of Attraction After Dark series, we’re peeling back the filters and diving deep into the deleted scenes that finally tell the whole truth. Plus, we introduce our official series sponsor, Zero FKS Drinks [https://zerofks.co/]. We’re talking about how to stay social and present without the sugar, the calories, or the soul-crushing hangover. Zero FKS is the gamechanger you’ve been waiting for.

The Daughter Who Solved Her Mother’s Murder

In this deeply personal and technical episode, we sit down with Megan Tomlinson to discuss a journey that feels like it was written for a true crime script—except it was her reality. Megan spent years teaching herself Open-Source Intelligence (OSINT) to help find missing persons, never realizing she would eventually use those exact tools to solve her own mother’s murder. We also pull back the curtain on the Hailey Buzbee case. Megan shares her involvement in the search for Hailey and the legislative push for Hailey's Law. We discuss the terrifying reality of digital grooming, why "runaway" labels are costing children their lives, and what parents need to know about the shift toward encrypted messaging apps.

After Dark Edition :: Spilling Reality Tea at 3UP

The filter is coming all the way off! This week, Johnette and Ashley took the podcast on the road to the award-winning 3UP Rooftop Lounge [https://3uprooftop.com/] in Carmel, Indiana. Joining the table is the hilariously unfiltered Erin from the Netflix hit show Age of Attraction. The ladies dive deep into why women often feel the need to "tone it down" for men, the hilarious "grandpa words" that kill the mood instantly, and the powerful therapy session that changed Erin’s life forever. Whether you’re navigating the dating apps, recovering from "church hurt," or just looking for the best rooftop vibe in Indy, this episode is your ultimate girls' night out.