How to Solve Any Problem

How to Solve Any Problem

You've been trying to fix the wrong thing. If you're in the empty nest season and you feel stuck, lost, disconnected from your adult kids, or like you don't even know who you are anymore, you've probably been looking for the answer out there somewhere. A new routine. A new circumstance. Waiting for something to change. But what if every single problem you have, every relationship struggle, every identity question, every bout of loneliness or purposelessness, is actually the same kind of problem underneath? And what if there was one tool that worked on all of them? In this episode, I'm teaching you the five-part model I use in every single coaching session. It was developed by Brooke Castillo of The Life Coach School and taught to me by my mentor Jody Moore, and it is the most powerful tool I know for empty nest reinvention, midlife identity shifts, and getting unstuck at any stage of this transition. Here's what you'll learn: How to separate facts from the stories your brain adds on top of them, and why that one skill changes everything. Why your lower brain is running your life on default and how to finally see the thoughts that have been quietly creating your reality. The real reason willpower doesn't work long term and what to do instead. Why your feelings are not the enemy, and what happens in your body when you keep pushing them down. How your behaviors and your results are always connected back to one thing: what you're thinking. I also share my own real story of when my youngest daughter moved out, the painful thought I didn't even know I was thinking, and how that one thought was creating a reality I didn't want. Including what it did to my body. The knee story is real and you need to hear it. This episode is for you if you're an empty nester asking "now what?", a mom in her last years before the kids leave wondering how to prepare, or a woman in midlife who is ready to stop circling and actually start building what comes next. All problems are thought problems. And that is the best news you'll hear all week. 🌿 START HERE If the kids have left and you're sitting with that quiet question of "Now what?" take the "Who Am I After the Kids Leave?" quiz. In about five minutes, you'll have more clarity on this season than you've had in months.👉 marianneiverson.com/quiz 📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START? You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll get clear on what this season is really asking of you and map out your first real step forward. Not someday. Now.👉 marianneiverson.com/call

Permission to Want More: One Woman’s Fascinating Story of Waking Up After the Kids Left- Part 2

What if the thing standing between you and your next chapter isn't laziness or fear or even not knowing what you want? What if it's just that nobody ever gave you permission to want it? In Part 2 of this conversation with Maureen Mehr, we go deeper. Maureen is the president of the nonprofit Who I Really Am, a singer-songwriter, a grandmother of five, and a woman who spent years learning what it means to stop living small and start showing up fully for herself without walking away from the people she loves most. This is the conversation for the woman who is starting to wonder if faith and ambition can coexist. They can. And Maureen shows you exactly what that looks like. In this episode, we talk about: * Why showing up for yourself actually makes you a better mom, not a selfish one * The moment God nudged her back to herself during a season of real health struggles * How she shifted from fear to faith when she couldn't see what was ahead * What the "let them" mindset did for her relationships with her adult kids * Why co-creating your life with God has been the real secret to everything she's built * How to keep moving forward when you don't have the how figured out yet * What Maureen believes is still ahead for her, including a concert at the scale of the Delta Center * The one thing she wants every empty nest mom to know about beauty and becoming This episode will leave you feeling seen, less alone, and genuinely excited about what's still possible for you in this season. This is part of the series: How to Stop Living Through Your Kids and Start Living Your Own Life. 🌿 START HEREIf the kids have left and you're sitting with that quiet question of "Now what?" take the "Who Am I After the Kids Leave?" quiz. In about five minutes, you'll have more clarity on this season than you've had in months.👉 marianneiverson.com/quiz 📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START?You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll get clear on what this season is really asking of you and map out your first real step forward. Not someday. Now.👉 marianneiverson.com/call

Permission to Want More: One Woman's Fascinating Story of Waking Up After the Kids Left- Part 1

