Carla Turned On

You Think Playing Hard to Get Works, But It's Why You're Still Single

Still following dating "rules" that leave you confused, disconnected, or ghosted? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down the biggest dating myths—from playing hard to get to overthinking texting—and why they're actually hurting your chances at real connection. She explains why authentic communication beats game-playing every time and how small shifts can completely change your dating experience. Carla also gets into the details of kissing and intimacy, sharing practical ways to build attraction, confidence, and emotional connection. Plus, she covers timing around sex and attachment styles, helping you better understand your patterns in dating. What You'll Learn * Playing games creates confusion, not connection * Authentic communication builds trust and attraction * Overthinking texting can push people away * Kissing is about presence, not perfection * Timing of sex should align with your values and comfort * Understanding attachment styles improves dating outcomes Work with me: 1:1 Coaching program [https://carlaromo.com/coaching-options/] Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingama/] Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingprofile/] Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide [https://carlaromo.com/swipe-match-spark-course/] No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs [https://carlaromo.com/no-filter-guide-landing/] Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689772239] Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Instagram: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo] Youtube: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo] FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions [https://carlaromo.myflodesk.com/20best] Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites * "Stop waiting to text back, be authentic" * "Ask for a kiss, it's okay and confident" * "Don't forget your chapstick, happy kissing" Chapters 02:33 – Stop Taking This Dating Advice—It's Why You're Still Single 16:32 – What Makes a Good Kiss Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why You Keep Settling in Dating (Even When You Know Better)

You've heard "love yourself first"—but what does that actually mean in dating? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down self-love as a daily practice, not a destination, and how your relationship with yourself directly shapes who you choose and how you show up in love. She challenges common myths around self-worth and explains why lack of self-love leads to unhealthy patterns in dating. Carla also opens up the conversation around sexuality and masturbation, unpacking shame, conditioning, and how self-exploration can deepen confidence, intimacy, and connection. What You'll Learn * Self-love is a daily practice, not a one-time achievement * Your self-worth shapes your dating choices and relationship patterns * Lack of self-love can lead to settling or unhealthy dynamics * Self-awareness and self-care improve relationship quality * Masturbation is a healthy way to understand your needs and preferences * Shame around sexuality is learned—and can be unlearned Work with me: 1:1 Coaching program [https://carlaromo.com/coaching-options/] Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingama/] Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingprofile/] Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide [https://carlaromo.com/swipe-match-spark-course/] No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs [https://carlaromo.com/no-filter-guide-landing/] Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689772239] Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Instagram: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo] Youtube: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo] FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions [https://carlaromo.myflodesk.com/20best] Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites * "You are worthy of love and respect" * "Show up for yourself every day" * "Embrace your sexuality without shame" Chapters 02:50 – Self-Love Isn't Cute — It's Why You Keep Picking the Wrong People 15:15 – You Feel Shame After Masturbating? That's Not Normal — It's Conditioning Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

Why you're Losing Yourself in Relationships

Do you feel like you lose yourself in relationships or struggle to set boundaries? In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down codependency, how it shows up in your relationships and sex life, and why so many people don't even realize they're stuck in it. She shares how childhood patterns shape your behavior, why overgiving leads to burnout, and what it actually takes to build self-worth and emotional independence. Carla also dives into boundaries as self-care, how to stop people-pleasing, and practical ways to start choosing yourself without guilt. What You'll Learn * Codependency is common and often rooted in early experiences * Losing yourself in relationships is a key sign of codependency * Boundaries are essential for self-respect and emotional health * Overgiving leads to burnout, not better relationships * Self-awareness is the first step to change * Building your own life (hobbies, self-care) breaks the cycle Work with me: 1:1 Coaching program [https://carlaromo.com/coaching-options/] Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingama/] Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingprofile/] Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide [https://carlaromo.com/swipe-match-spark-course/] No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs [https://carlaromo.com/no-filter-guide-landing/] Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689772239] Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Instagram: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo] Youtube: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo] FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions [https://carlaromo.myflodesk.com/20best] Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites * "Up to 90% of us are codependent." * "Codependency is toxic manipulation." * "Boundaries are 110% self-care." Chapters 02:07 – You're Not 'Needy' — You're Codependent (And It's Killing Your Dating Life) 17:30 – If You're Having Sex Without Boundaries… It's Not Chemistry — It's Codependency Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

The 7 Secrets to Healthy Conflict Resolution in Love

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but how you handle it determines whether your relationship grows or breaks down. In this episode, Carla Romo shares practical tools for conflict resolution, emotional safety, and healthy communication. She explains how to pause escalation, take accountability, and repair disconnection in a way that builds trust instead of resentment. Carla also dives into sexual communication, breaking down how to have honest conversations about intimacy and navigate the natural ebbs and flows of sex in long-term relationships. This episode is your guide to creating a relationship rooted in trust, respect, and deeper connection. What You'll Learn * Conflict is normal. Repair is what matters most * Pause escalation and set boundaries during arguments * Take accountability instead of blaming your partner * Use active listening and "I" statements * Reconnect after conflict to rebuild trust * Open communication is key to healthy sexual intimacy Work with me: 1:1 Coaching program [https://carlaromo.com/coaching-options/] Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingama/] Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingprofile/] Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide [https://carlaromo.com/swipe-match-spark-course/] No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs [https://carlaromo.com/no-filter-guide-landing/] Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689772239] Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Instagram: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo] Youtube: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo] FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions [https://carlaromo.myflodesk.com/20best] Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites * "Pause escalation to prevent toxicity." * "Own your part, practice accountability." * "Normalize the ebbs and flows of sex." Chapters 02:37 – How to Move Through Conflict and Actually Repair 13:47 – How to Discuss Problems in Sex Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.

6 Signs Your Relationship Is Headed for Marriage

How do you know if your relationship is truly headed toward marriage? In this episode, Carla Romo shares expert insights on relationship readiness, breaking down the key signs that indicate long-term compatibility. From core values and emotional safety to conflict resolution and communication, she explains what actually matters in building a lasting partnership. Carla also dives into open conversations about sex, vulnerability, and trust—highlighting how these often-avoided topics play a crucial role in healthy, long-term love. If you're questioning your relationship or looking to build something that lasts, this episode offers practical, honest guidance. What You'll Learn * Shared core values are essential for long-term compatibility * Emotional safety creates a strong foundation for love * Conflict reveals how healthy a relationship truly is * Open communication (including about sex) is crucial * Vulnerability builds trust and deeper connection * Playfulness helps sustain long-term relationships Work with me: 1:1 Coaching program [https://carlaromo.com/coaching-options/] Ask Me Anything - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingama/] Dating Profile Makeover - 30 Min Session [https://carlaromo.com/coachingprofile/] Proven Dating Courses: Swipe Match Spark: The Ultimate Dating App Guide [https://carlaromo.com/swipe-match-spark-course/] No Filter: The Sex Guide Every Dater Needs [https://carlaromo.com/no-filter-guide-landing/] Book: Contagious Love: Break Free From Codependency for Damn Good [https://www.amazon.com/dp/1689772239] Tiktok: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcarlaromo?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc] Instagram: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.instagram.com/iamcarlaromo] Youtube: @iamcarlaromo [https://www.youtube.com/c/CarlaRomo] FREEBIE: 20 Best First and Second Date Questions [https://carlaromo.myflodesk.com/20best] Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites * "Hard moments reveal true partnership." * "Playfulness keeps love alive." * "Shared core values are non-negotiable." Chapters 01:54 – Signs Your Relationship Is Headed Toward Marriage 19:43 – Sex Questions Couples Are Too Afraid to Ask Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.