What happens when the kids leave and you realize you've been living everyone else's life but your own? If you're in the empty nest season and you've been sitting with that quiet, uncomfortable question of "who am I now?" -- you are not alone. And you are not too late. In this episode, I sit down with my neighbor and friend Maureen Mehr, president of the nonprofit Who I Really Am, singer-songwriter, and woman who spent decades quietly putting her own life up on a shelf while she raised her family. She didn't even realize she'd done it until the kids were gone and the house got quiet. What finally cracked her open? A phone call from her son. He was moving to Kansas City and taking her grandkids with him. She hung up the phone and fell apart. And then she grabbed her laptop and started figuring out what was next. What followed was a graduate degree, international nonprofit work, a music career, and a life she's finally living on her own terms. In this first part of our conversation, we talk about: * What the empty nest transition actually feels like when it hits you out of nowhere * How women slowly disappear into motherhood one small sacrifice at a time * Why so many of us can't answer the question "what do YOU want?" without referencing our kids * The stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck in the supporting role of everyone else's life * What it means to finally get comfortable not having all the answers * Why alignment feels completely different from pushing and forcing This episode is for the woman who loves her kids fiercely AND suspects there's more for her too. You don't have to choose. That's the whole point. This is part of our series: How to Stop Living Through Your Kids and Start Living Your Own Life. 🌿 START HEREIf the kids have left and you're sitting with that quiet question of "Now what?" -- take the "Who Am I After the Kids Leave?" quiz. In about five minutes, you'll have more clarity on this season than you've had in months.👉 marianneiverson.com/quiz 📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START?You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll get clear on what this season is really asking of you and map out your first real step forward. Not someday. Now.👉 marianneiverson.com/call

Eye-opening Advice about "Firsts and Lasts"

The last school lunch you packed. The last time you're the first number they call. The last time someone's practice schedule tells you what the week looks like. Those lasts are yours too, and they deserve to be felt. But here's what nobody talks about: after all that busy evaporates and the house goes quiet, a lot of women stand in the middle of it and think something is wrong with them. The fog. The "I don't know who I am outside of this role" feeling. The sense that their best years are behind them. They're not broken. They're in the cocoon. In this episode, you'll get a completely different frame for this season. Not as something ending, but as something beginning. For you. On purpose. Here's what we cover: Why YOUR lasts matter just as much as theirs, and how to start honoring them The caterpillar metaphor that reframes the lost, foggy feeling so many empty nesters carry Why the empty nest isn't fall. It's spring. And what that means for what's coming next for you The pickleball story that is six words of pure permission Three things you can do today to start collecting your own firsts If you're a mom whose kids are grown or almost grown, and you can feel that shift coming but don't know yet who you're becoming, this episode is for you. START HERE If the kids have left and you're sitting with that quiet question of "Now what?" — take the "Who Am I After the Kids Leave?" quiz. In about five minutes, you'll have more clarity on this season than you've had in months. 👉 marianneiverson.com/quiz [https://www.marianneiverson.com/quiz] 📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START? You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll get clear on what this season is really asking of you and map out your first real step forward. Not someday. Now. 👉 marianneiverson.com/call [https://marianneiverson.com/call] Keywords: empty nest transition, empty nester identity, life after kids leave home, who am I after my kids leave, empty nest depression, rediscovering yourself after motherhood, midlife reinvention, purpose after 50, life coach for empty nesters, women over 45, next chapter after kids, empty nest emotions, finding yourself again, mom identity loss, life coach for moms

The Truth About Losing Your Purpose

The house is quiet… but no one talks about what happens inside of you. You thought you’d feel relief when the kids moved out. More time. More freedom. Maybe even a little excitement. Instead… you feel lost. Like something important disappeared...and you can’t quite name it. In this episode, we’re talking about the part of the empty nest that catches so many women off guard: the loss of purpose after motherhood. Not just missing your kids… but missing the version of you who always knew what mattered that day. If you’ve been Googling things like: * “Why do I feel lost after my kids leave?” * “Empty nest syndrome and identity loss” * “How to find purpose after kids move out” * “Who am I now that I’m not needed the same way?” …this episode is for you. We’re getting honest about: ✔ Why the emptiness isn’t just about your kids ✔ The hidden grief of losing your everyday purpose ✔ Why the best moms often feel this the hardest ✔ The difference between staying busy and actually feeling fulfilled ✔ One simple way to start finding yourself again today This is your Reflect moment. Not to fix it. Not to rush past it. But to finally name what’s really going on...so you can begin to reclaim what’s next. Because nothing has gone wrong with you. You’re not broken. You’re in the space between who you were… and who you’re becoming. And there is a way forward. 💛 If this episode hits home, take the next step: 🌿 START HERE If the kids have left and you're sitting with that quiet question of "Now what?" — take the "Who Am I After the Kids Leave?" quiz. In about five minutes, you'll have more clarity on this season than you've had in months. 👉 marianneiverson.com/quiz [https://www.marianneiverson.com/quiz] 📞 READY TO STOP CIRCLING AND ACTUALLY START? You've been thinking about this long enough. On a free Next Chapter Jumpstart Call, we'll get clear on what this season is really asking of you and map out your first real step forward. Not someday. Now. 👉 marianneiverson.com/call [https://marianneiverson.com/call]